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A Simple Guide to Find Your Passion (And Building a Business Around It)

A Simple Guide to Find Your Passion (And Building a Business Around It)

Have you ever wanted to live life on your own terms?

Have you thought about going after what you truly feel called to do, but not done it?

You’re not alone.

We’re all in the same boat. We’re here for a reason. And what excites you is trying to pull you in the right direction.

But so often we resist.

We’re scared, worried, and most of all, overwhelmed.

Going after something meaningful takes courage. The fear will never go away. And the uncertainty will always be there. Those are not bad things.

They’re good, because they mean you’re on the right track. When you’re both excited and scared, you’re doing well.

What is Passion Anyway?

The term passion has been thrown around a lot lately.

To me it simply means doing something you enjoy right now. It doesn’t mean you have to be 110% passionate about whatever you’re doing, all the time. It simply means that there is a certain amount of excitement in your life.

If you’d like to use another term for passion, by all means do so. The word itself has no meaning. What’s important is what the word is pointing to, which is the feeling of joy.

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For the sake of this article, I’ll stick with the word passion.

Why Should You Find Your Passion?

When you find and follow your passion, things change.

When you let go of living a “logical” life, you free yourself up to let life unfold.

You let go of trying to control every little detail, because in reality, you’ve never been in control. Trying to mold the external world to your liking doesn’t work, which is why it leaves you exhausted.

Finding your passion makes life easier, but it will also make it harder. Going after something meaningful is scary. It takes time. But it is also well worth it. I started on this path over five years ago. I stumbled, failed, and gave up many times.

Today, I get paid to do what I love.

I can do what I want, when I want and from where I want. It still amazes me to this day.

The 3 Pillars to Finding Your Profitable Passion

Finding your passion is tough. When you try to find a profitable passion, it becomes even harder.

Almost everyone has money issues. What I mean is that we view money negatively, and when you bring that into the passion equation, everything breaks down.

This is not an article about dealing with your beliefs about money, but it is something you should pay attention to on this path. There are three main pillars I work with when I help people find their profitable passion.

1. Excitement

The first one is excitement. What do you feel excited about doing?

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What do you feel passionate about?

Don’t try to overanalyze or think too much about the future. No one can predict the future. There’s no use in trying to control it.

Focus on what your feelings are telling you, and go from there.

2. Skills

The next step is to look at your skills. What are you good at?

Think broadly. If you’ve worked in an office as a secretary for 10 years, you may think you have no skills.

But think about what you were really good at. Were you a Jedi at organizing things? Were you amazingly productive?

Then dive deeper into those. There’s so much for you to discover, if you just let yourself play with this. If you’re currently in school or just out of college, look at your life experiences. What have been the common themes?

3. Demand

And finally, in order to create a profitable business around your passion, there has to be demand.

Look at what’s already out there. If you’re into productivity, there are a lot of things you could do. You could help businesses become more productive.

You could help regular people simplify their life. It all depends on where excitement, skill and demand intersect. And remember, if you don’t have any skills, get some.

Leave the excuses behind.

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The Mistake People Make

Right about now most of my clients get overwhelmed.

They feel like they could never do this.

The reason they feel overwhelmed is because they’re trying to figure it out. Stop doing that. Let the future be uncertain. The only thing you have to do is take the next step, which is to figure out what you’re excited about.

If you don’t know, then it doesn’t matter what you do. Figuring out what you don’t want to do is as useful as figuring out what you want to do.

Follow the excitement.

Follow your heart.

And remember to breathe. This is not an easy journey.

The Anti-Quick Fix Mindset

Don’t try to force clarity.

Let life unfold in whatever way it does.

You can only do what you can do. I’ve learned this the hard way.

I’ve always wanted to make things happen now, but it seems the universe doesn’t quite bend to my will, yet. I’ve had to adapt. I’ve had to learn to be more open. To accept how things are. And deal with them.

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If you’re just starting out on this journey, let the struggle be okay. Embrace your fears, worries and all the wanting to figure things out.

All the wanting to get it perfect.

What Now?

You’ll never get it perfect.

And you’ll never get rid of the fear. Not until you start.

If you want to find your passion and build a business around it, your next step is simple: move forward. If you haven’t found your passion, start following your excitement.

If you know what you’re passionate about, find a way to blend it with your skills and market demand.

In short, take the next step, wherever you are.

Excuses will pop up. Fears will try to hold you down. But you have to be relentless.

You have to keep going.

You can live a life on your own terms. But you have to be willing to take the first step.

Featured photo credit:  young woman sitting on a rock on a hill and taking pictures with a camera via Shutterstock

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13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

Why is this so critically important to you?

The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

  • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
  • The man facing the judge.
  • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
  • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
  • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
  • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

2. Accept Your Fear

Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

And here’s what can be done.

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3. Get Some Perspective

I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

  • Are you really at risk?
  • Will this kill you?
  • Which leads us on to..
  • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

4. Hold a Hand

As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

Ask yourself:

  • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
  • Could that really happen?
  • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
  • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

8. Assume the Worse

If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

  • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
  • Think about how they feel about champagne?
  • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

11. Go with Fear

When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

13. Own Your Fear

Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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