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3 Small Things To Remember If You Want A Long Lasting Relationship

3 Small Things To Remember If You Want A Long Lasting Relationship

Do you dream of a long, successful relationship, but struggle to deal with everyday conflicts and issues? Every relationship has its ups and downs, and it’s not realistic to expect things to be perfect all the time. However, there are several techniques you can use to deal with problems in the best possible way.

Read on for details on three small ways you can improve your relationship and give it the best chance of succeeding.

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When you’re angry, wait 24 hours before reacting.

You’re not you when you’re angry. Whether it’s a small issue, like your partner forgetting to do the dishes again, or something more serious, like an accusation of cheating, make an effort to give yourself some time before reacting. Making decisions while angry, hurt, or upset can easily lead you to do or say something you’ll regret. 24 hours isn’t a long time, but it is long enough for you to calm down and get some perspective.

If you still feel like you should take action after 24 hours is up, make an effect to speak to your partner in a mature and reasonable way. Avoid raising your voice or speaking hurtfully, and try to consider your partner’s perspective on the matter. You might be surprised by how many pointless arguments you avoid using this technique.

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Stop saying “I don’t mind.”

Being in a relationship isn’t just about trying to be ‘nice’ and give the other person exactly what they want. It’s important to express yourself honestly, even when you disagree with your partner.

For example, next time your partner asks where you’d like to eat, don’t just say, “I don’t mind,” or suggest a place you know they like. Instead, propose visiting a new restaurant or trying out an unusual cuisine. Your partner will be happy to see you taking the initiative, and you’ll have a more interesting experience than if you’d kept quiet or left the decision to them.

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It’s important to compromise in relationships, but that doesn’t mean suppressing your feelings or opinions. In the long term, this could backfire and lead to serious relationship issues. For example, if you say that you’re open to the idea of having children, but actually want to remain childfree, your partner could be hurt and confused further down the line. It’s unfair to your partner to keep things from them, even if you think you’re doing it to be ‘nice.’ Aim to be as honest as possible.

It’s okay to go to bed angry.

The phrase, “Don’t go to bed angry,” is commonly thrown around when talking about relationships, but it’s actually not the best advice. Arguments that take place at the end of the day are often made worse by the fact that you’re tired, you’re focused on the many small irritations of the day, and you haven’t had time to process your feelings. By taking a step back from the argument and getting a good night’s sleep, you’ll likely wake up able to deal with things much more constructively.

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Next time you find yourself getting irritated with your partner late at night, try saying something like, “Can we discuss this tomorrow morning instead?” Explain that you’ll be able to think more clearly after resting, and reassure your partner that you’re not trying to brush the problem under the rug. Make sure that you address the topic the next day to avoid any resentments building – while it’s good to wait a while before discussing problems, avoiding them altogether is not constructive.

By taking time to calm down before reacting to things that make you angry, not being afraid to speak honestly to your partner, and avoiding arguments at the end of the day, you’ll be well on your way to a long and happy relationship. Try using these three tips over the next week – you might be shocked at how much of a difference they make.

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Eloise Best

Eloise is an everyday health expert and runs My Vegan Supermarket, a vegan blog and database of supermarket products.

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20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy

20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy

George Lorimer contends,

“It’s good to have money and all the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy.”

In reality, everyone likes money. It has enough power to determine happy or sad moments for some people. This happens partially because money can trigger your emotions. However, there are many invaluable things money can’t buy.

Money will allow you to experience the luxury of things like a Tesla, an estate, or first-class tickets to anywhere in the world. But, money cannot buy you everything. There are aspects of your life, yourself, relationships, and encounters that forever will be priceless.

So, what are 20 invaluable things money can’t buy?

1. Love

You must have seen this one coming because of how much it is preached throughout life.

Love is a genuine action with beautiful emotions that develops between people who know each other to an extent.

People fall in “love” for different reasons. Love is unconditional and keeps people in connection with each other.

Money may earn you attraction and attention, but love? Not at all.

2. True Friends

Everyone likes to have money because there’s almost no way to survive if we didn’t have a cent or two. And it’s only normal for people to associate themselves with people who are making efforts to make the money.

But sometimes, people are only attracted to what you have and what you can give; not who you are.

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It works just like love. When your money runs low, true friends should remain.

3. Family

We all know that family consists of a father, mother, and children, so let’s consider the individual elements.

A father is only a father as a result of the relationship between him and his child. Can money buy a relationship?

