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Here’s How To Make Kids Love You

Here’s How To Make Kids Love You

Children are the cutest human beings on earth. They bring a lot of color and laughter to our lives. However, it does not mean that they don’t throw tantrums. Sometimes, kids do not want to talk or play with strangers or even with people they are acquainted with. If you love kids and you want to make kids love you, here’s how to do it.

Try our simple tricks and see the difference yourself!

1. Relax and enjoy whatever the activity is

We, as adults, usually have a lot of things to do on our mind. Due to this, we get easily irritated when kids don’t immediately follow our instructions. Just relax! Yes, that is one great tip I can give you. When you loosen up, you automatically begin to enjoy the activities and conversation with the kids. They are very smart. They can sense it and will be in love with your company.

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2. Respect children

We have somehow come to associate the word respect with older people only. Children are as human as we are and have similar need to get respect from others. When we give someone respect, we listen to what they are saying and value it. Exactly like adults, this is what kids want. To be heard and valued.

3. Act funny

Kids love fun and funny activities, whether it is playing peek-a-boo or hearing sounds that they find funny and can giggle at. Children love to be with those people who have fun with them. Learn a few things that you can use to win favors from kids, like making funny noises or faces, playing hide and seek or producing something that they like all of a sudden in front of them. You will feel the kids absolutely love you!

4. Don’t overdo your display of affection

Sometimes, we overkill. We go out of the way to please kids or show our affection. That puts off the kids. They are good judges of your actions and attitude. Do show affection but don’t overdo it.  Occasionally, it is good to let kids be. They will love you for the space that you give to them.

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5. Be patient

Just like adults, every kid is different. If we try to interact with them in the same manner or rush them into a conversation, we are bound to be disliked by them. If you want to make kids love you, be careful and patient with every kid. They will become frank with you at their own pace and when they do, trust me, you will enjoy it to the fullest.

6. Don’t try to discipline children all the time:

Who doesn’t like kids with good manners? Every one of us wants kids to be be well-behaved and have great manners. However, this does not mean at all that we try to discipline them all the time. Kids love to be mischievous, roam around, run and play. They will absolutely love you if you give them the margin of being kids.

7. Shower children with compliments

Exactly like adults, kids love to be praised. Whether you appreciate their looks, manners or clothes, they will adore you for it. Of course, you should try to be genuine. Otherwise, kids can always gauge your real feelings. They will love you even more if you praise something that they also like, for instance, a cartoon character on their shoes or t-shirt, their bag adorned with a cartoon or their bottle that is an all time favorite.

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8. Take them seriously

The things that kids love might be small or insignificant for you but to them, they are the whole world. When kids try to tell you something or want you to show something, take it very seriously. We think that kids wouldn’t mind us taking them lightly but no, it is not the case. You can instantly win their love and attention by paying attention to their small belongings.

9. Act like a kid yourself

There’s nothing more that kids would worship. Children like the company of other children but that doesn’t mean an adult can’t act like one. Discover your inner child and see the spark of love in the eyes of other kids.

10. Give them presents

Last but not the least; it is a great way to gain a kid’s favor. Obviously, I do not mean to suggest that you always shower the kids with gifts but they get happy with little things like a tiny toy or a favorite sweet. Giving them gifts will make you very likable and they will love you for it.

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Try these tips with kids and let us know how successful you are!

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Last Updated on August 13, 2020

12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

As a mediation teacher, I am constantly confronted with these two questions regarding the benefits of meditation:

1. Why can’t I enjoy the benefits of meditation continuously?

I ask back: Is it maybe because you see mediation as a technique, performance, or some exclusive activity? The answer is: yes!

Or, because your mind is constantly evolving on the past negative attachments and traditional habits? After careful thinking they answer: yes, probably!

Although meditation is very simple and challenging at the same time, in the above mentioned case, it’s not easy to benefit from meditation, especially when approached with the idea that it has to be learned, studied, or applied. Meditation is to be seen as a natural, mental cleansing process that happens on a basis of awareness on a moment-to-moment experience. When that takes place, the benefits of meditation are continuous.

2. What is the purpose of meditation?

The purpose of meditation is to accomplish a level of consciousness for mastering the mind and uniting with the finest, deepest, and subtlest part of yourself as a being.

It is a conscious process of observation of the mind—helping the meditator to understand the structure of its mind and the quality of its content. During this process, countless benefits of a physical, mental, and spiritual/philosophical nature arise for the meditator.

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Meditation as a Fixer and Benefactor

In this article we’ll have a look at the primary and the ultimate benefits of mediation, which improve your body and mind at the same time. For the sake of clarity, readability, and tangible experience, I have separated the benefits into three groups.

You can change just about anything you don’t like about yourself (psychologically, as well as physically) through meditation. However, this is only possible with a specific approach, when your brain allows the benefits of meditation to do their work.

This means not to interrupt the benefit with other thoughts, but to let their effect implement itself in your body and mind. This approach is crucial.

The following exercises will make you feel the benefits of meditation instantly, but the continuity of the benefits of meditation on your body and mind depend on the discipline of your brain, how you manage external stimuli and your thoughts.

Less Physical, More Psychological

Even though the practice of meditation is more psychological and less physical, the first benefit we’re going to experience is both physical as well as mental.

This benefit happens literally immediately, right at the moment of meditation. It is the essence of mediation basically.

