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15 Self Help Books To Make You Live A Greater Life

15 Self Help Books To Make You Live A Greater Life

“A good book is an education of the heart. It enlarges your sense of human possibility what human nature is of what happens in the world. It’s a creator of inwardness.” Susan Sontag

To embark on a journey to live a great life is a courageous and life long journey. It is very difficult to do it alone and if you don’t have help, the chances of you reaching your goal to live a great life is virtually impossible.

Self Help books are the best way for you to get the knowledge, information, tools and strategies to guide and support you to achieving your goal to live a great life.

These 15 Self Help Books have changed millions of peoples lives and they can help you change your life too, so that you can live the life you desire.

1. Awaken The Giant Within – Anthony Robbins

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Anthony Robbins

    “in life, lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know.” Anthony Robbins

    This book is the “bible for personal development”. The main message from the book is, that we have the power right now to control how we think, how we feel, and what we do. Anything we want or desire in our life, we have the power to achieve it.

    You hold within you the power and the energy force to achieve all of your dreams – hence the title of the book “Awaken the Giant Within”.

    2. Finding Your Own North Star – Martha Beck

    ““No one but you has the ability to find your own North Star and no one but you has the power to keep you from finding it. No one”

    Martha Beck

    North Star

      Your North Star is about you finding your passion and purpose in life. The tools and strategies are practical and uncomplicated. Martha Beck takes you through some very simple and effective processes  that will give you clarity and a better understanding of how to deal with internal conflict, internal dialogue and the feelings of unhappiness, discontent and dissatisfaction in your life.

      3. Mojo: How To Get It How To Keep It How To Get It Back If You Lose It – Marshall Goldsmith

      “Mojo” is, “That positive spirit toward what we are doing now, that starts from the inside and radiates to the outside”  Marshall Goldsmith

      Mojo

        I found my MOJO when I read this book. Marshall Goldsmith, for me, did exactly what the title says – he guided me through practical steps and provided me with tools and strategies that helped me get my mojo back.

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        Marshall Goldsmith defines Mojo as “the moment when we do something that’s purposeful, powerful and positive and rest of the world recognises it”.  A must read book that will change your life as it did mine.

        4. What Should I Do With My Life? – Po Bronson

        “I learned that it was in hard times that people usually changed the course of their life; in good times, they frequently only talked about change. Hard times forced them to overcome the doubts that normally gave them pause.It surprised me how often we hold ourselves back until we have no choice.”  Po Bronson

        Po Bronson

          This book is not going to give you the five steps to finding your Life Purpose or to living a greater life. It does not give you any tools or strategies to help you answer all those questions about life that are swirling around in your head.

          This book will provide you with a reality check as to how tough and complicated it can be when you decide to change your career and your life. It is an inspirational book as it is based on the true stories of ordinary people who made a decision and took action to answer the question “what should I do with my life?” There are no famous peoples’ stories in this book,  just ordinary people doing extraordinary things.

          5. The Magic of Thinking Big: Dr David J Schwartz PhD

          “Think you are weak, think you lack what it takes, think you will lose, think you are second class – think this way and you are doomed to mediocrity.”  Dr David J Schwartz

          Magic of Thinking BIg

            This book is an oldie and a classic. According to Dr Schwartz, to create change in your life and to attain all that you desire the key thing you need to do is, change your thinking and your attitude.

            The other key message from this book is, you must start preparing your mind and your thinking for the journey of personal change. If you are going to run a marathon, you need to train and get your body in shape. This is the same concept for taking on the challenge of personal change. If you want to chase your dreams you need to train your mind to dream big.

            6. The Art of Happiness A Handbook For Living – Dalai Lama

            “happiness is determined more by one’s state of mind than by external events.” Dalai Lama

            Dalai Lama

              There is not a person I know who is not in the pursuit of happiness. The Art of Happiness is a book that does not give you the answers you seek as to how you can live a happy and prosperous life. What the book does however do, is it introduces you to Buddhist teachings and the wisdom of the Dalai Lama, who lives a life that is content, happy, and spiritually fulfilled. There is no better way to learn about how to get happiness and fulfilment than from someone who is actually practising what they teach.

