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It’s all in the Approach

It’s all in the Approach

The Approach

We are often assigned tasks that we are unable to perform and that we seek help with.These tasks are often neither enjoyable for us, nor for the person we seek assistance or a sale from. We find ourselves in a situation where we must put it all in our approach or pitch.

I have come to learn that the best time to approach with your product / service is when the potential customer is most vulnerable. The only problem with this is the fact that you may not always find your customer within a state of beneficial vulnerability. In a lot of circumstances, you will find yourself having to create the customer’s need for the product.

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Your going to initially think that this might come across as impossible or unlikely to happen. The fact is, just about anyone has the capability to create a customer vulnerability based on the current, or a past situation. Your going to find this most effective by resurfacing a dilemma relating to this particular product / service within your approach.

No one wants to mow when they are mowing

Understanding this method is the first step. The best example that I am able to provide you with, is regarding lawn mowing / property care. I learned very quickly that going door to door proved to be unsuccessful as most people think of property care as “a breeze” and are less likely to accept the services offered. With this being said, the best approach would be targeting the potential consumer when they’re most vulnerable. For this particular niche, the best time would be either; when the customer is mowing their lawn, or have a lawn that is overgrown.

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The reason that this person is vulnerable is that they are currently experiencing the tediousness involved in maintaining their lawn, or that they have already realized this and are procrastinating and putting it off. By approaching the customer during these times, it increases your likelihood of positive results.

I don’t want to do this

Very often we are assigned a task that we are completely uninterested in completing. Whether we are eager to complete it or not, it is required. Your most beneficial method of having this work completed, without actually doing it yourself, is having someone else do it. With this being said, someone else isn’t going to necessarily take this without any hesitation. The best method of reaching out to someone else and push away the task assigned to you is all in the approach.

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When we approach someone with a task, the last thing we want to do is focus on the tediousness involved. We want to ensure that the person we are approaching is under the assumption that we approached them due to the fact that they are the expert. We need to emphasize on the ability which this person possesses and that the reason we are coming to them with the task, is the fact that they are the best man for the job. When we talk someone up like this, it increases their self-worth. The fact that we are admiring the individual’s skills and assigning a responsibility, could push the individual to work hard and achieve much better results then originally expected.

Conclusion

We are often assigned tasks that we know would bring better results if the task is managed by someone else. Whether or not we get the work done by someone else is completely dependent on how we approach them with the project.

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We may also find ourselves looking to sell a service but having a hard time reaching customers. We are going to find this most beneficial and profitable when we are finding our customers in moments of weakness and when they are most vulnerable. By creating a need, or approaching when the customer is in a moment of need, we are most likely to receive positive results from our approaches.

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Last Updated on March 25, 2020

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

Habits are hard to kill, and rightly so. They are a part and parcel of your personality traits and mold your character.

However, habits are not always something over-the-top and quirky enough to get noticed. Think of subtle habits like tapping fingers when you are nervous and humming songs while you drive. These are nothing but ingrained habits that you may not realize easily.

Just take a few minutes and think of something specific that you do all the time. You will notice how it has become a habit for you without any explicit realization. Everything you do on a daily basis starting with your morning routine, lunch preferences to exercise routines are all habits.

Habits mostly form from life experiences and certain observed behaviors, not all of them are healthy. Habitual smoking can be dangerous to your health. Similarly, a habit could also make you lose out on enjoying something to its best – like how some people just cannot stop swaying their bodies when delivering a speech.

Thus, there could be a few habits that you would want to change about yourself. But changing habits is not as easy as it seems.

In this article, you will learn why it isn’t easy to build new habits, and how to change habits.

What Makes It Hard To Change A Habit?

To want to change a particular habit means to change something very fundamental about your behavior.[1] Hence, it’s necessary to understand how habits actually form and why they are so difficult to actually get out of.

The Biology

Habits form in a place what we call the subconscious mind in our brain.[2]

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Our brains have two modes of operation. The first one is an automatic pilot kind of system that is fast and works on reflexes often. It is what we call the subconscious part. This is the part that is associated with everything that comes naturally to you.

