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20 Table Etiquette Mistakes To Embarrass Yourself

20 Table Etiquette Mistakes To Embarrass Yourself
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So you think you can eat? Politely? If you’ve been spending too much alone time shoving food down your pie hole or hanging with friends whose careers don’t require adult behavior, your manners’ hard drive may be corrupted. It’s time to pull the napkin out of your collar and get serious again about good table manners.

1. Don’t Rush the Table

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    A simple meal at a friend’s home is a great place to practice etiquette skills. Hopefully, you brought along an offering of wine, etc. and once there, are engaged in frivolity. But don’t get too comfortable too fast. Your hosts have some expectations. Let them lead the event including the gesture for seating. Musical chairs ended in grade school and it’s best to wait for their direction on when and where to sit. And naturally, ladies first.

    2. Can you hear me now?

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      Thinking of putting your phone, keys, or purse on the table? This is a clutter free zone, not your kitchen counter. Pack away yourmuteddevices after taking the requisite photos and doing the check in which should be no more than 30 seconds. It’s now considered acceptable to photograph your beautiful food or table mates if the host is doing it, otherwise, save the updates for later. Sara Rimerwas dealing with this a few years ago and her advice is still timely.

      3. Napkin Etiquette

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        It’s so much easier when the napkin is directly on your plate, otherwise panic sets in if you’re confronted with beautifully folded linens placed around the table. Yours is on the left which leaves your right hand free to use your eating utensil. Apologies to the lefties but this was decided long ago by royalty.Napkin History Wait until your host is seated and takes his/her napkin. You may then proceed without great flourish…no snapping or flapping among the refined! Most cloth napkins are big enough for a half fold on your lap while paper napkins can be completely unfolded. A napkin is for keeping hands and face neat; any attempts at using it for a handkerchief will get you promptly moved to the kids’ table.

        4. Place Setting Cheat Code

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          Both hands in front of you now while making this symbol. Look down. Do you see the letterbon your left? That stands forbreadand that’s where your bread plate is located. The letterdis on your right and it meansdrink. No excuses now for scarfing down your neighbor’s bread and water as you’rein the knowwith this tricky cheat code.

          5. Focus on etiquette, not plates

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            You’re seated without your technology which makes googling this puzzle impossible but don’t fear, the wait staff/hosts will guide you at this level. Napkin in place, the service begins and order replaces confusion. You’re the smart one now who recognizes that all thedrinks will be offered to your right and yourbread will be placed to your left. Soups or salads begin using the dish/bowl directly to your front and possibly on your entree plate. They’ve made it easy to find the appropriate utensils as they are placed on theoutsideto be used first. Notice the far left fork (salad) is shorter and wider so as tograbthe greens more efficiently. The soup spoon to the far right is longer and wider to dipdowninto the bowl for every last drop. When getting that drop, you may tilt the bowl but don’t pick it up or even think about bringing it to your mouth!

            When service of your entree begins, your used dishes and utensils will be removed (don’t forget to leave them on those dishes to signal that you’ve completed this course.)

            The entree arrives which leaves the remaining utensils at thesidesfor your use. The smaller ones at the top of the entree plate are waiting for the final coursewhich will be dessert.

            Don’t even worry about the various water and wine glasses placed near you. The staff/host will offer and typically pour your beverage in the appropriate glass saving you the concern over which one to use. But in case you’re a worrier, the water glass and white wine glass are usually simple, tall and slim allowing these clear liquids to be highlighted. Short and wide wine glasses allow red wines to expand their surface while you have room at the top to breathe in their bouquet. Understanding the reasoning behind a shape or placement will help you remember its purpose.

            6. Chew and listen. Swallow then talk.

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              Eating together is fulfilling. Thebreaking of bread in either a business setting or at home with friends and family touches something in our spirit. The ceremony of a meal is conducive to sharing and with that comes a multitude of etiquette mishaps. The most important (and perhaps most abused rule) is DO NOT EAT WITH YOUR MOUTH OPEN! It sounds simple but as we get excited sharing our conversation, we forget tochew and listen, swallow then talk. No matter what you are sharing, it gets lost as the audience watches the food in your mouth rather than listening to the content of your words.

