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Three Ways You’re Annoying Your Subordinates

Three Ways You’re Annoying Your Subordinates

As a project manager, I’m in a rather unique position when it comes to observing the dynamics of how people interact with each other on a team. I get to see what annoys the workers about the boss, and vice-versa. And the thing is, I notice the same incidents happening over and over again, across teams and industries, which leads me to believe that they’re common human problems, not specific to any one person. Of course, if you knew you were annoying people, you wouldn’t be doing it. So without further ado, here’s three ways you’re annoying your subordinates, and how to fix them. 

Unclear communication

What you’re doing:

This is easily the most common problem that comes up in teamwork, outsourcing, and delegating. Everyone is guilty of it from time to time–including myself! It’s incredibly easy to forget that not everyone else lives in your head and knows what you know. When you get frustrated because something isn’t done right, go back to the original communication (in your head, if you have to) and ask yourself how clear it was what they needed to do. Oftentimes, what happens is that we think we’re clear, and they think they’re clear, but our definition of clear and their definition of clear are two entirely different things.

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What you should do instead:

Obviously, you shouldn’t talk to anyone on your team like they’re an idiot. That said, when you write out instructions or give them verbally, you need to review the instructions and ask yourself: is this stated so simply that a random person off the street could understand what I mean? If not, you might want to think about redoing your instructions. It’s better for something to be stated too simply than be stated vaguely and risk things not being done correctly.

Devaluing their work

What you’re doing:

Nobody likes to feel like their work isn’t important. And most of the time, people don’t set out to intentionally devalue others’ work. But when you only see the end result of someone else’s work, it can be easy to assume that it didn’t take them that long or that it’s simple, and when you have that attitude, it’s going to come through in your communications and make your team members feel unimportant. Another way you might be unintentionally devaluing someone else’s work is by treating them like a lackey and giving them jobs that are far below their skill set–an extreme example of this would be sending someone to get coffee when their job is programming and coding.

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The last but potentially most annoying way you might be devaluing someone’s work is by devaluing their input. There’s not much that annoys a service provider more than someone asking for their opinion, the service provider taking the time and effort to put together an educated response, and then their educated response being ignored entirely.

What you should do instead:

These are all simple solutions:

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  • Go out of your way to express appreciation for the work of your teammates and subordinates, especially when a job is well done. (For bonus points, try and learn a little bit of what they actually did to get the work done–you’ll probably appreciate it even more after that.)
  • Make sure you don’t fall into the bad habit of treating people like lackeys or giving them work far beneath them.
  • Don’t ask for someone’s input if you aren’t interested in actually hearing it and making an informed decision based off of it and the other resources available to you.

Interrupting their work

What you’re doing:

One bad habit that teams get into all too often is dealing with things as they come up. This looks like:

  1. Something comes up that needs to be addressed quickly.
  2. An email gets sent out to team members telling them to drop everything and work on this problem ASAP.
  3. Team members drop what they’re doing and work on the emergency item.
  4. Since team members keep delaying the work they should be working on, the cycle continues – their delayed work sets up another emergency for next week.

This also shows up as calling them repeatedly during the workday without warning, or stopping by their office without warning (if you all work in the same office).

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What you should do instead:

The best way to deal with this problem is to set up workflow and communication systems so that there’s no reason anyone would need to have their workday interrupted with fires to put out. Once you set up those preventative measures, then it’s time to set and enforce new work boundaries–for example, no unexpected calls or office drop-ins between the hours of 10 AM and 4 PM. People need uninterrupted work time to get into the flow state, which is where the best quality work is created (and created more quickly!), but they can’t do that if fires are consistently springing up or they’re being interrupted on a regular basis.

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Last Updated on July 2, 2020

13 Common Life Problems And How To Fix Them

13 Common Life Problems And How To Fix Them

In life, we encounter problems as we breathe. But it doesn’t get to us until we feel a major impact, and that’s when it becomes a source of concern, hurt, or sorrow.

