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Once We Accept Our Own Limits, We Can Go Beyond Them

Once We Accept Our Own Limits, We Can Go Beyond Them

Are you feeling down and out? Continuously shamed and blamed because you just do not conform to societally prescribed limits of doing ‘all right’ in the eyes of those around you? You become the social misfit, the rebel, the stubborn hard head. You have heard it all…

‘Why do you have to be so scattered?’

‘You have no sense of order’

‘Wake up!’

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‘Go to sleep!’

‘Your house is a mess, your life is a mess, your  desk is a mess!’

Wait, before you recluse into a corner to avoid all the slamming, listen to this!  These are configured moral shortcomings others devise for you. Every human soul has some shortcoming and some limits,  reclaim your moral agency, humanity,  freedom and life worth, not just for the eyes of others, but for yourself!

Studies have proven you are actually on top of it. Yes, you are. Think about it, you try to keep all neat and tidy but it falls into disarray. If you say yes to a mess, you embrace the universe in its chaotic nature. Messy people may carry stigmas of being imbalanced and apathetic individuals. Actually, if you are disorganized, you have seen the light! You do not let your life be dictated by the ‘neat’ police!

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Let it out! Curse away, why don’t you

Do you find yourself at a loss for words, ending up in a stream of curses that turns heads? The myth of curse words has been deconstructed in a study. Those who came up with a higher stream of curse words in a minute had a higher IQ. Cursing is a release mechanism that makes you feel stronger and the end result? Emotionally intelligent, creative, and beautiful geniuses!

    Be the proud insomniac

    The dreary voices echo in your head, ‘just go and sleep, why don’t you?  Look at the time!’

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      Have you always been scolded for abnormal sleeping habits? Well actually, according to scientific research, night owls have higher IQ scores. If you sleep late, you share the trend with others of high prestige!

      We live in a world that caters to early risers. Most schools begin in early morning hours, most of everything else begins in the mornings, and the common life lesson is “The early bird gets the worm.” Early risers seem to do better because of created norms, painting a very negative light for night owls, but research indicates the very opposite.

      Why be bothered with dreams when you can do? Stay up with the moon!

      What a mess! Or is it?

      (MAYBE A COLLAGE OF GENIUS)

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      So you swear too much, you’re always awake when the rest are in dreamland, and your desk is a total mess!

      All of that is good news. A University of Minnesota study reveals that messy desks are linked to geniuses. Your mind will be occupied with important stuff if you’re not always trying to put everything in its place. Messy environments lead to creative workflows

      Kathleen Vohs, a psychological scientist, says that haphazard environments are the disorderly breakaway from tradition and provide new and fresh insights. Growing up, society makes you believe that if you have a messy space around you have a messy mind. And years later, the drills continue You were forced to clean up or faced being grounded.

      Now get out of your sobbing corner, you cursing, messy night owl! You are a proven genius!

      “It’s a law of physics. The hard truth is that the universe itself is dead-set against our long-term efforts to bring order to the chaos in our lives. That’s because the universe loves chaos” – Adam Frank (Physicist)

      Featured photo Credit: Man with head against wall, The Moon

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      Last Updated on February 18, 2019

      Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

      Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

      The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

      If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

      The Need for Change

      Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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      We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

      Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

      This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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        Signs It’s Time to Redefine

        “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

        So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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        In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

        “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

        The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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        When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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          Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

          And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

          Featured photo credit: BK via flickr.com

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