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How Small Talk Works When It Comes To Achieving Success

How Small Talk Works When It Comes To Achieving Success

By definition, small talk means polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, especially as engaged in on social occasions.

By simply engaging and socializing about unimportant matter, we trigger our brain and we sharpen our way of thinking. Even all the bigger things come from something smaller that triggered them. In fact, small talk is one of the best ways to start a conversation and lead that conversation to a whole another level.

I read one article while I was lurking the net and it was about “30 days of engagement in small talk with strangers.” Even though I am only on the 3th day, I’ve seen drastic changes in my life. I’ve started to realize that people need someone to talk to, something spontaneous, and all of that can be satisfied by a small talk with a stranger.

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When we engage in small talks, especially with strangers, we show our positive site. People are polite and they will smile back at everything you say, but these days no one wants to kick-start and breaks the ice.  No one want’s to show their dark side at first sight. By default we trigger two positive images.

On my three day journey, I’ve figured out that small talk works when it comes to achieving success and another two vital things: there is beauty in simplicity, and the neon light effect.

There Is Beauty In Simplicity

If we see the image of how success works and how the image was created, we figure out that it’s same as solving puzzle. One piece over another we will complete the puzzle, sooner or later. It may be a puzzle from a thousand pieces or 10 thousand, but one day, if we are being persistent and dedicated, we can solve that puzzle and create the image of success.

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Small talk is the first piece of the puzzle. By engaging in small talk, sharpening our brain on the simplest of things, we see that it’s the first corner of the puzzle (since corners are easiest to find).

Most of the people will respect us and are willing to help us because we have the power to share our positive energy even for a couple of seconds. One simple “how you doing?” or “how was your day?” have the power to open millions of doors, especially those to happiness and success.

By doing it frequently we master our way of doing the small talk. Just ask the question: “how many people you know only by doing a small talk with them?” Maybe 70 percent of the people I know are a small talk relationship. I would be poor if I cut my small talk from everyday life.

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It’s the most powerful thing when we master the small talk and that’s why there is beauty in simplicity.

I dare you to try the 30 days challenge of “small talk with strangers” and lot of doors will be open. You may not make a strong lasting relationship with everyone, but you will gather excessive experience with relationship with people. That’s a vast step in the sphere of success. Always remember that the image is created by smaller parts.

The Neon Light Effect

The neon light effect is the one of my favorite outcomes from small talks. It’s the brain trigger after we end our small conversations.

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Because the brain remembers almost everything, by engaging in small talks, we formulate a way of thinking about the environment we are surrounded with, especially about HR and public relations. Even if we are programmer, we have to engage with people and sell our products out there. We are community of 7 billion for a reason. We have to connect and share our energy. Small talk is the best way to start a long lasting relationship.

We may think that if we finish our conversation, it will be gone forever. The brain sucks everything, and one positive image of a small talk will stay in our brain AT LEAST one day. By engaging every day, we stimulate our positive vibes and we feel powerful. When we feel powerful success looks very easy, piece of cake! The problem is that we are not always positive. In fact, most of the time we are we struggling and fighting with harsh times, but the small talk can boost one bit of positivity.

Once more, I highly recommend you to start the challenge. For 3 days I saw drastic changes, and I can’t imagine after 27 days more. In fact, I think I will continue doing the small talk with strangers forever.

Small talk is the most important piece of the puzzle when we want to create the image of success. Persist in it, master it, and you will feel both, the neon light effect and the beauty in simplicity.

Featured photo credit: The kindness of strangers/Ed Yourdon via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

What Is Creativity? We All Have It, and Need It

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Do you think of yourself as a creative person? Do you play the drums or do watercolor paintings? Perhaps compose songs or direct plays? Can you even relate to any of these so called ‘creative’ experiences? Growing up, did you ever have that ‘artistic’ sibling or friend who excelled in drawing, playing instruments or literature? And you maybe wondered why you can’t even compose a birthday card greeting–or that drawing stick figures is the furthest you’ll ever get to drawing a family portrait. Many people have this common assumption that creativity is an inborn talent; only a special group of people are inherently creative, and everyone else just unfortunately does not have that special ability. You either have that creative flair or instinct, or you don’t. But, this is far from the truth! So what is creativity?

Can I Be Creative?

The fact is, that everyone has an innate creative ability. Despite what most people may think, creativity is a skill that everyone can learn and hone on. It’s a skill with huge leverage that allows you to generate enormous amounts of value from relatively little input. How is that so? You’ll have to start by expanding your definition of creativity. Ironically, you have to be creative and ‘think out of the box’ with the definition! Creativity at its heart, is being able to see things in a way that others cannot. It’s a skill that helps you find new perspectives to create new possibilities and solutions to different problems. So, if you encounter different challenges and problems that need solving on a regular basis, then creativity is an invaluable skill to have.Let’s say, for example, that you work in sales. Having creativity will help you to look for new ways to approach and reach out to potential customers. Or perhaps you’re a teacher. In this role you have to constantly look for new ways to deliver your message and educate your students.

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How Creativity Works

Let me break another misconception about creativity, which is that it’s only used to create completely “new” or “original” things. Again, this is far from the truth. Because nothing is ever completely new or original. Everything, including works of art, doesn’t come from nothing. Everything derives from some sort of inspiration. That means that creativity works by connecting things together in order to derive new meaning or value.From this perspective, you can see a lot of creativity in action. In technology, Apple combines traditional computers with design and aesthetics to create new ways to use digital products. In music, a musician may be inspired by various styles of music, instruments and rhythms to create an entirely new type of song. All of these examples are about connecting different ideas, finding common ground amongst the differences, and creating a completely new idea out of them.

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Creativity Needs an Intention

Another misconception about the creative process is that you can just be in a general “creative” state. Real creativity isn’t about coming up with “eureka!” moments for random ideas. Instead, to be truly creative, you need to have a direction. You have to ask yourself this question: “What problem am I trying to solve?” Only by knowing the answer to this question can you start flexing your creativity muscles. Often times, the idea of creativity is associated with the ‘Right’ brain, with intuition and imagination. Hence a lot of focus is placed on the ‘Right’ brain when it comes to creativity. But, to get the most out of creativity, you need to utilize both sides of your brain–Right and Left–which means using the analytical and logical part of your brain, too. This may sound surprising to you, but creativity has a lot to do with problem solving. And, problem solving inherently involves logic and analysis. So instead of throwing out the ‘Left’ brain, full creativity needs them to work in unison. For example, when you’re looking for new ideas, your ‘Left’ brain will guide you to a place of focus, which is based on your objective behind the ideas you’re searching for. The ‘Right’ brain then guides you to gather and explore based on your current focus. And when you decide to try out these new ideas, your ‘Right’ brain will give you novel solutions outside of the ones you already know. Your ‘Left’ brain then helps you evaluate and tune the solutions to work better in practice. So, logic and creativity actually work hand in hand, and not one at the expense of the other.

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Creativity Is a Skill

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