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Once We Accept Our Own Limits, We Can Go Beyond Them

Once We Accept Our Own Limits, We Can Go Beyond Them

Are you feeling down and out? Continuously shamed and blamed because you just do not conform to societally prescribed limits of doing ‘all right’ in the eyes of those around you? You become the social misfit, the rebel, the stubborn hard head. You have heard it all…

‘Why do you have to be so scattered?’

‘You have no sense of order’

‘Wake up!’

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‘Go to sleep!’

‘Your house is a mess, your life is a mess, your  desk is a mess!’

Wait, before you recluse into a corner to avoid all the slamming, listen to this!  These are configured moral shortcomings others devise for you. Every human soul has some shortcoming and some limits,  reclaim your moral agency, humanity,  freedom and life worth, not just for the eyes of others, but for yourself!

Studies have proven you are actually on top of it. Yes, you are. Think about it, you try to keep all neat and tidy but it falls into disarray. If you say yes to a mess, you embrace the universe in its chaotic nature. Messy people may carry stigmas of being imbalanced and apathetic individuals. Actually, if you are disorganized, you have seen the light! You do not let your life be dictated by the ‘neat’ police!

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Let it out! Curse away, why don’t you

Do you find yourself at a loss for words, ending up in a stream of curses that turns heads? The myth of curse words has been deconstructed in a study. Those who came up with a higher stream of curse words in a minute had a higher IQ. Cursing is a release mechanism that makes you feel stronger and the end result? Emotionally intelligent, creative, and beautiful geniuses!

    Be the proud insomniac

    The dreary voices echo in your head, ‘just go and sleep, why don’t you?  Look at the time!’

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      Have you always been scolded for abnormal sleeping habits? Well actually, according to scientific research, night owls have higher IQ scores. If you sleep late, you share the trend with others of high prestige!

      We live in a world that caters to early risers. Most schools begin in early morning hours, most of everything else begins in the mornings, and the common life lesson is “The early bird gets the worm.” Early risers seem to do better because of created norms, painting a very negative light for night owls, but research indicates the very opposite.

      Why be bothered with dreams when you can do? Stay up with the moon!

      What a mess! Or is it?

      (MAYBE A COLLAGE OF GENIUS)

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      So you swear too much, you’re always awake when the rest are in dreamland, and your desk is a total mess!

      All of that is good news. A University of Minnesota study reveals that messy desks are linked to geniuses. Your mind will be occupied with important stuff if you’re not always trying to put everything in its place. Messy environments lead to creative workflows

      Kathleen Vohs, a psychological scientist, says that haphazard environments are the disorderly breakaway from tradition and provide new and fresh insights. Growing up, society makes you believe that if you have a messy space around you have a messy mind. And years later, the drills continue You were forced to clean up or faced being grounded.

      Now get out of your sobbing corner, you cursing, messy night owl! You are a proven genius!

      “It’s a law of physics. The hard truth is that the universe itself is dead-set against our long-term efforts to bring order to the chaos in our lives. That’s because the universe loves chaos” – Adam Frank (Physicist)

      Featured photo Credit: Man with head against wall, The Moon

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      Last Updated on August 15, 2018

      When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

      When You Start to Enjoy Being Single, These 12 Things Will Happen

      Being single can make you weary, especially if you didn't initiate a breakup, it could be easy to get carried away with reminiscing and what-if scenarios. Staying caught up in the past is toxic to your growth, however, and interferes with your ability to move forward. Single life can be self-actualizing and enjoyable, but you need to embrace it first. No matter where you are on your journey in coming to terms with being single, the following 12 fantastic things will happen when you accept it.

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      1. You will be more focused.

        Once you start to treasure your new-found freedom, you will realize that taking time for yourself will show you what is most important in your life. Enjoying your single time will make what you want clearer and reveal which areas of your life you should build upon. Additionally, studies show that experiencing something alone results in our brain forming a more clear and longer lasting memory.

        2. You will be more active.

          Studies show that unmarried people are also more fit than their hitched counterparts. Let yourself welcome being single, and use this time to your benefit. You'll be more confident and in control when you do meet someone special.

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          3. You will be more likely to have high goals.

            Being single means you can't settle. In case someone who captures your heart comes along, you need to be at the top of your game. By embracing your time being single, you will be more able to pursue your goals and work towards a more complete, fulfilling future.

            4. You will be more creative.

              Spending time alone is also linked to an increase in creative thinking. Spending more time alone will force you to be a deeper thinker, and could lead you to solutions and projects you wouldn't have thought of otherwise.

              5. Your schedule will be your own.

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                Once you get past feeling lonely and realize how wonderful being single is, you will become aware of one of the best perks – your schedule is now completely your own. No longer do you need to have nights out approved, nor will long days at work get interrupted. Relax into loving your single life because nothing is quite as liberating as deciding every moment of your weekly schedule.

                6. You will likely save money.

                  Dating is a great way to wave goodbye to all your hard earned cash. When you're with someone, there's nothing more important than impressing them, including your income. However, when the relationship fizzles, you realize how this tactic doesn't pay off. Not only are we more prone to spending when dating, married couples are more likely to have credit card debt than unmarried singles. So don't get depressed when you're eating cheap meals alone – it's really a form of investing in your future!

                  7. You won't need to compromise on entertainment.

                    Particularly if your significant other tends to have different tastes than you, being single can be a blessing. As soon as you can appreciate being single, you will realize how freeing it is to always watch exactly what you want. There is no longer any need to skimp on your favorite movies, plays, or TV shows that others don't appreciate.

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                    8. You will have more time for your family.

                      Another thing you will realize once you learn to relish being single is you now have much more time for family. Especially when it comes to older relatives, time spent with them truly is precious. Make the most of your single time by reconnecting with family members in your life you may have been neglecting.

                      9. You have more time for your friends.

                        Once you start basking in your single glory, you will also find that you have more time for your friends. Not only will increased free time let you reconnect with friends you may have neglected while being half of a couple, studies also show that married people have much weaker social lives than those who are unmarried.

                        10. You will find new haunts in your city.

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                          Once you start to enjoy your single life again you will also find that you have plenty of time to rediscover your city. Where relationships see us fall into the same habit of favorite spots to drink, eat, or dance, when you're on your own you will naturally start to explore fresh venues again.

                          11. You'll find more interests.

                            Similarly, enjoying your time being single will give you more time to consider new hobbies and interests. Instead of repeating the same go-to dates, you can now freely explore activities that really make you passionate.

                            12. You will be more aware of what you want.

                              Ultimately, taking time to ourselves is an important ingredient in discovering what type of person is our ideal match, or what career we can happily commit to. By delighting in your uninhibited life, you are more able to experiment and thereby find out what works for you and what doesn't. Don't look at being single as a drawback, since learning more about yourself and finding out what makes you tick are crucial in forming balanced, healthy relationships in the future.

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