              The Art of Happiness is a book that will encourage you to self reflect and to look deeper into your inner self (your soul) so that you can truly clarify what happiness really means to you.

               7.   The Gifts of Imperfection Brené – Brown

              “Healthy striving is self-focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think? Perfectionism is a hustle.”

              Brené Brown

              Gift of Imperfection

                Renee Brown’s Book the Gift of Imperfection will show you how to find your courage, rediscover your self-belief and self worth.  For without these key essentials you wont be able to have a greater life. The Gift of Imperfection is about the lifelong journey.

                This book takes you from the place where you are asking the question: “What will people think?” to the place where you are making the statement “I am enough”.

                8. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life – Martin Seligman PhD 

                “Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals can choose the way they think.”  Martin Seligman

                Martin Seligman

                  Dr Martin Seligman is Dr Happiness! He is an expert on how one can live a happy and fulfilled life. In his book Martin Seligman talks about the power of being an optimist and uses scientific reasons as to why you should be living an Optimistic Life.

                  Seligman believes that Optimism and Pessimism are habits of thinking and these habits of thinking have been learned through out our lives. We just need to learn how to change these habits of thinking so that we can live happier more fulfilled lives. There is hope for you, if you have a pessimistic view of life, as Dr Seligman will teach you how to be an Optimist.

                  9. If Life Is A Game These Are Rules – Cherie Carter Scott

                  “Remind yourself often that self-esteem is ephemeral. You will have it, lose it, cultivate it, nurture it, and be forced to rebuild it over and over again.”  Cherie Carter Scott

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                  If Life is Game there are Rules

                    Have you ever wondered what the heck is going on in your life or asked the question “ why does this happen to me?” If so, then you need to read this book by Cherie Carter Scott. Cherie Carter Scott presents a set of life rules that she calls “The 10 Rules of Being Human’.  This book is a reality check about how you should be living your life.  After you have read this book you will gain more clarity about  you, how to move in forward in your life and how play the game of life, which of course will result in you living a great life.

                    9. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People – Steven R. Covey

                    “Habit is the intersection of knowledge (what to do), skill (how to do), and desire (want to do).” Stephen R.Covey

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                      “Each of us guard a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside.”  Stephen R Covey

                      Have you ever wondered why it is that some people are very good at getting things done?  Do you go looking for excuses to be distracted rather than sit down and get those essential tasks completed? The road to living a great life takes a lot of effort, commitment and focus. Distraction and procrastination will not get you a life you love.

                      Stephen Covey will show you how to become more effective at completing those essential tasks that can change your life. The 7 Habits are the winning strategies you should implement in your life so that you can live the life you desire.

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                      10. The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz

                      “Every human is an artist. The dream of your life is to make beautiful art.”  Don Miguel Ruiz

                      Four  Agreements

                        Seeking the advice and knowledge of others, particularly those who had been on similar journeys. is essential to you staying strong and committed to living a great life.

                        Don Miguel Ruiz is one person I sought out – his depth of wisdom, his spirituality and knowledge about life is insightful and inspiring. The Four Agreements are Don Miguel’s code for life. The Four Agreements provide an inspirational code for life, for the way you handle your relationships, how you behave and how you communicate with others.

                        If you are seeking inspiration and knowledge to find your courage to follow your dreams – then read The Four Agreements. You will discover four life principles that will definitely help you reach your dreams and aspirations in life.

                        11. Switch How To Change Things When Change Is Hard – Chip Heath & Dan Heath

                        “So the question is this: How can you make your changes a matter of identity rather than a matter of consequences?” Chip & Dan Heath

                        Switch

                          To live a great life you have to make changes and they are big changes. If I had to recommend one book that showed you how to create and maintain lasting change in your life  – then it would be Switch.

