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15 Ways to Boost a Child’s Self-Esteem

15 Ways to Boost a Child’s Self-Esteem

Healthy self-esteem is something that most parents strive to instill in their children. Having “healthy self-esteem” means being able to acknowledge both the positive and the negative aspects of one’s self without feeling either superior or inferior. This trait has been linked to better outcomes in relationships, career, and general well-being. So how can parents help their children achieve healthy self-esteem? Here are 15 free and simple ways.

1. Make eye contact and smile when your child walks into the room.

Show your child that his or her presence is meaningful and enjoyable to you.

2. Praise her specific efforts and attempts instead of giving her constant general praise.

Tell her that you are proud that she ran every morning that seasons instead of only focusing on the fact that she got first place in the race or telling her she did a “great job.”

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3. Listen to your child.

Consider your child’s thoughts and perspectives to be valuable, even and especially when you disagree.

4. Give her some undivided attention each day.

Your child is valuable to you, and time with her should be prioritized and enjoyed.

5. Give your child age-appropriate jobs/responsibilities.

Your kid is a necessary part of the family.

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6. Empathize with you child when he or she is angry or sad.

Have empathy even and especially when she doesn’t get her way.

7. Always let your child know that it makes perfect sense that she feels the way she feels.

In other words, validate her feelings instead of trying to tell her she shouldn’t feel that way.

8. When discipline is necessary, lead and conclude with the lesson behind the discipline, not anger and punishment.

Explain to your child why telling the truth is very, very important, and that the consequences he or she experienced are not to punish him or her but to help him or her to remember not to lie.

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9. Don’t solve your child’s problems for him or her.

Get in the habit of asking your child what his or her suggestions are for dealing with disappointments  and problem-solving. Offer your ideas as a consultant, not a rescuer. Your kid does not immediately need a rescuer; It has good thoughts of its own.

10. Let your child fail and let it get back up.

When your child loses her earbuds, he or she can handle earning money for new ones instead of having you replace them. Your child can handle going to summer school to make up the grade instead of you calling the teacher to make an arrangement to bring the grades up.

11. After your child disappoints, acts out, or makes a mistake, discipline and each, and then let it go.

Offer criticism, redirection, and consequences with a matter-of-fact tone. Discipline is for teaching, not for demonstrating disdain, dispelling frustration, and holding grudges.

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12. Meet your child where it’s at without making him or her feel like an idiot.

If your kid struggles with staying on task while cleaning his or her room, calmly make a chart. If your child struggles with simple division, but the rest of the class is on long-division, patiently break out the flash-cards.

13.Hear your child out and give him or her the benefit of the doubt.

If your child is caught smoking at school, instead of treating him or her like a disrespectful sociopath, allow him or her to remind you of what it was like to just want to fit in and be accepted (before providing discipline.)

14.  Share stories about when you were younger and you made mistakes.

Your child is not a terrible person for taking a quarter out of Mom’s purse; It just needs to be taught the lesson, the same way Mom was taught when she was young.

15. Say “I’m sorry,” when you make mistakes or lose your cool.

“Imperfection” is okay for parents and it’s okay for your child, too.

Featured photo credit: greyerbaby via mrg.bz

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Last Updated on May 15, 2019

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

As it appears, the human mind is not capable of not thinking, at least on the subconscious level. Our mind is always occupied by thoughts, whether we want to or not, and they influence our every action.

“Happiness cannot come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller

When we are still children, our thoughts seem to be purely positive. Have you ever been around a 4-year old who doesn’t like a painting he or she drew? I haven’t. Instead, I see glee, exciting and pride in children’s eyes. But as the years go by, we clutter our mind with doubts, fears and self-deprecating thoughts.

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Just imagine then how much we limit ourselves in every aspect of our lives if we give negative thoughts too much power! We’ll never go after that job we’ve always wanted because our nay-saying thoughts make us doubt our abilities. We’ll never ask that person we like out on a date because we always think we’re not good enough.

We’ll never risk quitting our job in order to pursue the life and the work of our dreams because we can’t get over our mental barrier that insists we’re too weak, too unimportant and too dumb. We’ll never lose those pounds that risk our health because we believe we’re not capable of pushing our limits. We’ll never be able to fully see our inner potential because we simply don’t dare to question the voices in our head.

But enough is enough! It’s time to stop these limiting beliefs and come to a place of sanity, love and excitement about life, work and ourselves.

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So…how exactly are we to achieve that?

It’s not as hard as it may seem; you just have to practice, practice, practice. Here are a few ideas on how you can get started.

1. Learn to substitute every negative thought with a positive one.

Every time a negative thought crawls into your mind, replace it with a positive thought. It’s just like someone writes a phrase you don’t like on a blackboard and then you get up, erase it and write something much more to your liking.

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2. See the positive side of every situation, even when you are surrounded by pure negativity.

This one is a bit harder to put into practice, which does not mean it’s impossible.

You can find positivity in everything by mentally holding on to something positive, whether this be family, friends, your faith, nature, someone’s sparkling eyes or whatever other glimmer of beauty. If you seek it, you will find it.

3. At least once a day, take a moment and think of 5 things you are grateful for.

This will lighten your mood and give you some perspective of what is really important in life and how many blessings surround you already.

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4. Change the mental images you allow to enter your mind.

How you see yourself and your surroundings make a huge difference to your thinking. It is like watching a DVD that saddens and frustrates you, completely pulling you down. Eject that old DVD, throw it away and insert a new, better, more hopeful one instead.

So, instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.

If you are persistent and keep on working on yourself, your mind will automatically reject its negative thoughts and welcome the positive ones.

And remember: You are (or will become) what you think you are. This is reason enough to be proactive about whatever is going on in your head.

Featured photo credit: Kyaw Tun via unsplash.com

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