The same concept applies to the mother and child and if a relationship with a father cannot be bought, then neither can one with a mother nor child be bought.

Even if it’s an extended family, you still have to have a relationship with someone who connects you to the other person. It’s not rocket science.

4. Wisdom

Someone defined wisdom as “the mother of knowledge,” and how does one acquire knowledge? He or she receives it from experience.

So, if you cannot buy experience, then you cannot buy knowledge. And if you cannot buy both, then wisdom is definitely out of your league. You have to study, meet people and just experience life to earn it.

5. Happiness

In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt,

“Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”

    Mrs. Roosevelt even acknowledges things money can’t buy. She emphasizes that money can’t buy happiness.

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    Despite all the money a person may have in the bank, he or she still may not have the happiness that we all crave and deserve. Money cannot afford happiness.

    6. Health

    Money can help us afford the best health care services, but health itself? Not exactly.

    We’ve seen millionaires and billionaires lose their lives to a range of diseases that all their money put together could not cure.

    The Dalai Lama said,

    “What surprises me most is ‘man’ because he sacrifices his health to make money then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health.”

      So, besides the fact that it doesn’t buy us health, sometimes the pursuit of it takes good health away from us.

      7. Long life

      During birthdays, we wish people a long, prosperous and healthy life. Money would be the best gift to send to loved ones to buy these things.

      But since you can’t, you wish these individuals the best life has to offer. You may also give them fun and loving experiences without money.

      8. Time

      The universe has been impartial enough to give us all 24 hours to do whatever we want to. But nobody, with all his or her wealth, has been able to purchase an extra hour, not even a second.

      9. Respect

      They say it is reciprocal. In other words, you can only get respect when you give respect and the last time we checked, there was no money for respect.

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      So if you can’t give something in any currency, then you can’t receive it in any currency either.

      10. Character

      Character is the sum of a person’s attitude. Attitude has to do with the way you behave and although money can influence a person’s character, it cannot buy a good one.

      11. Confidence

      Any “confidence” built on money really isn’t confidence. It’s a shade of pride and usually ends in sheer show-off. That, dear friend, is not confidence. Confidence is a quality you build with time.

      12. Beauty

      There are countless beauty products in the market and all of them cost money. These beauty products can only enhance beauty by covering up blemishes and some go as far as altering some features of the body.

      But none has been able to change the natural beauty of anybody. If you consider surgery, then you are still altering the natural features, not changing it. You can’t buy good looks from your mother’s womb. It’s just not possible.

      13. Sense of Humor

      Some individuals are born with the gift to make others laugh. Most of the comedians around became wealthy as a result of their sense of humor.

      The humor did not come after the money. Nobody became funny overnight because of a swell in their bank account.

      14. Trust

      Why do you trust people? Because they’ve proved themselves to be trustworthy by character. Their character earned them that trust.

      15. Talent

      Talent is a natural skill that has to be discovered and honed. Just like beauty and every other thing that comes naturally, talent cannot be purchased.

      16. Purpose

      People attend conferences and seminars to help them discover their purpose in life. These conferences may be free or paid but the money did not buy them the purpose.

      They already had the purpose way before realizing that they needed to find it. Lots of poor people discovered their purpose and leveraged it to become rich. This goes on to illustrate that money can come as a result of finding purpose but it cannot get you the purpose.

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      17. Satisfaction

      If there’s one thing that money can never buy, it is satisfaction. Even if money finds a way to get any of the other items on this list, it can never afford satisfaction. Money increases our desire for more money. The more the money, the more the hunger.

      18. Empathy

      Never have we ever heard of a man who bought the ability to empathize and never would we ever because empathy is a feeling. Feelings cannot be bought.

      19. Peace

      Why do people employ sophisticated security systems? Because they want to have peace when they go to bed but even with all of that, peace has never been received in exchange for money. It comes as a result of a clear conscience and a good heart.

      Ironically, money may bring enemies which would end up disrupting your peace.

      20. A Good Name

      A proverb says “a good name is better than silver.” This is like comparing two different things: a name and silver (which could be referred to as money).

      What is a “name?” It is a form of identity and how is it received? Your way of life and character helps people to receive you.

      Conclusion

        Overall, these things are invaluable and confidently show that money can’t buy everything.

        While this is the case, money is necessary, so don’t quit your job just because it can’t buy you happiness. And do spend your money and time wisely.

        Also, go out of your way to make people happy. Their money can’t provide this needed emotion. Do not lose or mismanage your health trying to get money.

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