                          The best way to create and sustain the change in your life according to the authors is when you:

                          Direct The Rider – by providing rules to follow, precise actions with small measurable goals

                          Motivate The Elephant – identify the motivation to change or an emotional rationale for change

                          Shape the Path – set the direction and shape the path to facilitate the journey of change

                          When you get these 3 elements aligned then creating and sustaining the change in your life is pretty much guaranteed,

                          12. The Success Principles: How to Get From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be – Jack Canfield

                          “You only have control over three things in your life—the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take (your behaviour).”  Jack Canfield

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                            This book offers practical advice on how to change those attitudes and beliefs that are preventing you from achieving your success in life. It shows you how to harness the resources you have within you and around you so that you can achieve any of the goals you set.

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                            13. Life Was Never Meant To Be A Struggle – Stuart Wilde

                            “You’re the only one who can decide what’s best for you.” Stuart Wilde

                            Life was

                              Stuart Wilde believes that the struggles in life are “laced with emotion and desperation” and we were born to be free. To achieve that freedom we have to move from struggle to free FLOW.

                              This book will help you to identify the cause of struggle in your life and shows you how to eliminate it quickly through a concerted action plan so you can achieve flow in your life.

                              14. The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle

                              “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life”. Eckhart Tolle

                              power of now

                                “See if you can give more attention to the doing than to the results that you want to achieve through it. Give your fullest attention to whatever the moment presents” Eckhart Tolle

                                The Power of Now I call the 101 guide to spiritual growth and enlightenment.  This book has great tools and strategies for those of you who are interested in; mindfulness, awareness and the quest to achieving living a life you love in the now!

                                15. Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill

                                “You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.”  Napoleon Hill

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                                  Napoleon Hill wrote Think and Grow Rich to help people overcome the physiological barriers that kept them from wealth.

                                  According to Napoleon Hill money brings us stability, which brings relief to our life, which results in us feeling a sense of satisfaction and when we feel satisfied we have a sense of belonging –this does make us happy. When we are happy we are living a great life.

                                  Napoleon Hill believes that key requirements to create wealth in your life are; self-belief, self-awareness, the motivation to succeed, direction, focus and a positive healthy relationship with money.

                                  Reading these 15 Self Help books will not give you the one and only ultimate answer you may seek as to how you can make a great life. They will, however give you advise, wisdom, knowledge, and the tools and strategies that will support and guide you on your journey to living a great life.

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                                  How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

                                  How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

                                  Habits are hard to kill, and rightly so. They are a part and parcel of your personality traits and mold your character.

                                  However, habits are not always something over-the-top and quirky enough to get noticed. Think of subtle habits like tapping fingers when you are nervous and humming songs while you drive. These are nothing but ingrained habits that you may not realize easily.

                                  Just take a few minutes and think of something specific that you do all the time. You will notice how it has become a habit for you without any explicit realization. Everything you do on a daily basis starting with your morning routine, lunch preferences to exercise routines are all habits.

                                  Habits mostly form from life experiences and certain observed behaviors, not all of them are healthy. Habitual smoking can be dangerous to your health. Similarly, a habit could also make you lose out on enjoying something to its best – like how some people just cannot stop swaying their bodies when delivering a speech.

                                  Thus, there could be a few habits that you would want to change about yourself. But changing habits is not as easy as it seems, why?

                                  What Makes It Hard To Change A Habit?

                                  To want to change a particular habit means to change something very fundamental about your behavior.[1] Hence, it’s necessary to understand how habits actually form and why they are so difficult to actually get out of.

                                  The Biology

                                  Habits form in a place what we call the subconscious mind in our brain.[2]

                                  Our brains have two modes of operation. The first one is an automatic pilot kind of system that is fast and works on reflexes often. It is what we call the subconscious part. This is the part that is associated with everything that comes naturally to you.

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                                  The second mode is the conscious mode where every action and decision is well thought out and follows a controlled way of thinking.

                                  A fine example to distinguish both would be to consider yourself learning to drive or play an instrument. For the first time you try learning, you think before every movement you make. But once you have got the hang of it, you might drive without applying much thought into it.

                                  Both systems work together in our brains at all times. When a habit is formed, it moves from the conscious part to the subconscious making it difficult to control.

