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Once We Accept Our Own Limits, We Can Go Beyond Them

Once We Accept Our Own Limits, We Can Go Beyond Them

Are you feeling down and out? Continuously shamed and blamed because you just do not conform to societally prescribed limits of doing ‘all right’ in the eyes of those around you? You become the social misfit, the rebel, the stubborn hard head. You have heard it all…

‘Why do you have to be so scattered?’

‘You have no sense of order’

‘Wake up!’

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‘Go to sleep!’

‘Your house is a mess, your life is a mess, your  desk is a mess!’

Wait, before you recluse into a corner to avoid all the slamming, listen to this!  These are configured moral shortcomings others devise for you. Every human soul has some shortcoming and some limits,  reclaim your moral agency, humanity,  freedom and life worth, not just for the eyes of others, but for yourself!

Studies have proven you are actually on top of it. Yes, you are. Think about it, you try to keep all neat and tidy but it falls into disarray. If you say yes to a mess, you embrace the universe in its chaotic nature. Messy people may carry stigmas of being imbalanced and apathetic individuals. Actually, if you are disorganized, you have seen the light! You do not let your life be dictated by the ‘neat’ police!

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Let it out! Curse away, why don’t you

Do you find yourself at a loss for words, ending up in a stream of curses that turns heads? The myth of curse words has been deconstructed in a study. Those who came up with a higher stream of curse words in a minute had a higher IQ. Cursing is a release mechanism that makes you feel stronger and the end result? Emotionally intelligent, creative, and beautiful geniuses!

    Be the proud insomniac

    The dreary voices echo in your head, ‘just go and sleep, why don’t you?  Look at the time!’

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      Have you always been scolded for abnormal sleeping habits? Well actually, according to scientific research, night owls have higher IQ scores. If you sleep late, you share the trend with others of high prestige!

      We live in a world that caters to early risers. Most schools begin in early morning hours, most of everything else begins in the mornings, and the common life lesson is “The early bird gets the worm.” Early risers seem to do better because of created norms, painting a very negative light for night owls, but research indicates the very opposite.

      Why be bothered with dreams when you can do? Stay up with the moon!

      What a mess! Or is it?

      (MAYBE A COLLAGE OF GENIUS)

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      So you swear too much, you’re always awake when the rest are in dreamland, and your desk is a total mess!

      All of that is good news. A University of Minnesota study reveals that messy desks are linked to geniuses. Your mind will be occupied with important stuff if you’re not always trying to put everything in its place. Messy environments lead to creative workflows

      Kathleen Vohs, a psychological scientist, says that haphazard environments are the disorderly breakaway from tradition and provide new and fresh insights. Growing up, society makes you believe that if you have a messy space around you have a messy mind. And years later, the drills continue You were forced to clean up or faced being grounded.

      Now get out of your sobbing corner, you cursing, messy night owl! You are a proven genius!

      “It’s a law of physics. The hard truth is that the universe itself is dead-set against our long-term efforts to bring order to the chaos in our lives. That’s because the universe loves chaos” – Adam Frank (Physicist)

      Featured photo Credit: Man with head against wall, The Moon

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      Last Updated on December 2, 2018

      7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

      7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

      When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

      You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

      1. Connecting them with each other

      Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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      It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

      2. Connect with their emotions

      Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

      For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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      3. Keep going back to the beginning

      Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

      On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

      4. Link to your audience’s motivation

      After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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      Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

      5. Entertain them

      While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

      Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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      6. Appeal to loyalty

      Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

      In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

      7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

      Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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