If you’re like me and really into self-development, you’ve probably read many of the thousands of self-help books out there on the market. But also like me, you probably find all the information a bit overwhelming.
That’s why I wanted to do the self-less task of taking the most important, life-changing lessons I’ve drawn from these books and condensed them into fifty key points.
Here’re 50 habits of highly successful people you should learn:
1. You have to believe it to see it
Our minds tend to focus on what’s happening around us and refuse to see what could happen. Only when you trust in what’s possible and dare to dream big, big things can happen for you.
2. Problems are actually a wonderful gift
While others only see problems and give up, successful people use the problem as a lesson to find improvement in themselves or the task at hand.
3. Solutions are all they’re looking for
Even if they’re knee-deep in problems, successful people will still put all of their focus on finding solutions.
4. It’s all about the journey
Successful people are conscious and methodical in creating their own success. They don’t sit around doing the bare minimum, hoping success finds them.
5. Feel the fear and do it anyway
There’s so much fear on the road to success, but instead of letting that fear control and limit them, successful people do a good job of just forging ahead regardless.
6. The magic of productive questions
It’s all about asking the right questions. Successful people make sure they are questions that will elicit information for a more productive, creative and positive mindset moving forward.
7. The best waste of energy is complaining
Successful people know that choosing to see the negative side of things will only create a useless and unproductive state.
8. Don’t play the blame game
Taking responsibility for actions and outcomes is a form of empowerment that you can build your success upon. While the act of blaming others or outside circumstances takes this empowerment away from you.
9. Maximize their strengths
Not every successful person is simply more talented than the rest, but they do use what they know they’re good at to achieve more successful results.
10. You’ve got to be in it to win it
Successful people are busy, productive and proactive. Instead of sitting around over-thinking and over-planning a great idea, they just take a step towards it no matter how small.
11. Success attracts success
People who are successful surround themselves and seek out like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team and forge win-win relationships.
12. Actually choosing to be successful
Dreaming big is a massive part of being successful even if your dream seems impossible. Ambition is a mindset that needs to be a daily conscious choice.
13. Visualize, visualize, visualize!
You’ve got to see your success in your mind’s eye even before it comes. Successful people clarify and get that certainty about what they want their reality to look like rather than being mere spectators of life.
14. Be a one-off original
Successful people look for what’s working and then create a unique spin on it. Imitating only regurgitates other people’s ideas with no originality.
15. The perfect time to act is NOW
Waiting for the right time to act is basically procrastination wrapped up in an excuse. Successful people know there’s never a perfect time so they may as well just do it now.
16. Learning is growing
Continuous learning is the key to a successful life. Whether it’s academic, being a student of life or actionable learning, it’s all about expanding your knowledge and personal development.
17. Always look on the bright side of life
Successful people have the knack for finding positive aspects in all people and circumstances no matter what.
18. Having a bad day? Do it anyway!
We all have bad moods but it shouldn’t be an excuse to stop everything. Giving into a bad mood just stop-starts your life, slowing success way down.
19. Sometimes risky business is needed
Calculated risks are a must for success. It’s about weighing the pros and cons while moving forward with that element of trust.
20. Challenge accepted!
Dealing with problems head-on is a must to be successful. Successful people also face challenges in order to improve themselves.
21. Making their own luck
In the mindset of a successful person, there’s no such thing as ‘luck’ or ‘fate’. They take control to actively and consciously create their own best life.
22. Ignite their initiative
While many people are reactive, successful people are proactive – taking action before they have to.
23. Emotional managers
Being effective at managing emotions is key on the road to success. That’s not to say successful people don’t feel like we all do, but they’re just not slaves to their emotions.
24. Communication champions
Consciously working on effective communication skills gets anyone closer to success.
25. Strategic life planners
Successful people’s lives aren’t a clumsy series of unplanned events and outcomes, they methodically work at turning their plans into a reality.
26. Becoming exceptional at what they do
To become exceptional, you typically have to do things that most won’t. To become successful, hard decisions need to be made and acting on them is crucial.
27. Choosing to live outside comfort zones
While many people are pleasure junkies and avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, successful people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough stuff that most would avoid.
28. Living by core values
Successful people firstly identify their core values and what’s important to them, then do their best to live a life that reflects these values.
29. Realizing money isn’t everything
Money and success are not interchangeable and the most successful people understand this. Putting money on a pedestal and equating it to success is a dangerous mindset to have. Success comes in many forms.
30. Don’t get carried away
Successful people understand the importance of discipline and self-control and as a result they are happy to take the road less travelled.
31. Self-worth is not tied to success
Successful people are secure. They do not derive their self-worth from what they own, who they know, where they live or what they look like.
32. Kindness breeds kindness (and success)
Generosity and kindness is a common trait among long-term successful people. It’s important to take pleasure in helping others achieve.
33. More humility, less arrogance
Successful people are humble and happy to admit and apologize for mistakes. This is because they’re confident in their ability. They are happy to learn from others and happy to make others look good rather than seek their own personal glory.
34. Change opens new doors
People who are successful are adaptable and embrace change, while the majority are creatures of comfort and habit. They are comfortable with, and embrace, the new and the unfamiliar.
35. A healthy body for success
It’s not just how you think, it’s about how you show up for success. Successful people understand the importance of being physically well, not for vain reasons but because being in tiptop condition creates a better personal life for success.
36. Laziness just doesn’t exist
Successful people are never considered lazy. Yes, they can relax when they need to, but working hard is their game.
37. Resilience by the bucket load
When difficulty strikes, most would throw in the towel, but successful people are just warming up.
38. Feedback is just another chance to improve
How people react to feedback determines their potential for success. Being open to constructive criticism and acting on it to improve is most seen in those who are successful.
39. Your vibe attracts your tribe
If people are hanging out with toxic and negative people, then they need to take a look at themselves. Successful people hang out with others who are positive and supportive.
40. Can’t control it? Forget it
Successful people don’t invest time or emotional energy into things which they have no control of.
41. Swimming against the tide
Successful people are not people-pleasers and they don’t need constant approval from others in order to move ahead.
42. Alone time is valuable time
More self-worth means being more comfortable with your own company. Successful people are more happy and see the value in spending time alone.
43. Self-standard is higher than most
Everyone has a choice to set high standards for themselves. Successful people do this, which in turn produces greater commitment, more momentum, a better work ethic and of course, better results.
44. Failure isn’t rationalized
While many use age, health, lack of time, ‘bad luck’, or lack of opportunity to explain away their failure, the key to success is finding a way to succeed despite facing these challenges.
45. Down time is an important part of a routine
Having an off switch and taking time to do things that make them happy is a common trait of a successful person.
46. Career isn’t who they are, it’s what they do
Successful people know their career isn’t their identity. They are multi-dimensional and don’t define themselves by their job.
47. They aren’t interested in the path of least resistance
While most people look for the easiest way or the shortcut, successful people are more interested in the most effective way. They look for the course of action which will produce the best results over the long term.
48. They follow through
Many spend their life starting things that they never finish, but successful people get the job done. Even when the excitement and the novelty has worn off they still follow through and finish.
49. They invest in all their dimensions
We’re not just physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well. Successful people consciously work at being healthy and productive on all levels.
50. They put their money where their mouth is
To obtain success, it’s important to practice what you preach. Successful people don’t talk about the theory, they live the reality.
So there you have it, a summary of what I’ve learned from self-help books. But of course, you need to start taking actions so you will get closer to success too.
If you want to learn more about each of the above habits, you can always check out the books: