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10 Powerful Things Charismatic Leaders Say All The Time

10 Powerful Things Charismatic Leaders Say All The Time

What do Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Sir Winston Churchill and Steve Jobs have in common?

They were all exceptionally charismatic and inspirational leaders. Exceptionally charismatic leaders have a way with words. They are skilled communicators who eloquently communicate and connect with their audience, followers and team at a deeper, emotional level. They get their audience excited about the hopes, visions and possibilities for the future, as well as the means to get there. These charismatic leaders verbally capture and articulate core hopes and dreams of people fluently and forcefully.

Olivia Fox Cabane, in her book The Charisma Myth, observes that people aren’t born charismatic. They acquire charisma through knowledge and practice. In other words, anyone can master the art and science of leadership charisma and your words are the most powerful tools in your arsenal. Here are 10 things charismatic leaders say all the time you should add to your diction to speak more forcefully and with charisma whether you are leading a giant organization or a small team toward an outcome.

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1.   Here’s the plan…

A leader leads. Whether you lead from the front or you lead from the back by letting others take the spotlight, you cannot be a good leader if you don’t show people the way forward. People need to know where you are taking them and how you plan to get them there before they can follow.

2.   What do you think?

People generally don’t like big changes and decisions, especially when they are dropped suddenly without warning. Charismatic leaders know this and encourage open sharing of views and opinions. When you listen to the views and opinions of others, you empower yourself to make more informed and inclusive decisions. This enhances the quality of your leadership and encourages people to support your decisions even when they don’t fully agree with them.

3.   No.

Charismatic leaders are not afraid to say “no” to anything or anyone that undermines or is inconsistent with the core goals and objectives of the team, community or organization. They say “no” firmly but amicably whenever there is not a good reason to say yes. Saying “no” makes your “yes” even more powerful and meaningful.

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4.   Here’s the reason why…

Charismatic leaders often explain the reason for taking certain positions and saying “no.” This makes it easier for people to swallow their decisions and follow their directions. People will follow your requests not so much because they agree or enjoy it, but because you provide a good reason for it.

5.   I believe in you…

If you want people to trust you, you must be willing to trust them yourself. Charismatic leaders know this and trust their team fully. They make it absolutely clear how much faith they have in their team and how much they depend on them, including their passion, judgment, integrity and creativity. If you can’t trust someone on your team, then that person shouldn’t be on the team.

6.   You can count on me…

Charismatic leaders make it known to their team that they themselves will work tirelessly to make core goals and objectives a reality. They keep their doors open to anyone in the team who needs support and they tell them as much. Tell your team they can trust you and have their back always no matter what.

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7.   We can do this…

Charismatic leaders push their team and followers to improve and be better. They raise the standards to aspire towards and motivate people to keep pressing on and develop themselves. Remind your team nothing moves until they do. Tell them you are all in this together and it’s not over until we WIN!

8.   Congratulations…

Charismatic leaders always congratulate their team members when they do well. This boosts morale and fosters hard work. Give your team members a pat on the back for a job well done. Make sure they know you appreciate their efforts. However, don’t coddle anyone too much, especially when they fall short of the standards or don’t live up to their potential.

9.   Thank you

People yearn for appreciation. Expressing gratitude to others is one of the simplest and most powerful ways to show appreciation. Charismatic leaders express gratitude for both opportunities and people they oversee. Don’t be afraid to say thank you to others no matter what their rank or status is. Saying thank you is a secret ingredient of emotional intelligence that will set you apart from mediocre leaders.

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10. Let us celebrate!

Charismatic leaders know that all work with no play makes Jack a dull boy. They, therefore, invite members of their team to celebrate not just the big victories, but also the small wins. This bolsters team spirit and oneness in a common course. Organize parties, shows or even award ceremonies to celebrate both professional and personal achievements and milestones. This can be the most rejuvenating experience you can gift your team and followers.

Featured photo credit: Dr. Martin Luther King Jr./Minnesota Historical Society via flickr.com

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Published on March 19, 2019

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success


Do you remember the last time you faced a major setback–when you felt so low, that nothing seemed to make you happy? No matter how hard you tried, you just felt like the world was against you. Perhaps it was a bad relationship, or the loss of a loved one… maybe something bad happened at work? Whatever it may be, could you recall how your attitude was towards that situation?

Often when we’re caught in an unhappy situation, we feel limited and sometimes trapped. We want to get out of it as quickly as we can, but it’s never quite that simple.

Unfortunately, some people can remain in that terrible situation for weeks, months or even years; while others may come out strong and ready to start over–or continue from where they left off–fairly quickly.

So what sets these two groups apart?

The answer is their attitude.

Attitude is everything when it comes to achieving a goal, and tackling a setback or problem. 

When you’re able to have a positive mindset, you’ll be able to break free of your limitations that are holding you back.

A positive attitude also goes a long way in ensuring you come out victorious from whatever limitations that were holding you back before. It transforms not just your mental state, but your physical and emotional well being. It is the key to lasting total transformation.

Positive Attitude Brings About Positive Health 

When you’re stuck in a rut, often the first thoughts that run through your head are negative, thus your outlook likely becomes pessimistic. But, if you can transform those thoughts into more positive ones, then you’re on your way to talking yourself out of that rut, which allows you to move forward.

