By definition, small talk means polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, especially as engaged in on social occasions.
By simply engaging and socializing about unimportant matter, we trigger our brain and we sharpen our way of thinking. Even all the bigger things come from something smaller that triggered them. In fact, small talk is one of the best ways to start a conversation and lead that conversation to a whole another level.
I read one article while I was lurking the net and it was about “30 days of engagement in small talk with strangers.” Even though I am only on the 3th day, I’ve seen drastic changes in my life. I’ve started to realize that people need someone to talk to, something spontaneous, and all of that can be satisfied by a small talk with a stranger.
When we engage in small talks, especially with strangers, we show our positive site. People are polite and they will smile back at everything you say, but these days no one wants to kick-start and breaks the ice. No one want’s to show their dark side at first sight. By default we trigger two positive images.
On my three day journey, I’ve figured out that small talk works when it comes to achieving success and another two vital things: there is beauty in simplicity, and the neon light effect.
There Is Beauty In Simplicity
If we see the image of how success works and how the image was created, we figure out that it’s same as solving puzzle. One piece over another we will complete the puzzle, sooner or later. It may be a puzzle from a thousand pieces or 10 thousand, but one day, if we are being persistent and dedicated, we can solve that puzzle and create the image of success.
Small talk is the first piece of the puzzle. By engaging in small talk, sharpening our brain on the simplest of things, we see that it’s the first corner of the puzzle (since corners are easiest to find).
Most of the people will respect us and are willing to help us because we have the power to share our positive energy even for a couple of seconds. One simple “how you doing?” or “how was your day?” have the power to open millions of doors, especially those to happiness and success.
By doing it frequently we master our way of doing the small talk. Just ask the question: “how many people you know only by doing a small talk with them?” Maybe 70 percent of the people I know are a small talk relationship. I would be poor if I cut my small talk from everyday life.
It’s the most powerful thing when we master the small talk and that’s why there is beauty in simplicity.
I dare you to try the 30 days challenge of “small talk with strangers” and lot of doors will be open. You may not make a strong lasting relationship with everyone, but you will gather excessive experience with relationship with people. That’s a vast step in the sphere of success. Always remember that the image is created by smaller parts.
The Neon Light Effect
The neon light effect is the one of my favorite outcomes from small talks. It’s the brain trigger after we end our small conversations.
Because the brain remembers almost everything, by engaging in small talks, we formulate a way of thinking about the environment we are surrounded with, especially about HR and public relations. Even if we are programmer, we have to engage with people and sell our products out there. We are community of 7 billion for a reason. We have to connect and share our energy. Small talk is the best way to start a long lasting relationship.
We may think that if we finish our conversation, it will be gone forever. The brain sucks everything, and one positive image of a small talk will stay in our brain AT LEAST one day. By engaging every day, we stimulate our positive vibes and we feel powerful. When we feel powerful success looks very easy, piece of cake! The problem is that we are not always positive. In fact, most of the time we are we struggling and fighting with harsh times, but the small talk can boost one bit of positivity.
Once more, I highly recommend you to start the challenge. For 3 days I saw drastic changes, and I can’t imagine after 27 days more. In fact, I think I will continue doing the small talk with strangers forever.
Small talk is the most important piece of the puzzle when we want to create the image of success. Persist in it, master it, and you will feel both, the neon light effect and the beauty in simplicity.
Featured photo credit: The kindness of strangers/Ed Yourdon via flickr.com