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3 Small Things To Remember If You Want A Long Lasting Relationship

3 Small Things To Remember If You Want A Long Lasting Relationship

Do you dream of a long, successful relationship, but struggle to deal with everyday conflicts and issues? Every relationship has its ups and downs, and it’s not realistic to expect things to be perfect all the time. However, there are several techniques you can use to deal with problems in the best possible way.

Read on for details on three small ways you can improve your relationship and give it the best chance of succeeding.

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When you’re angry, wait 24 hours before reacting.

You’re not you when you’re angry. Whether it’s a small issue, like your partner forgetting to do the dishes again, or something more serious, like an accusation of cheating, make an effort to give yourself some time before reacting. Making decisions while angry, hurt, or upset can easily lead you to do or say something you’ll regret. 24 hours isn’t a long time, but it is long enough for you to calm down and get some perspective.

If you still feel like you should take action after 24 hours is up, make an effect to speak to your partner in a mature and reasonable way. Avoid raising your voice or speaking hurtfully, and try to consider your partner’s perspective on the matter. You might be surprised by how many pointless arguments you avoid using this technique.

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Stop saying “I don’t mind.”

Being in a relationship isn’t just about trying to be ‘nice’ and give the other person exactly what they want. It’s important to express yourself honestly, even when you disagree with your partner.

For example, next time your partner asks where you’d like to eat, don’t just say, “I don’t mind,” or suggest a place you know they like. Instead, propose visiting a new restaurant or trying out an unusual cuisine. Your partner will be happy to see you taking the initiative, and you’ll have a more interesting experience than if you’d kept quiet or left the decision to them.

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It’s important to compromise in relationships, but that doesn’t mean suppressing your feelings or opinions. In the long term, this could backfire and lead to serious relationship issues. For example, if you say that you’re open to the idea of having children, but actually want to remain childfree, your partner could be hurt and confused further down the line. It’s unfair to your partner to keep things from them, even if you think you’re doing it to be ‘nice.’ Aim to be as honest as possible.

It’s okay to go to bed angry.

The phrase, “Don’t go to bed angry,” is commonly thrown around when talking about relationships, but it’s actually not the best advice. Arguments that take place at the end of the day are often made worse by the fact that you’re tired, you’re focused on the many small irritations of the day, and you haven’t had time to process your feelings. By taking a step back from the argument and getting a good night’s sleep, you’ll likely wake up able to deal with things much more constructively.

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Next time you find yourself getting irritated with your partner late at night, try saying something like, “Can we discuss this tomorrow morning instead?” Explain that you’ll be able to think more clearly after resting, and reassure your partner that you’re not trying to brush the problem under the rug. Make sure that you address the topic the next day to avoid any resentments building – while it’s good to wait a while before discussing problems, avoiding them altogether is not constructive.

By taking time to calm down before reacting to things that make you angry, not being afraid to speak honestly to your partner, and avoiding arguments at the end of the day, you’ll be well on your way to a long and happy relationship. Try using these three tips over the next week – you might be shocked at how much of a difference they make.

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Eloise Best

Eloise is an everyday health expert and runs My Vegan Supermarket, a vegan blog and database of supermarket products.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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