“In order to succeed, your desire to succeed must be greater than your fear of failure.” ~ Bill Cosby
Almost everyone I know wants to succeed. And genuinely so. Their efforts are sincere and their intentions, noble. They even try hard. Why is it that some people succeed at most things they undertake while many others fail at anything they try? It is not uncommon to see that some people get really lucky. They end up at the right place at the right time and success just happens to them, or so it seems.
When you are serious about success, it is serious about you too. When you keep chiseling away at your goal, you learn to identify opportunities and make use of them. Today, I bring to you five principles of success. When we follow these principles, our chances of being at the right place at the right time go up significantly. These five golden principles will help you stay motivated right till the end.Advertising
“What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
Being positive is a habit. It’s a matter of choice. It doesn’t mean that one let goes of actions and wait for things to happen. Positivity is about chasing your dreams with a heart for any fate. It is reminding yourself that your world has not come to an end and that there’s plenty more you can do. Positivity makes you proactive and sharpens your intellect. Being positive is not about false reassurance or vain affirmations, it is about action.
This is the most common roadblock on the journey to success. Patience is knowing that Rome wasn’t built in a day. Your habits were not formed overnight, you did not gain weight in a matter of days, similarly, you cannot break old habits or change yourself in jiffy. Think of an artist, a sculptor or a builder. They keep working on their project, one stroke, one brick at a time. If you are serious about gaining body mass or losing weight, improving your skills at tennis or boosting your memory, you must not forego patience. When you stay course, taking one step at a time, you will finish a journey of thousand miles before long.
“It’s not that I’m smarter, I just stay with problems longer.” ~ Albert Einstein
When you are persistent, results certainly show through. And with positive results, it becomes easier to be motivated. Patience thrives in the persistent mind. Imagine a tennis match between two champions. The one who can patiently and consistently play one good shot after the other, staying persistent, will eventually win over the other opponent. One common trait among the most successful across the globe has been their persistence. When you are persistent, new ideas spring up automatically.Advertising
We are often motivated by the results, by the joy of reaching at the destination. The primary difference between an elusive dream and a real goal is that the latter has discipline and action. Discipline is sticking to your mental and physical routine, it’s going by the plan, it’s about following your course of action. The best way to follow any discipline is to ignore your heart. For example, you committed yourself to hit the gym four times a week. Today, you are feeling lazy and don’t want to go to the gym. All you’ve got to do is not listen to your mind. Just get to the gym. Once there, you will find it easy to do your workout.
“Thoughts become things.” ~ Buddha
This one is less shared by the successful people. When you are patient, persistent, positive and disciplined, your thoughts become really powerful. That is the view shared by many yogic texts as well. Your will-power and calmness in the mind gets a massive boost. You can then carry out your visualizations with much greater success. Visualization can have amazing, if not miraculous, effect in keeping you motivated and helping you realize your goals. With a wavering mind and weak resolve, law of attraction will remain a mythical concept. (A while ago I wrote on how to make law of attraction work for you. It requires a certain type of mindset. For better understanding, you can read up here.)
Go on! Take life by the horns and dictate your own terms. Succeeding is a habit too. It’s the one worth cultivating.
Last Updated on June 13, 2019
5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With
Sleeping next to your partner can be a satisfying experience and is typically seen as the mark of a stable, healthy home life. However, many more people struggle to share a bed with their partner than typically let on. Sleeping beside someone can decrease your sleep quality which negatively affects your life. Maybe you are light sleepers and you wake each other up throughout the night. Maybe one has a loud snoring habit that’s keeping the other awake. Maybe one is always crawling into bed in the early hours of the morning while the other likes to go to bed at 10 p.m.
You don’t have to feel ashamed of finding it difficult to sleep with your partner and you also don’t have to give up entirely on it. Common problems can be addressed with simple solutions such as an additional pillow. Here are five fixes for common sleep issues that couples deal with.
1. Use a bigger mattress to sleep through movement
It can be difficult to sleep through your partner’s tossing and turning all night, particularly if they have to get in and out of bed. Waking up multiple times in one night can leave you frustrated and exhausted. The solution may be a switch to a bigger mattress or a mattress that minimizes movement.
Look for a mattress that allows enough space so that your partner can move around without impacting you or consider a mattress made for two sleepers like the Sleep Number bed. This bed allows each person to choose their own firmness level. It also minimizes any disturbances their partner might feel. A foam mattress like the kind featured in advertisements where someone jumps on a bed with an unspilled glass of wine will help minimize the impact of your partner’s movements.
2. Communicate about scheduling conflicts
If one of you is a night owl and the other an early riser, bedtime can become a source of conflict. It’s hard for a light sleeper to be jostled by their partner coming to bed four hours after them. Talk to your partner about negotiating some compromises. If you’re finding it difficult to agree on a bedtime, negotiate with your partner. Don’t come to bed before or after a certain time, giving the early bird a chance to fully fall asleep before the other comes in. Consider giving the night owl an eye mask to allow them to stay in bed while their partner gets up to start the day.
3. Don’t bring your technology to bed
If one partner likes bringing devices to bed and the other partner doesn’t, there’s very little compromise to be found. Science is pretty unanimous on the fact that screens can cause harm to a healthy sleeper. Both partners should agree on a time to keep technology out of the bedroom or turn screens off. This will prevent both partners from having their sleep interrupted and can help you power down after a long day.
4. White noise and changing positions can silence snoring
A snoring partner can be one of the most difficult things to sleep through. Snoring tends to be position-specific so many doctors recommend switching positions to stop the snoring. Rather than sleeping on your back doctors recommend turning onto your side. Changing positions can cut down on noise and breathing difficulties for any snorer. Using a white noise fan, or sound machine can also help soften the impact of loud snoring and keep both partners undisturbed.
5. Use two blankets if one’s a blanket hog
If you’ve got a blanket hog in your bed don’t fight it, get another blanket. This solution fixes any issues between two partners and their comforter. There’s no rule that you have to sleep under the same blanket. Separate covers can also cut down on tossing and turning making it a multi-useful adaptation.
Rather than giving up entirely on sharing a bed with your partner, try one of these techniques to improve your sleeping habits. Sleeping in separate beds can be a normal part of a healthy home life, but compromise can go a long way toward creating harmony in a shared bed.
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