Of course, positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring all the bad or unpleasant feelings altogether. It just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way–instead of taking everything as a victim to negative circumstances, you see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Be aware of self talk!

These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self talk comes from logic and reason, while other self talk may arise from misconceptions that you create. Others could come from external sources such as negative people around you, or messages from the media.

The key is to surround yourself with positive influences that can help turn those negative thoughts into positive, more productive actions.You’ll not only feel better about the situation, but in the long run, positive thinking can lower your levels of distress and depression and give you better coping skills during hardships.

Researchers studying the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health have also found that positive thinking may provide increased life span, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and even greater resistance to the common cold!

It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, but one theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

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Suffering is Inevitable, So It’s Best to Accept It 

Now, one thing that everyone goes through at some point, is suffering. It’s a harsh reality, yet you can’t actually avoid it. We experience suffering as the result of unhappiness, fear, anger, loss or frustration. In fact, it would be hard to even imagine the feeling of happiness if we never experienced suffering! How would we ever compare it?

So instead of wallowing in sorrow about the suffering you have endured, take the suffering as an opportunity for change. Did you get laid off from your job? Perhaps this would be a good time to re-assess your career goals.

Rather than feeling negative and stuck, use your time and energy to find opportunities which will put you ahead. With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

This may sound crazy, but suffering is the secret to being successful! 

Here’s what I mean. It’s impossible to think of new ideas or understand new experiences without stepping outside of your comfort zone. Anyone who has met great successes has also faced many failures, as nobody wins on every try.

To propel you toward success, find a way to track your progress and to set and celebrate small benchmarks. It may be helpful to conduct a weekly review to assess where you are and acknowledge all of the small wins of the week. Every accomplishment, no matter how small, is an achievement; so, be sure to take note of them.

Tracking your progress is also a great way to find and mitigate triggers and hindrances that impede your progress. The point is, you’re making progress; even if it feels like suffering, you can see that it’s leading you to joy.

Remember, don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Each step you make towards progress is making you a better version of you.

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Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Shaping Attitude 

Now, this may seem difficult to do when you’re already feeling down, but having gratitude is a very useful when you’re trying to navigate your way out of a setback. Being grateful for existing accomplishments and the supports in your life will help you see them more clearly, build your own confidence, and give you a better overall outlook on what your limitations really are and what you have to do to overcome them.

With a grateful attitude, you limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Being grateful, even during the toughest of times, steers your attitude towards a more positive one, allowing you to get back on your feet much more quickly. Many studies done on gratitude have shown positive results for people who practice regularly, such as improvement in relationships and in mental health. There’s even studies that show higher motivation in work settings due to a simple ‘thank you’ from managers to their subordinates.

Believe in Yourself and Your Truth

This is often easier said than done, but is also the most empowering truth to overcoming your setbacks and limitations in life.

Many people find it hard to keep a positive attitude during tough times because they lack inner confidence. They doubt their abilities because of the ‘failure’ that they’re experiencing, and don’t think that they can rise above again.

But, confidence doesn’t just come from talent, luck or easy opportunity. Confidence comes from overcoming difficulties and facing your fears head on. 

Confidence is a result of getting out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the more confident you’ll be, and the more positive your attitude will be. Confidence will help you see your goals more clearly, find your strengths within, reach your goals and overcome your limitations much more quickly.

Here’s a quick story about my own struggles helping me get ahead:

When I first started Lifehack, it took a long time to gain a solid readership. Just getting 100 visitors was a challenge and took a good bit of time. I had great ambitions for this site, yet it seemed like I was doomed to fail. I received plenty of criticism, too. Some people thought that the world didn’t need yet another self help site, others offered the opinion that there was something wrong with the idea itself and I was making a mistake.

It was hard for me not to listen to them and, at some times, agree. But, persistence is key, and in the end I chose to believe in my truth.

I worked tirelessly changing the site layout, restructuring articles, and making the site more user friendly. Slowly, I expanded to a team with the hiring of some extremely dynamic and talented people. With each determined effort, the site grew in popularity, and a few years later, we had influenced millions–and continue to do so.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone and facing every challenge head on were the greatest contributing factors to increasing my confidence. So welcome the challenges that come; don’t avoid them, as they’re all opportunities in disguise to feed your growth.

Your Attitude Sets the Tone for Success 

Do you see the importance of having a positive attitude? It is so much more than a mindset or state of mind. Your attitude sets the tone for every action and behavior that follows after, and that will determine how long it takes for you to break free from your current circumstance.

So if you’re currently in an unhappy situation, why not give it a try and look at things from a more positive outlook? As mentioned, not only does having a positive attitude bring about favorable outcomes, it also brings about positive health in the long run.

Embracing hardship as it is, and using it as a learning experience to grow, will also make you stronger. And, whether you’re going through good or bad times, practicing gratitude will no doubt help to limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Lastly, in any circumstance, you are your greatest barrier to success, which is why it’s important to always believe in yourself!

You will always have the power to be in control of your situation because your attitude is determined by you. So start harnessing all that positive thinking to turn those limitations into strengths!

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