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10 Ways to Cheer Yourself Up When You’re in a Bad Mood

10 Ways to Cheer Yourself Up When You’re in a Bad Mood

Cheering yourself up. It’s not about avoidance. It’s about recognition. It’s about self-love. It’s your day. It’s your moment. It’s your life. It’s worth it.

If you’re feeling in a funk, here are 10 Ways to Cheer Yourself Up.

1. Feel it.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a neuroanatomist – a brain scientist who studies the anatomy of the brain. She had a stroke. She watched her brain functions shift and alter. She watched how her brain processed, or didn’t process, stimulation. She found out that if she let herself feel an emotion, it would pass in about 90 seconds. So don’t avoid what you’re feeling in the hopes it will just go away. It won’t. It will if you let yourself feel it though.

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2. Observe things.

As a witness to what you sense rather than as what you sense, you’ll tap into that part of you that exists above and beyond your funk. You’ll go beyond reaction and into the ability to respond.

3. Master your mind. …or, just give it a little test-run.

The verbal part of our mind processes about 40 bits of information per second. The non-verbal part of our brain processes about 11 million bits of information per second. So when the verbal part of your mind is telling you “Everything sucks,” it’s not basing that conclusion on very much information. Simply noticing that your thoughts are not serving you and knowing that your thoughts are not based on the whole truth can help you find freedom from them.

4. Rock your body.

One way to move past the thoughts is to move your awareness somewhere else. Get your groove on. Dance, ninja, dance. Need inspiration? Try ‘Fire’ or ‘Top of the World’ by Raghav, or ‘Walls’ by Sultan & Ned Shepard.

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5. Clear the slate.

You can meditate in lots of different ways. Walking, breathing, mindfulness, sitting. Any way that works for you is good. Let yourself be with anything other than your thoughts: inhaling peace and exhaling the funk.

6. Gather your hall of champions.

Martha Beck trained coaches – like me – talk about the ‘Hall of Champions’ – the people in your life who lift you up and help you carry on forward. If you don’t have this list already, write it down. Then pull them up whenever you need them and imagine exactly what they would say if you were having a heart to heart with them about it all.

7. Ask for help.

The imaginary conversation is not working? Reach out. Ask for help. Great people, successful people, people who seem fuelled by a bottomless well of confidence all reach out and ask for help if they need it. Who can you call and ask “Can you just tell me I’m awesome?”

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8. How do you want to feel?

So you’re not feeling great right now. How do you want to feel? Uplifted. Strong. Healthy. Happy. Confident. What do you do that makes you feel that way? Do that now.

9. The quickie.

Can’t get up and go do that thing? Images can have an instant, powerful effect on our subconscious. What images help boost you up? Many of my clients say nature-based images – of trees or mountains or the sky – do it for them. Find the, print or save them, and have them where you can easily access them. This entire practice works with one of our innate talents: state-dependent memory. Basically, we can remember something when we enter into the state we were in when we created the memory. So to remember and re-live something that makes you feel better, create the trigger by choosing an image, and then use it again and again.

10. Say thank you.

Gratitude can be an instant uplifter. Make a list of 10 things you’re thankful for. Did you know that the part of the brain in charge of gratitude is different than the part of the brain in charge of worry? And that one can’t really be activated when the other is? Basically, by activating gratitude we de-activate worry.

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Good luck!

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5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

Sleeping next to your partner can be a satisfying experience and is typically seen as the mark of a stable, healthy home life. However, many more people struggle to share a bed with their partner than typically let on. Sleeping beside someone can decrease your sleep quality which negatively affects your life. Maybe you are light sleepers and you wake each other up throughout the night. Maybe one has a loud snoring habit that’s keeping the other awake. Maybe one is always crawling into bed in the early hours of the morning while the other likes to go to bed at 10 p.m.

You don’t have to feel ashamed of finding it difficult to sleep with your partner and you also don’t have to give up entirely on it. Common problems can be addressed with simple solutions such as an additional pillow. Here are five fixes for common sleep issues that couples deal with.

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1. Use a bigger mattress to sleep through movement

It can be difficult to sleep through your partner’s tossing and turning all night, particularly if they have to get in and out of bed. Waking up multiple times in one night can leave you frustrated and exhausted. The solution may be a switch to a bigger mattress or a mattress that minimizes movement.

Look for a mattress that allows enough space so that your partner can move around without impacting you or consider a mattress made for two sleepers like the Sleep Number bed.[1] This bed allows each person to choose their own firmness level. It also minimizes any disturbances their partner might feel. A foam mattress like the kind featured in advertisements where someone jumps on a bed with an unspilled glass of wine will help minimize the impact of your partner’s movements.[2]

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2. Communicate about scheduling conflicts

If one of you is a night owl and the other an early riser, bedtime can become a source of conflict. It’s hard for a light sleeper to be jostled by their partner coming to bed four hours after them. Talk to your partner about negotiating some compromises. If you’re finding it difficult to agree on a bedtime, negotiate with your partner. Don’t come to bed before or after a certain time, giving the early bird a chance to fully fall asleep before the other comes in. Consider giving the night owl an eye mask to allow them to stay in bed while their partner gets up to start the day.

3. Don’t bring your technology to bed

If one partner likes bringing devices to bed and the other partner doesn’t, there’s very little compromise to be found. Science is pretty unanimous on the fact that screens can cause harm to a healthy sleeper. Both partners should agree on a time to keep technology out of the bedroom or turn screens off. This will prevent both partners from having their sleep interrupted and can help you power down after a long day.

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4. White noise and changing positions can silence snoring

A snoring partner can be one of the most difficult things to sleep through. Snoring tends to be position-specific so many doctors recommend switching positions to stop the snoring. Rather than sleeping on your back doctors recommend turning onto your side. Changing positions can cut down on noise and breathing difficulties for any snorer. Using a white noise fan, or sound machine can also help soften the impact of loud snoring and keep both partners undisturbed.

5. Use two blankets if one’s a blanket hog

If you’ve got a blanket hog in your bed don’t fight it, get another blanket. This solution fixes any issues between two partners and their comforter. There’s no rule that you have to sleep under the same blanket. Separate covers can also cut down on tossing and turning making it a multi-useful adaptation.

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Rather than giving up entirely on sharing a bed with your partner, try one of these techniques to improve your sleeping habits. Sleeping in separate beds can be a normal part of a healthy home life, but compromise can go a long way toward creating harmony in a shared bed.

Featured photo credit: Becca Tapert via unsplash.com

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