              7. Etiquette Food Sneaks

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                It seems so harmless at first. The hostess is speaking or saying grace at a large dinner and you think no one will notice that nibble of bread you’ve slipped into your mouth. People notice and make an internal judgment that you’re ill-mannered. You are welcome to sip your beverage but DO NOT start scarfing your meal if you should be listening to a speaker. Only when the speaker urges you to continue eating are you allowed to CONTINUE EATING!! Put your fork down but not on your plate (the wait staff sees that as a signal you’re done) and listen. Besides, your chewing is never louder than when you are the only one doing it at the table.

                Click out the hilarious video below by GloZell to assault your senses if you think you can get away with beingaFood Sneak

                8. Time to Make a Pass
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                  It’s going so well and then you’re challenged to make a pass. Salt and pepper move as a set regardless of what is asked for…don’t separate these savory lovers when responding to a request. Also, it is acceptable to ask someone else to pass them if it’s still too far for you to reach. NEVER reach across a table!

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                  Some will argue that it is rude to enhance the cook’s meal with salt and pepper. The cook/chef/host doesnotput condiments on the table unless they think you may want to add them to your food. It is very rare to find a home cook or restaurant chef’s table without condiments which means it’s completely appropriate. Asking for something unexpected to flavor your food though is a no-no and may get you a frosty glare if mentioned.

                  Eating family style? Passing of the bowls is entirely appropriate side to side. Do not extend bowls across the table. Also, the serving spoon/fork is an indication of portion size. Dole out ONE portion for yourself; if there is extra food after everyone has been served, it will be appropriate to ask for seconds.

                  9. Run for it

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                    Your mother always said you couldn’t finish a meal without needing a bathroom break. If that’s still true OR you need to step away from the table for other reasons, do so without bringing much attention to yourself. The entire table does not need to know your business. Instead, excuse yourself quietly to those sitting nearest you, place your napkin ONyour chair and quietly exit. Expect to be missed if you are absent for more than a few minutes and if so, expect to be quizzed by your table mates upon your return.

                    10. Conversation Etiquette

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                      You converse everyday and it should be so simple but dinner conversation can be tricky if you’re with a business group, contentious friends, or dramatic family members. Alcohol, comfort level (because you feel so good about your etiquette) or being unfamiliar with your table mates can turn you into that personwho causes cringes and rolled eyes. According to the Etiquette Scholar, it is key toStop, Look, Listen, and Watchas you embark upon engaging your fellow diners. Stoptalking if it isn’t well thought out,lookat your listener’s expressions,listenas much as you talk, andwatch whomever you are speaking with.

                      11. Hand Jive

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                        Everything is going so well. You’re talking, eating, and drinking without fear of embarrassment until you notice someone watching your hands. Are you using the Caveman grip? There are two basic styles, Continental and American which are both acceptable. View Here Don’t make excuses for yourself if you’re not utilizing these. Regardless of your intellect and conversation skills, if you eat like the Flintstones, you’ll be treated like them.

                        12. Space…it’s personal

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                          Personal space can be challenging at a crowded table which makes it even more important to follow acceptable boundaries. Keep your elbows tucked in when leveraging your utensils while cutting food and definitely DO NOT place them on the table until it has been cleared completely. Hands can be placed upon the lap when not eating or rested at the wrist on the edge of the table. Moving your chair too close to another can cause angst when either of you have to leave the table. Diners with mobility equipment should always be given preference to an end seat or the placement of their choosing for easy table access.

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                          14. Don’t step in the etiquette landmine

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                            How can we even be discussing this? Because it has happened too often! Dinner guests with all the right moves above the table gettripped upbeing too comfortable underneath the table. No matter how uncomfortable those new shoes are, DO NOT remove them under the table. Can there be anything more embarrassing then having to explain why you’re in bare feet when you rise to leave the table?

                            15. Polite Decline

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                              With today’s myriad of food allergies, diet requirement, etc., it’s logical to communicate with your host pre-dinner concerning your needs. Most are happy to accommodate but mistakes can occur. Therefore, it’s your responsibility to respond amiably if your choices can’t be met. Restaurants can typically provide vegetarian fare but if you’re at someone’s home, show your class by letting the hostess know you’ll be doubling up on side items and bread. Making a scene about your inconvenience will get you on the “Do Not Invite” list for many.

