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4 Simple Methods for Quicker Decision-Making for Procrastinators and the Indecisive

4 Simple Methods for Quicker Decision-Making for Procrastinators and the Indecisive

Life is full of choice, and whilst it is understandable that we fret over life’s major pathways—Should I go to university? Should I change career sector this late on? When should we start a family?—we are also now fretting over the smaller things in life. Why? Well, simply because we have so many options available to us. The humble weekly grocery shop has turned into an epic adventure, with dozens of brands on offer for every item. On average, we make thousands of decisions a day.

When options are overwhelming though, you can’t help but feel pressured into making the right choice. No wonder then that deciding what to wear today, whether to have another biscuit, or what to cook for the family occasion is bringing us out in a cold sweat! If this relates to you, then it is time to regain control and start making snappier decisions.

So, what are the benefits of making quicker decisions more simply? Firstly, you will stop wasting time on the choices that aren’t so important or critical, and secondly, the more you practice making quick decisions, the better you’ll become (and hopefully therefore more comfortable when making the large decisions).

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Stop sweating it when it comes to making small decisions. Here are four simple tricks you could employ to help blinker the options and make life that little bit simpler.

1. Stick to what you know

I am normally one for branching out and am a big believer that we need to push our comfort zones and try new experiences. However, there is a time and place for that, especially if you’re having a mental burn out making small decisions that are unimportant but have tens of options.

For example, when it comes to options that revolve around non-important choices, such as what coffee to drink or what brand of makeup to buy, then it’s OK to stick with what you know. For the everyday choices, I find that I tend to stick to what I know and am familiar with—I listen to the same radio station each morning, stick to the same brand of hair colorant, buy the same brand of washing detergent, etc.

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2. Choose from a short list of three

Looking at my friends and family and close acquaintances, I would say that most people are indecisive. I think. Or perhaps they aren’t. Oh, I am not so sure now.

When we struggle to make decisions such as what to have for dinner or what to wear to that party at the weekend, how do we possibly make decisions such as what to call our kids or whether we should relocate for work?

When it comes to the smaller decisions and the ones that don’t really matter, quickly narrow your options down to three, then choose one from those short listed. This also works well if you and your partner or friend are being as indecisive as each other over trivial matters, such as where to eat out or what film to watch. It also can be done jointly, so one of you chooses the short list of three and then the other chooses the final option. Quick and simple.

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3. Limit decision-making time

Most indecisive folk will know that they are indecisive, so before you even think about making a decision, set a time limit on it. For example, you have to choose what to buy your mum for her 60th birthday. While this is an important decision (although get it wrong and you’ll feel the smugness of your siblings because their present was better), it isn’t a huge, irreversible decision (just make sure you keep the receipt). Set yourself a time limit, say an hour, to decide what to get her and don’t go over it.

This tactic can also work on larger, more critical decisions too, such as where to get married or what stocks to invest in, in order to help you stop procrastinating and help you to narrow down your options. Set yourself a time limit that is reasonable, say 24 hours or even a week.

4. Go with what you know will be best for you

If you are really struggling to make a decision, let alone the right one, then perhaps it is best not to just narrow down your options, but instead think about which option will be the best outcome for you.

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For example, let’s take the classic situation of being unsure what to eat at a restaurant. Ever been that indecisive friend who is holding up the ordering process because every time it comes round to your turn, you politely tell the waiter to “Come back to me at the end, I am still deciding”? Then you proceed to ask everyone else what they are eating in the hope that you can poach an idea. Well, if this is you, then maybe your best tactic is going for what is best for you, i.e., not the double cheeseburger with extra cheese and bacon with an extra side of fries, but instead the grilled chicken salad.

And this tactic can even be stretched to making more involved decisions, such as which car to buy. Yes, the gas guzzling, bright red, convertible, two-seater sports car may be in the running of options, but when you have a family is it going to be the best option? Think, “Which option is the best outcome for me?” Rather than just, “What do I want?”

Go on, flex that decision-making muscle!

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Do you like making mistakes?

I certainly don’t.

Making mistakes is inevitable. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could be at ease with them?

Perhaps there is a way to think of them differently and see their benefits.