The second mode is the conscious mode where every action and decision is well thought out and follows a controlled way of thinking.

A fine example to distinguish both would be to consider yourself learning to drive or play an instrument. For the first time you try learning, you think before every movement you make. But once you have got the hang of it, you might drive without applying much thought into it.

Both systems work together in our brains at all times. When a habit is formed, it moves from the conscious part to the subconscious making it difficult to control.

So, the key idea in deconstructing a habit is to go from the subconscious to the conscious.

Another thing you have to understand about habits is that they can be conscious or hidden.

Conscious habits are those that require active input from your side. For instance, if you stop setting your alarm in the morning, you will stop waking up at the same time.

Hidden habits, on the other hand, are habits that we do without realizing. These make up the majority of our habits and we wouldn’t even know them until someone pointed them out. So the first difficulty in breaking these habits is to actually identify them. As they are internalized, they need a lot of attention to detail for self-identification. That’s not all.

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Habits can be physical, social, and mental, energy-based and even be particular to productivity. Understanding them is necessary to know why they are difficult to break and what can be done about them.

The Psychology

Habits get engraved into our memories depending on the way we think, feel and act over a particular period of time. The procedural part of memory deals with habit formation and studies have observed that various types of conditioning of behavior could affect your habit formations.

Classical conditioning or pavlovian conditioning is when you start associating a memory with reality.[3] A dog that associates ringing bell to food will start salivating. The same external stimuli such as the sound of church bells can make a person want to pray.

Operant conditioning is when experience and the feelings associated with it form a habit.[4] By encouraging or discouraging an act, individuals could either make it a habit or stop doing it.

Observational learning is another way habits could take form. A child may start walking the same way their parent does.

What Can You Do To Change a Habit?

Sure, habits are hard to control but it is not impossible. With a few tips and hard-driven dedication, you can surely get over your nasty habits.

Here are some ways that make use of psychological findings to help you:

1. Identify Your Habits

As mentioned earlier, habits can be quite subtle and hidden from your view. You have to bring your subconscious habits to an aware state of mind. You could do it by self-observation or by asking your friends or family to point out the habit for your sake.

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2. Find out the Impact of Your Habit

Every habit produces an effect – either physical or mental. Find out what exactly it is doing to you. Does it help you relieve stress or does it give you some pain relief?

It could be anything simple. Sometimes biting your nails could be calming your nerves. Understanding the effect of a habit is necessary to control it.

3. Apply Logic

You don’t need to be force-fed with wisdom and advice to know what an unhealthy habit could do to you.

Late-night binge-watching just before an important presentation is not going to help you. Take a moment and apply your own wisdom and logic to control your seemingly nastily habits.

4. Choose an Alternative

As I said, every habit induces some feeling. So, it could be quite difficult to get over it unless you find something else that can replace it. It can be a simple non-harming new habit that you can cultivate to get over a bad habit.

Say you have the habit of banging your head hard when you are angry. That’s going to be bad for you. Instead, the next time you are angry, just take a deep breath and count to 10. Or maybe start imagining yourself on a luxury yacht. Just think of something that will work for you.

5. Remove Triggers

Get rid of items and situations that can trigger your bad habit.

Stay away from smoke breaks if you are trying to quit it. Remove all those candy bars from the fridge if you want to control your sweet cravings.

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6. Visualize Change

Our brains can be trained to forget a habit if we start visualizing the change. Serious visualization is retained and helps as a motivator in breaking the habit loop.

For instance, to replace your habit of waking up late, visualize yourself waking up early and enjoying the early morning jog every day. By continuing this, you would naturally feel better to wake up early and do your new hobby.

7. Avoid Negative Talks and Thinking

Just as how our brain is trained to accept a change in habit, continuous negative talk and thinking could hamper your efforts put into breaking a habit.

Believe you can get out of it and assert yourself the same.

Final Thoughts

Changing habits isn’t easy, so do not expect an overnight change!

Habits took a long time to form. It could take a while to completely break out of it. You will have to accept that sometimes you may falter in your efforts. Don’t let negativity seep in when it seems hard. Keep going at it slowly and steadily.

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