                                  So, the key idea in deconstructing a habit is to go from the subconscious to the conscious.

                                  Another thing you have to understand about habits is that they can be conscious or hidden.

                                  Conscious habits are those that require active input from your side. For instance, if you stop setting your alarm in the morning, you will stop waking up at the same time.

                                  Hidden habits, on the other hand, are habits that we do without realizing. These make up the majority of our habits and we wouldn’t even know them until someone pointed them out. So the first difficulty in breaking these habits is to actually identify them. As they are internalized, they need a lot of attention to detail for self-identification. That’s not all.

                                  Habits can be physical, social, and mental, energy-based and even be particular to productivity. Understanding them is necessary to know why they are difficult to break and what can be done about them.

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                                  The Psychology

                                  Habits get engraved into our memories depending on the way we think, feel and act over a particular period of time. The procedural part of memory deals with habit formation and studies have observed that various types of conditioning of behavior could affect your habit formations.

                                  Classical conditioning or pavlovian conditioning is when you start associating a memory with reality.[3] A dog that associates ringing bell to food will start salivating. The same external stimuli such as the sound of church bells can make a person want to pray.

                                  Operant conditioning is when experience and the feelings associated with it form a habit.[4] By encouraging or discouraging an act, individuals could either make it a habit or stop doing it.

                                  Observational learning is another way habits could take form. A child may start walking the same way their parent does.

                                  What Can You Do To Change a Habit?

                                  Sure, habits are hard to control but it is not impossible. With a few tips and hard-driven dedication, you can surely get over your nasty habits.

                                  Here are some ways that make use of psychological findings to help you:

                                  1. Identify Your Habits

                                  As mentioned earlier, habits can be quite subtle and hidden from your view. You have to bring your subconscious habits to an aware state of mind. You could do it by self-observation or by asking your friends or family to point out the habit for your sake.

                                  2. Find out the Impact of Your Habit

                                  Every habit produces an effect – either physical or mental. Find out what exactly it is doing to you. Does it help you relieve stress or does it give you some pain relief?

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                                  It could be anything simple. Sometimes biting your nails could be calming your nerves. Understanding the effect of a habit is necessary to control it.

                                  3. Apply Logic

                                  You don’t need to be force-fed with wisdom and advice to know what an unhealthy habit could do to you.

                                  Late-night binge-watching just before an important presentation is not going to help you. Take a moment and apply your own wisdom and logic to control your seemingly nastily habits.

                                  4. Choose an Alternative

                                  As I said, every habit induces some feeling. So, it could be quite difficult to get over it unless you find something else that can replace it. It can be a simple non-harming new habit that you can cultivate to get over a bad habit.

                                  Say you have the habit of banging your head hard when you are angry. That’s going to be bad for you. Instead, the next time you are angry, just take a deep breath and count to 10. Or maybe start imagining yourself on a luxury yacht. Just think of something that will work for you.

                                  5. Remove Triggers

                                  Get rid of items and situations that can trigger your bad habit.

                                  Stay away from smoke breaks if you are trying to quit it. Remove all those candy bars from the fridge if you want to control your sweet cravings.

                                  6. Visualize Change

                                  Our brains can be trained to forget a habit if we start visualizing the change. Serious visualization is retained and helps as a motivator in breaking the habit loop.

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                                  For instance, to replace your habit of waking up late, visualize yourself waking up early and enjoying the early morning jog every day. By continuing this, you would naturally feel better to wake up early and do your new hobby.

                                  7. Avoid Negative Talks and Thinking

                                  Just as how our brain is trained to accept a change in habit, continuous negative talk and thinking could hamper your efforts put into breaking a habit.

                                  Believe you can get out of it and assert yourself the same.

                                  Final Thoughts

                                  Changing habits isn’t easy, so do not expect an overnight change!

                                  Habits took a long time to form. It could take a while to completely break out of it. You will have to accept that sometimes you may falter in your efforts. Don’t let negativity seep in when it seems hard. Keep going at it slowly and steadily.

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