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Why Mistakes Feel Dangerous

Mistakes often feel dangerous. Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons:

  • Our vulnerability. We have limited and fragile support systems. When those systems fail, people often lose their lives.
  • Real dangers. Nature can be dangerous, and making mistakes can put us at the mercy of nature and its animal residents seeking a meal.
  • Ignorance. Many cultures scapegoats someone whenever there is a failure of some kind. Scapegoating can be serious and deadly.
  • Order. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing orthodoxy and treat difference and non-conformity as a mistake. Even our brains flash an error message whenever we go against prevailing social norms.

We have a history of handling mistakes and failure in an unpleasant way. Since each of us carries our human history with us, it can be a challenge to overcome the fear of making mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.

Why We Can’t Avoid Making Mistakes

Many people operate under the notion that making mistakes is an aberration, a mistake if you will. You can call it perfectionism but it is a more substantial problem. It is really a demand for order and continuity.

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When we think we can eliminate mistakes, we are often working from a perspective that sees the world as a fixed place. The world, however, is not so obliging. Like it or not, the world, and everything in it, is constantly changing.

Change is more constant and pervasive than we can see with our own eyes which is why we often miss it. Our bodies are constantly changing. The natural conditions of the earth change constantly as well. Everything, including economic and cultural systems have life cycles. Everything is in a constant state of flux.

We cannot see all of the changes going on around us since rates of change vary. Unfortunately, when we try to create a feeling of certainty and solidity in our lives or operate from the illusion of stability and order, we are fighting reality and our natural evolution which is built on adapting to change.

It is better to continually bend into this reality rather than fight every change we experience. Fighting it can cause us to make more mistakes. Finding the benefits in change can be useful and help us minimize unnecessary mistakes.

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Lessons Learned from Making Mistakes

Life has so many uncertainties and variables that mistakes are inevitable. Fortunately, there are many things you can learn from making mistakes.

Here is a list of ways to harness the mistakes you make for your benefit.

  1. Point us to something we did not know.
  2. Reveal a nuance we missed.
  3. Deepen our knowledge.
  4. Tell us something about our skill levels.
  5. Help us see what matters and what does not.
  6. Inform us more about our values.
  7. Teach us more about others.
  8. Let us recognize changing circumstances.
  9. Show us when someone else has changed.
  10. Keep us connected to what works and what doesn’t work.
  11. Remind us of our humanity.
  12. Spur us to want to better work which helps us all.
  13. Promote compassion for ourselves and others.
  14. Teach us to value forgiveness.
  15. Help us to pace ourselves better.
  16. Invite us to better choices.
  17. Can teach us how to experiment.
  18. Can reveal a new insight.
  19. Can suggest new options we had not considered.
  20. Can serve as a warning.
  21. Show us hidden fault lines in our lives which can lead us to more productive arrangements.
  22. Point out structural problems in our lives.
  23. Prompt us to learn more about ourselves.
  24. Remind us how we are like others.
  25. Make us more humble.
  26. Help us rectify injustices in our lives.
  27. Show us where to create more balance in our lives.
  28. Tell us when the time to move on has occurred.
  29. Reveal where our passion is and where it is not.
  30. Expose our true feelings.
  31. Bring out problems in a relationship.
  32. Can be a red flag for our misjudgments.
  33. Point us in a more creative direction.
  34. Show us when we are not listening.
  35. Wake us up to our authentic selves.
  36. Can create distance with someone else.
  37. Slow us down when we need to.
  38. Can hasten change.
  39. Reveal our blind spots.
  40. Are the invisible made visible.

Reframe Reality to Handle Mistakes More Easily

The secret to handling mistakes is to:

  • Expect them as part of the process of growth and development.
  • Have an experimental mindset.
  • Think in evolutional rather than fixed terms.

When we accept change as the natural structure of the world, our vulnerability and humanness lets us work with the ebb and flow of life.

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When we recognize the inevitability of mistakes as part of the ongoing experiment which life is, then we can relax more. In doing so we may make fewer of them.

It also helps to keep in mind that trial and error is an organic natural way of living. It is how we have evolved over time. It is better to be with our natural evolution than to fight it and make life harder.

When we adopt an evolutional mindset and see ourselves as part of the ongoing human experiment, we can appreciate that all that has been built up over time which includes the many mistakes our ancestors have made over thousands of years. Each one of us today is a part of that human tradition of learning and experimenting,

Mistakes are part of the trial and error, experimental nature of life. The more you adopt the experimental, evolutional frame, the easier it becomes to handle mistakes.

Handling mistakes well can help you relax and enjoy all aspects of life more.

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