Life problems, depending on their magnitude, can be clogs in the wheel of progress, and we may not be able to attain our full potential if we don’t learn to place our problems in the proper perspectives as suggested in Robert Schuller’s Tough Times Never Last.

In this article, I have identified some common areas where you will most likely face problems as you make progress towards reaching your full life potential. I have also suggested practical approaches in handling, managing, and solving such problems.

1. Financial Crisis

We live in an uncertain world and a financial crisis may come at different stages of life. While you should always anticipate and prepare for a financial crisis, it may still catch you off guard or the magnitude may be far more than any preparation you have made over the years.

It could be that you lost your job or a major investment, got slammed with a lawsuit that threatens your savings, or have your livelihood be affected by a major disaster. So what do you do when you are in a financial mess?

Solution

To overcome a financial crisis, you will have to come to terms with the crisis. Acknowledge and accept the situation and begin recovery by setting your financial priorities right.

The next thing to do is to identify the cause of the crisis. If it’s due to a job loss, then your effort should be directed at getting a new job. If it is having multiple debts, look for ways to consolidate your debt so that your monthly debt repayment can be consolidated into one instead of being burdened with multiple payments.

You can also sell some of your assets to raise money to save the situation, or look for a better job if you are earning less at your current job. Don’t hesitate to ask for help from family and friends if you need to.

2. Health Crisis

Another major problem that might come up in your life is a health crisis. This is not far-fetched because our body systems work round-the-clock, even when we are sleeping. As a result of this, and if you don’t maintain routine health habits, health deterioration might begin to set in. Things might even get serious if you don’t attend to it early.

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Solution

When you are facing a major health crisis, the first thing to do is to consider lifestyle changes. This includes cutting down on junks, eating healthy diets, exercising, breathing fresh air, taking some sun, etc.

Apart from the lifestyle changes, you have to seek quality medical help and make sure you get different opinions about the state of your health so you can get the best affordable care.

3. Relationship, Marriage, and Family

There may not be anything as sweet as love and family life, but it can also be the source of pain for some. Human imperfections in a relationship can cause a major crisis in life. This has been a stumbling block to many on their path to fulfillment.

Solution

The best thing to do is to prevent relationship problems from happening, but if they do happen, you need to face reality and begin to take steps towards addressing them. Do your best to keep the lines of communication open as this can help in strengthening your struggling relationship. Talk about the challenges with your partner and look for common grounds.

You can also arrange to see a counselor together or read books that address the specific challenges you are facing. The worst thing you can do is to end a relationship and that’s only when you have exhausted all other options.

4. Workplace

The workplace is supposed to be a place where we dutifully render the services for which we’ve been hired.

However, it is not impossible to face animosity at work—dealing with toxic people who would rather not see any good in what you do. It might be caused by differences in background, attitudes, and unhealthy competition that can result in personal conflicts. This can create undue stress and reduce productivity.

Solution

Be as professional as possible when dealing with toxic people. Be kind and show understanding, and try to avoid personal confrontation.

You can even try to reach out to the persons and invite them over for a coffee and get to understand their worldview. This can help you to connect with them at their level so that you can avoid unnecessary stress for yourself.

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5. Career Pressure

In your quest to become more successful, you will likely encounter work-related pressure. Such can come when trying to stabilize your career or climb the career ladder. It can also come as a result of overworking and having no life. Career pressure is one of the most common life problems.

Sometimes, it may be that the promotion you are working hard to get is not coming or positions you are qualified for are being offered to others. The pressure can get more intense when you find that most of your colleagues are moving ahead of you.

Solution

Check to find if you have personal or attitudinal problems. Some attitudinal problems can put you at a disadvantaged end. It may be poor communication, poor personal grooming, or poor relationship and networking skills. If it is any of these problems, then work on improving yourself in those areas.

You can also observe your colleagues who are succeeding and take note of what they are doing differently.

6. Unfair Treatment

We are in a world where some people often think they have some privileges over others and may want to exercise this thinking and treat others unfairly. If you find yourself in an environment where you are being oppressed or treated badly because of your race, gender, or current status, this can make you feel really bad and can also affect your psyche and productivity.

