“In order to succeed, your desire to succeed must be greater than your fear of failure.” ~ Bill Cosby
Almost everyone I know wants to succeed. And genuinely so. Their efforts are sincere and their intentions, noble. They even try hard. Why is it that some people succeed at most things they undertake while many others fail at anything they try? It is not uncommon to see that some people get really lucky. They end up at the right place at the right time and success just happens to them, or so it seems.
When you are serious about success, it is serious about you too. When you keep chiseling away at your goal, you learn to identify opportunities and make use of them. Today, I bring to you five principles of success. When we follow these principles, our chances of being at the right place at the right time go up significantly. These five golden principles will help you stay motivated right till the end.Advertising
“What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
Being positive is a habit. It’s a matter of choice. It doesn’t mean that one let goes of actions and wait for things to happen. Positivity is about chasing your dreams with a heart for any fate. It is reminding yourself that your world has not come to an end and that there’s plenty more you can do. Positivity makes you proactive and sharpens your intellect. Being positive is not about false reassurance or vain affirmations, it is about action.
This is the most common roadblock on the journey to success. Patience is knowing that Rome wasn’t built in a day. Your habits were not formed overnight, you did not gain weight in a matter of days, similarly, you cannot break old habits or change yourself in jiffy. Think of an artist, a sculptor or a builder. They keep working on their project, one stroke, one brick at a time. If you are serious about gaining body mass or losing weight, improving your skills at tennis or boosting your memory, you must not forego patience. When you stay course, taking one step at a time, you will finish a journey of thousand miles before long.
“It’s not that I’m smarter, I just stay with problems longer.” ~ Albert Einstein
When you are persistent, results certainly show through. And with positive results, it becomes easier to be motivated. Patience thrives in the persistent mind. Imagine a tennis match between two champions. The one who can patiently and consistently play one good shot after the other, staying persistent, will eventually win over the other opponent. One common trait among the most successful across the globe has been their persistence. When you are persistent, new ideas spring up automatically.Advertising
We are often motivated by the results, by the joy of reaching at the destination. The primary difference between an elusive dream and a real goal is that the latter has discipline and action. Discipline is sticking to your mental and physical routine, it’s going by the plan, it’s about following your course of action. The best way to follow any discipline is to ignore your heart. For example, you committed yourself to hit the gym four times a week. Today, you are feeling lazy and don’t want to go to the gym. All you’ve got to do is not listen to your mind. Just get to the gym. Once there, you will find it easy to do your workout.
“Thoughts become things.” ~ Buddha
This one is less shared by the successful people. When you are patient, persistent, positive and disciplined, your thoughts become really powerful. That is the view shared by many yogic texts as well. Your will-power and calmness in the mind gets a massive boost. You can then carry out your visualizations with much greater success. Visualization can have amazing, if not miraculous, effect in keeping you motivated and helping you realize your goals. With a wavering mind and weak resolve, law of attraction will remain a mythical concept. (A while ago I wrote on how to make law of attraction work for you. It requires a certain type of mindset. For better understanding, you can read up here.)
Go on! Take life by the horns and dictate your own terms. Succeeding is a habit too. It’s the one worth cultivating.
Last Updated on January 21, 2020
The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want
Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.
Why You Need a Vision
Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.
How to Create Your Life Vision
Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.
What Do You Want?
The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.
It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.
Some tips to guide you:
- Remember to ask why you want certain things
- Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
- Give yourself permission to dream.
- Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
- Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.
Some questions to start your exploration:
- What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
- What would you like to have more of in your life?
- Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
- What are your secret passions and dreams?
- What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
- What do you want your relationships to be like?
- What qualities would you like to develop?
- What are your values? What issues do you care about?
- What are your talents? What’s special about you?
- What would you most like to accomplish?
- What would legacy would you like to leave behind?
It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.
What Would Your Best Life Look Like?
Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.
A few prompts to get you started:
- What will you have accomplished already?
- How will you feel about yourself?
- What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
- What does your ideal day look like?
- Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
- What would you be doing?
- Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
- How are you dressed?
- What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
- What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
- Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.
It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next step. Give yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.
It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.
- What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
- What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
- What would you have needed to learn along the way?
- What important actions would you have had to take?
- What beliefs would you have needed to change?
- What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
- What type of support would you have had to enlist?
- How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
- What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?
Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.
It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.
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