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How to Tell If Your Child Has Anger Issues

How to Tell If Your Child Has Anger Issues

Many children have difficulties in expressing their emotions. Dealing with child anger is certainly frustrating for many parents, as they don’t always know how to handle it. Parents need to know how to recognize when their children have anger problems, and take the proper steps to deal with these issues. Some of the signs to look for include.

1. Frequent Temper Tantrums

This is indicative of a child who is angry and always on edge.

2. Disagreeability

Children older than two years of age should be flexible. If they are disagreeable a lot, there may be some psychological issues to deal with.

3. Lack of Problem-Solving Skills

They are unable to solve problems, which leads to frustration, which results in anger outbursts.

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4. Hitting

When children are aggressive and hit others beyond the age of five, it is a sign that they have anger issues. These issues have to be addressed; otherwise, these children will likely become bullies.

5. Lack of Friends

Children with anger issues have problems making and keeping friends, and tend to alienate others.

6. Revenge-Oriented

Many children who have problems with anger tend to always want to get even with someone.

7. Self-Destructive Behavior

Anger issues can lead to children threatening to hurt themselves, and in many cases, following through with those threats.

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8. Property Damage

Anger can lead children to lash out, resulting in the destruction of things around them.

9. Words of Hatred

Often, anger issues cause children to express hate (verbal and physical) towards friends and relatives.

10. Hurting Those Who Are Weaker

When children are angry or feel picked on, they tend to lash out against those who are weaker than themselves, including smaller children and animals.

While anger issues are a sign of emotional immaturity, anger overload could be a sign of mental health issues. If your children show the signs of anger overload, you should contact child psychologist or therapist to assess the situation. There are ways for parents to effectively deal with children who have anger issues. It is important for parents to let their children know that it is okay to feel angry, and to express their anger. Here are some things parents can do to help their children deal with their emotions:

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  • Show them you care. If a child is angry, talk to them about it. Don’t just send them to their room to think about their problems and actions. Let them know that you care about their feelings, and stay with them for as long as they need you.

  • Acknowledge the problem. When your child is angry or upset, ask them why. Tell them that you understand their feelings, and if you know what the problem is.

  • Don’t lose your temper. The worst thing you can do when a child is angry is to get angry yourself. Show them how you can act calmly when angered, and set an example for them. Losing your temper is just going to add fuel to the fire.

  • Setting limits. Children need to know that they can show their anger, but there need to be limits on how much they show. For instance, they can cry, yell, or be silent, but they should not be allowed to get away with violence. Let your child know that you understand their anger, and help them find other ways to vent it.

  • Use anger management techniques. When a child feels an urge to hit something, give them a pillow or a stuffed toy that they can’t hurt. Tell them to stomp their feet, or draw or write down their feelings. Teach them about relaxation breathing, and other forms of stress relief.

  • Help children know the warning signs. When a child is about to lose their temper, there are warning signs. Parents will recognize these signs, and can make their children aware of them as well.

  • Help children understand their feelings. The more children understand why they feel the way they do, the easier it is for them to control their anger. Encourage your children to learn how to express their feelings in a constructive manner.

Featured photo credit: greg westfall via flickr.com

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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