                              If you have no reasonable requests but simplydislikethe fare offered, put on your adult demeanor and make the effort to try a bit of everything. Taking obligatory bites and then slyly moving your food around your plate without eating it will go far in maintaining the respect of your host.

                              16. Utensil Morse Code

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                                The restaurant servers or home hostess keep an eye on your utensil placement near the end of a course or your meal. They want the flow for everyone to be consistent so that conversation stays uninterrupted by a wholesale moving of dirty dishes. The simplest code is using your plate as a clock. Place your utensils parallel across your plate with the handles resting near four o’clock. A tip to remember: Your workday typically ends near four or five just as your meal is ending.

                                There are more specific details for formal dining. See the Etiquette Scholarsfor more information concerning these as well as International rules.

                                17. Let’s Share

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                                  Coffee and dessert? Maybe you’re feeling that you deserve a final treat after minding your manners. Private dinner parties will typically bring out the sweets now but at a restaurant, follow your host’s lead. If the hour is late, they may wave aside dessert but if everyone is ordering so can you.

                                  Sharing desserts can be a pitfall for etiquette mistakes. At business gatherings, it is not even recommended. For hygiene purposes, once you and others have decided which dessert(s) to share, also request extra serving plates and utensils. You can then divide and conquer the sugary delight with everyone getting a bite and not sharing germs. But remember, you’ve asked the server to go above and beyond as you should for their tip when the bill comes.

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                                  18. Food isn’t free

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                                    The meal is coming to an end and if the bill is divided among the diners, there are a few points to remember:

                                    1. Splitting a bill evenly should have been decided before the meal and the waiter informed.
                                    2. Don’t penalize the non-drinkers; ask that beverages be charged separately.
                                    3. For separate bills, remember that the wait staff has extra steps to keep it clear and should be rewarded with an extra tip.

                                    Read more here about the touchy subject of Dividing the Bill

                                    19. Giving thanks for no mistakes

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                                      A meal in which you have stretched your new found etiquette wings deserves a proper thank you. Although a text or email might be convenient, it’s the handwritten note that will get you noticed and invited to more wonderful gatherings. Networking isn’t just in the cyber world; it continues to be a personal experience. But, if your host has a strong online presence, be kind and thoughtful if you blog, FB, or tweet about your evening.

                                      All of your well earned manners credit will be lost if you DO NOT send some form of thanks. Don’t delay or forget…that is the ultimate embarrassment.

                                      20. Pay it forward and avoid embarrassment

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                                        Those beautiful flowers or nice wine that you brought to the dinner party…enjoy the feeling of getting your own. It’s one thing to be a polite and respectful guest who livens up the group and is often invited out, but how embarrassing for you if there is no reciprocation. If your living situation is not conducive to dinner parties, restaurants abound as well as other venues where you can host your own gathering. Museums, ballparks, theaters, can help you host your own dinner party. Be creative and adventurous and remember, there’s a whole new set of etiquette rules to conquer when you play host. Hostess with the Mostest

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                                        Last Updated on July 12, 2021

                                        100 Incredible Life Hacks That Make Life So Much Easier

                                        100 Incredible Life Hacks That Make Life So Much Easier
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                                        Want to learn some quick and easy life hacks that are easy to do, low cost and saves you time?

                                        By tweaking little things in your daily life, it can make your life much more convenient!

                                        Here’re 100 of the most practical life hacks so you can just pick up any of them right away!

                                        83 tie a small piece of bright colored fabric

                                          84 write random letter

                                            85 use a rubberband

                                              86 dorm smell bad

                                                87 lean your phone on your sunglassess

                                                  89 how to waterproof your shoes

                                                    90 take a picture of the name card

                                                      91 iron inside out

                                                        92 old newspaper

                                                          93 tumble try shoes

                                                            keep a card like this

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                                                                94 soap bar