The First Benefit of Meditation

The first benefit of meditation is twofold:

  1. Improving inward attention (sharpening the mind)
  2. Relaxation of the body

Let’s do it right now. This benefit consists of only one step, and it is very simple to perform. It goes like this:

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Sit still and pay attention to your exhalation.

That’s it! Technically, the whole journey into the world of mediation begins here and nowhere else. And right here, you benefit from this step in the following way:

When you pay attention to the flow of your exhalation (gentle, deep, effortless exhalation), your body begins with the process of relaxation instantly (your heart rate slows down, your nervous system calms, and tension in your muscles is relieved).

When the nervous system calms, your mind calms down, and, more specifically, less thoughts are produced by your mind. How, exactly? By applying one of the most valuable mental skills—attention—the mind follows the breathing and has no space and time to generate any other thoughts. Only when the attention goes off the breath, other thoughts are constructed, and the mind is accelerating with thought production again.

Keeping the First Benefit Effective and Ongoing

Here you apply the approach of not letting the relaxation and attention process get interrupted; rather let the effects of these benefits implant in your body and mind as deeply as possible.

This is to say, the instant relaxation and inward attention happen at the same time when you follow the flow of your breath. Repeating this process—creating a constant rhythm out of the breathing and the attention—you create a process of meditation.

Keep your attention on the flow of your breath and see how the calmness of body and mind begin to rule your present moment. The longer you stay connected to your breathing, the stronger you’ll feel the benefit. Start with 3-5 minutes at a time without doing anything else, and increase to 10-20 minutes and onwards.

Can you think of a better, simpler and quicker exercise that can relax the body and improve attention in this way, at this speed?

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This benefit takes you to the second one.

The Second Benefit of Meditation

While still working with the first benefit of mediation, you slowly start to see the second benefit of mediation, which is fourfold. I call it the major value of mediation:

  1. Energy (physical and mental strength)
  2. Observance
  3. Peacefulness (stillness, and space of mind for deeper observation)
  4. Patience

Peacefulness is the source of a blissful life. The energy is the fuel to express that blissfulness. Whatever we want to accomplish in life we need: 1) Physical and mental strength, 2) Observance of that energy, 3) Peacefulness—the calmness and stillness that creates space for freedom of being and creative thinking, and 4) Patience for the process of accomplishment.

You can only get creative in thinking and boosted with physical and mental energy when you get in touch with the deepest levels of yourself—when you harmonize your mental and physiological activities. How do you do that? Let’s try it right now:

This step involves the observation of the two separate movements of your breath. After paying attention on your exhalation, you have prepared your body and mind to really see and feel what true peacefulness and true energy means.

1. Energy

Keep your attention on your inhalation (inhaling gently, deeply and lightly) and feel the new energy (new oxygen) flowing in your body. The inhalation is the symbol for aliveness and vitality. It is the the primary act that connects the baby’s body with the outside world after coming out of the womb[1]. Each inhalation is a new opportunity for your body to revive, regenerate, and renew itself.

2. Observance

The observance comes during the process of meditation, enabling you to see the physiological benefits of introducing new energy to your body. Use that benefit by utilizing its effects, and create deeper observation into yourself. With every single inhalation, this observation will enable you to generate even more energy, mentally and physically.

3. Peacefulness

Keep your attention on your exhalation, and feel how, out of the relaxation, peacefulness is spreading throughout your whole body. The exhalation is the symbol for relaxation and peacefulness. Only through meditation can you realize what absolute peacefulness means.

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4. Patience

The meditation delivers the previous benefits to you immediately and opens up the possibility for many other benefits and great virtues. A specific one to mention, which is essential for reaching the ultimate benefits of meditation, is patience. If you have experienced the aforementioned benefits, it means that you have invested a certain amount of patience into mastering yourself and your mind.

The Ultimate Benefits of Meditation

Patience is a key quality when it comes to the ultimate benefits of meditation.

Since the mind is the tool that reveals everything, mediation is the method for the proper utility of the tool.

The above mentioned benefits of mediation lead to the ultimate benefits of mediation—qualities that depict what makes a human being human. As you dwell in a meditative state of being, the following benefits begin to emanate:

  • Diligence: the persistence for righteous effort to reach an intrinsic value; inner strength.
  • Temperance: to express self-control and show excellence in managing the physio-biological and mental necessities
  • Courage: using righteous effort and braveness to look into the weaknesses of yourself and at the hardship of your life, endure it and patiently overcome the obstacles
  • Loving kindness and Compassion – a capacity to care, understand, and tolerate other people’s state of being, wishing them freedom from suffering.
  • Wisdom: the moment when you feel that mediation gives you the feeling and the knowledge that what you do relating to life and practical affairs is just.
  • Equanimity: that puts you in a state of composure, and you experience an ongoing blissful state of being.

These are the 6 ultimate benefits of meditation that put your body and mind in a state of health and balance.

Final Thoughts

Mediation exists to put order in your mind and awaken the best of you, to reconnect you to your goodness and your inborn intelligent capabilities.

Meditation is the window to your true Self. It gives you a panoramic view of your heart’s greatness. It shows you the true meaning of love, freeing you from the dungeons of ignorance and despair. The power of meditation dismantles the evil that’s trying to cloud the beauty of your heart.

Your heart, body, and soul are the bridge over which the challenges of life frequently carry their heavy load. Meditation is the support of that bridge. Make use of that support.

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Reference

[1] Medline Plus: Changes in the newborn at birth

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