Solution

There is the temptation to decry your treatment, defend yourself, and demand a change immediately, but you should really wait for the right opportunity to do that.

When the time is right, reach out directly to the person or authority involved, and make it private. Meanwhile, you should be factual about the instances of your unfair treatments. Don’t just say it that you are being treated badly; give several undeniable instances.

Once you’ve made your grievances known politely, keep being you. If things don’t change, you can cocoon yourself in that environment. If you have an option to leave, you can do so as well.

7. Emptiness and Boredom

When you are in a rut, everything becomes normal, dull, unproductive, and yet difficult to change. This can lead to feelings of emptiness and boredom. This may not seem like a serious life problem, but it can have a great impact on your life.

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Solution

To overcome boredom and emptiness, break out of your routines, and deliberately create a new experience for yourself. If you can’t leave your job to find a new one, start doing other things that reflect your true passion. Sometimes, the things that give us the needed drive in life are not our day jobs.

8. Confusion

Confusion is described as a change in mental status in which a person is not able to think with their usual level of clarity.[1]. It is inherent in forgetfulness and lack of concentration.

It can be caused by different things including medical and environmental factors. It can also be due to the experience of a loss, a heartbreak, or abuse.

Solution

Don’t allow the situation to deteriorate into something more serious. Try to snap out of whatever experiences you have had that is causing confusion. Seek medical help if necessary or talk to a psychologist.

9. Friendship Problems

We need friends in our lives to rob minds and hang out together and even help us when we run into trouble. But many people have found themselves in serious trouble as a result of the company of friends they keep. They’ve experienced jealousy, backstabbing, and betrayal of trust. Some friends have even used the information freely provided in times of friendship to betray trust.

Solution

Don’t open up on everything to friends. Keep some information only to yourself. If you notice that a friend is working against you, confront them with the truth. Limit your interaction with them or get rid of such toxic friends completely.

10. Haunting Past

We all have pasts, and we might have done some crazy stuff in the past before we begin to live a more civilized and decent life. But sometimes, the past comes back haunting. It’s even worse when life problems of the past haunt you back and become problems of the present.

It may be that what you have done is now striking your conscience, keeping you awake at night. Or someone who knows about it is trying to use it against you, and it is standing in the way of your progress.

Solution

Be true to yourself and forgive yourself. If it is an issue with another person, you can reach out to the person to settle with them. If it is a secret that is now being leaked out, own up to it, take responsibility, and move on.

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11. Safety and Security

You may find yourself in an environment where there have been unexplained murder, gun violence, police brutality, insurgencies, and other life-threatening situations. This can make you feel like you might be the next victim. What should you do in this situation?

Solution

Ensure that you watch where you go and keep your home secure. You can also get involved in a neighborhood community watch to collectively find solutions to the threat. If the situation persists, you can move to a more secure location.

12. Failure

Failure can bring disappointment and can also slow the pace of progress. But failure is also part of life, and we have to learn to deal with it. But what do you do when an experience of failure weighs you down?

Solution

You can read a book or biography to get inspired by other people’s success stories.

13. Grief

No one loves to grief but we can’t totally shield ourselves from it. The loss of a loved one is painful and, if not properly handled, can lead to an emotional breakdown.

Solution

Take your time to express emotions. You can also pen an emotional tribute to the individual. Writing can help us bring out the feelings that cannot be expressed otherwise, and it helps us breathe a sigh of relief.

You can also cope with your grief by helping them to realize some of their unfulfilled dreams or do something in their honor. Lastly, while you think about your loss, you will still have to move on, accepting the fact that life is transient.

The Bottom Line

Problems are what make life worth living. They help us adapt to become tougher as we adapt to different situations. Always remember that whatever problem you are facing has a solution or, at least, a manageable approach.

Therefore, never allow your challenges to stop you from fulfilling your true potentials in life.

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Reference

[1] Medicinet: Confusion: Symptoms & Signs

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