                                                                  95 make a hole

                                                                    96 drop the battery

                                                                      97 use a coozie

                                                                        98 when taking a picture

                                                                          use a clean dust pan

                                                                            try a pants hanger

                                                                              use your cellphone light

                                                                                use a spring from an old pen

                                                                                  quick and easy iphone speaker

                                                                                    user binder clips

                                                                                      wrap a wet paper towel around your beverage

                                                                                        put pancake mix in a ketchup bottle

                                                                                          clean out an old lotion bottle for your beach

                                                                                            use a muffin tin to serve condiments at a bbq

                                                                                              doritos are great for kindling

                                                                                                use nail polish to identify different keys

                                                                                                  use a hanging shoe rack to store cleaning supplies

                                                                                                    freeze grapes to chill white wine without

                                                                                                      use paper clips to organize your cables

                                                                                                        almost finished your jar of nutella

                                                                                                          sick of having a box full of tangled

                                                                                                            unroll the rim to increase the capacity

                                                                                                              cut open toilet paper rolls and use as a cuff

                                                                                                                remove the stem from strawberries

                                                                                                                  turn an old bottle into a simple little cord holder

                                                                                                                    for iced coffee and iced cappuccino, use frozen coffee cubes

                                                                                                                      how to fold a fitted bed sheet

                                                                                                                        tired of snoozing past your alarm

                                                                                                                          place a rubber band around an open paint can to wipe your brush on

                                                                                                                            ut a wooden spoon across a boiling pot

                                                                                                                              use bread clips to save flip-flops

                                                                                                                                take pictures of friends holding items

                                                                                                                                  how i always know which headphone is the left one

                                                                                                                                    put a stocking over the end of a vacuum

                                                                                                                                      How to make sure you drink enough water

                                                                                                                                        user a can opener to open blister

                                                                                                                                          good sandwich guide

                                                                                                                                            turn your muffin pans upside down

                                                                                                                                              50 pounds of groceries and living on the 5th floor

                                                                                                                                                the right way to make a blt

                                                                                                                                                  add one teaspoon of baking soda

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                                                                                                                                                      hair straighteners equals to collar irons

                                                                                                                                                        stack your clothes vertically to see them all

                                                                                                                                                          the right way to make cookies in the summer

                                                                                                                                                            how to clean a blender

                                                                                                                                                              the right way to eat a popsicle

                                                                                                                                                                use bread clips to label and organize power cords

                                                                                                                                                                  to get the built up residue off of your shower head

                                                                                                                                                                    user a hair clip to orgainize long wires

                                                                                                                                                                      a frozen saturated sponge in a bag

                                                                                                                                                                        rub stuck zipper teeth with a graphite pencil

                                                                                                                                                                          use a soda pop tab

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                                                                                                                                                                              51 How to multiply large numbers in your head.

                                                                                                                                                                                52 How to open a bottle if you dont have a corkscrew.

                                                                                                                                                                                  rub a walnut on damaged wooden furniture

                                                                                                                                                                                    kids fall out of bed

                                                                                                                                                                                      use toothpaste to clear up hazy car

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                                                                                                                                                                                          59 keep pizza out while driving home

                                                                                                                                                                                            60 put your straw through the tab to keep it from rising

                                                                                                                                                                                              hold oreos with a fork so your fingers

                                                                                                                                                                                                Never lose your remotes again

                                                                                                                                                                                                  hiding your emergency money

                                                                                                                                                                                                    use a bread tab to hold your spot on a roll

                                                                                                                                                                                                      if you are at a hotel and run out of chargers

                                                                                                                                                                                                        keep a square of cardboard in a ziplock bag

                                                                                                                                                                                                          If you need to pee or smoke at a bar

                                                                                                                                                                                                            drill holes in the bottom of your garbage

                                                                                                                                                                                                              use an accented letter as your passcode

                                                                                                                                                                                                                use a squeeze ketchup bottle top with your shopvac

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  do something unusual when locking the door

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    when heating leftovers space out a circle in the middle

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      dont burn yourself in those hard to reach candles

                                                                                                                                                                                                                        put a small amount of water in a glass when you microwave your pizza

                                                                                                                                                                                                                          75 use a piece of paper to organize

                                                                                                                                                                                                                            use half a pool noodle

                                                                                                                                                                                                                              pencil case to store cables

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                78 clothespin to hold nail

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  79 make blts

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    80 take a picture of your fridge

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      81 fill plastic water bottles

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        82 right ways to eat chips

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          99 if your plug keeps failing

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            100 put the banana on the wire

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              88 before you throw away a post it

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                There you go, 100 awesome life hacks that you can try right now to make your life a lot easier!

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