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10 Things Everyone Who’s Planning A Wedding Should Know

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10 Things Everyone Who’s Planning A Wedding Should Know

The Big Day is one you will never forget, and though planning it seems like a dream in the beginning, there are always a few hiccups that bring around the reality that is wedding planning. But don’t let it overwhelm you. Millions have gone before you and lived to tell about it. Here are a few things you should know as you make your journey to the aisle.

1. You’re going to offend, feel guilty about, or disagree with at least one person during your wedding planning.

In fact, that number may be a little bit larger than you expect. I can’t tell you how many times I had someone say, “You’re not going to do that, are you? Wouldn’t you rather have this?” Just smile, be polite, and keep plugging on with whatever you and your fiancé would like on your day.

2. Don’t get looped into the “wedding” cost trap.

Have you ever noticed that anything with the word “wedding” in it is three times as expensive as the exact same item in the “party” category? Don’t get sucked into thinking that just because the word “wedding” is in it, you have to have it. BBC’s comedy Show, Man Stroke Woman, has a hilarious video depicting just what I’m talking about. Think outside the box (and the wedding category) to find cheaper alternatives that are just as beautiful for your wedding.

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3. Make a checklist of the pictures you’d like to have taken.

Pinterest works really well for this. As a matter of fact, Pinterest was my wedding planner. You can actually just pin the photos you like and send the board to your photographer for reference at your wedding. Be specific with the family wedding photos, especially, and not just with your photographer, but with all involved members of the family, so everyone knows where they should be at the right time.

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    4. Skip the rituals that don’t really matter to you.

    I went through the list of traditions and read up on the history before I decided to incorporate them into my wedding and reception. Here’s what one bride had to say about the history surrounding the garter toss. Make your own decisions about which traditions you’d like to uphold and which you’d like to leave to the history books. Instead of doing the garter toss at my wedding, I gave the bouquet and the garter to the two couples in the room who’ve been married the longest.

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    5. Plan for the worst, but hope for the best.

    If you are planning to have your wedding at an outdoor venue, you want to be sure to have a guaranteed back-up plan should the weather be less than desirable. If it’s in a wooded area or by water, you may want to consider ways to keep bugs away, as the last thing you or your guests want is to leave the reception with bug bites all over. My recommendation is something like this mosquito magnet trap to keep your space, and your face, clear from itchy marks.

    6. Delegate, delegate, delegate.

    Let me just say from experience that putting together programs and/or favors the night before your wedding should not be a tradition to continue. I’ve made that mistake and so have many of my friends and family members. If you’re running tight on a deadline, don’t be afraid to ask for help. The sooner the better.

    7. Splurge on the important things, but not everything.

    There are some things that I wish I would have spent a little more money on, like the photography, for our wedding. But there are others things that maybe weren’t quite as important. I was astonished at the price per slice of wedding cake and for flowers and didn’t want to spend hundreds of dollars on things that weren’t going to last past one day. Instead I shopped around to get the best deal I could. I actually had a local lady who baked as a hobby make our cake. It was delicious and didn’t cost a fortune.

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    8. Take the day off before your wedding.

    Everything flies by so quickly that you’ll wish you had more time just to visit with people, especially if you don’t see your relatives often. Take, at least, the day off before to hang out with your wedding party and family and enjoy just being together.

    9. Have at least one other person in the know.

    Typically, this person should be your wedding planner, but whoever you choose, make sure they are reliable and have a great memory. If you don’t want a wedding planner, ask a friend out of the wedding party to be your in-the-know person or even a relative who would be willing to do it. Before the wedding, make sure you go over every detail of your wedding day plan so both of you know what will be going on and if anything happens, your go-to person can pick up the slack.

    10. The day goes by faster than you can possibly imagine.

    One of the best pieces of advice I was given for my wedding day was to stop at least three times during the day to just take it all in. You will see so many people and experience so many emotions that it’s impossible to process it all. By stopping and looking around, I was able to see just how special it all was.

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    Featured photo credit: Pic Jumbo Viktor Hanacek via picjumbo.com

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    Last Updated on November 22, 2021

    Thanksgiving: It’s About The Simple Things

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    Thanksgiving: It’s About The Simple Things

    Thanksgiving, a day of pure gluttony, football, and possible uncomfortable situations with family members that you may or may not like. Oh, yeah, and the whole “know and reflect on what it is to be thankful and grateful.”

    During the holiday season many people forget what this time of year is bout and are too worried about getting the “early-bird” deals on Black Friday and making sure that they have the perfect gifts for their loved ones. I am sort of a “Grinch” when it comes to the holiday season, mostly because of that mentality by many of the poeple around me.

    But instead of being grinch-like this holiday season, I decided to simplify things and get back to what this time of year is actually is about; being thankful for what I have and what I can give.

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    Simplify

    I’m not a “minimalist” in any real sense, but in the last few months the talks of Patrick Rhone and others have got me to rethink my stance. Can you really have too much stuff?

    Absolutely.

    And with all that stuff comes the burden and the weight of it on your back.

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    If you feel that the things around you are out of control, maybe it’s time to simplify and be thankful and grateful for what you have and use. Here are a few things that you can do to simplify:

    • You know those gadgets in the drawer that you said you were going to sell? Well, time to get the listing on eBay and sell them. Or, send them to a place like Gazelle. Even if they are old and won’t get money, you can at least recycle them.
    • Get rid of things you don’t need. Like old books, clothes, tools, etc. Have something that’s been laying around forever with no use? Donate it to a charity or church. If you aren’t using it, someone else could be.
    • Find your productivity tools and stick with them. Use tools and gadgets that serve multiple purposes so you can simplify your tool set.

    Be Mindful

    You don’t have to be a master Buddhist or meditator to be mindful (although, it can definitely help). Being mindful comes down to being cognizant of the present and not keeping yourself in the past or future. It’s about living in the moment and being aware of yourself and everything around you. It’s just being.

    Without getting too “California” on you, it is super important to be mindful during the holiday rush. Rather than worrying about the things that you forgot at your house on the way to relatives or thinking about the next stop in your endless holiday travels, just breath and think about what you are currently doing.

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    Spend the time with your family and friends and don’t crush the moment. Try not to concentrate so hard on getting the perfect photo of the “awesome moment” of the day and actually miss the awesome moment.

    Being mindful over the holidays will help you be with your families, friends, and yourself allowing you to enjoy your time.

    Reflect

    As the year is coming to a close (yes, it really is that close!) it’s a great time to start reflecting on what you have accomplished and what you haven’t. Within the next few weeks we will have a more throrough reflection article here at Lifehack.org, but reflecting every now and then over your holiday break is a great way to see where you have been doing well in your life and where you need to improve.

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    Reflection shouldn’t be used to “get down” on yourself. Reflection should be used to take an honset inventory of what you have accomplished, how you handeled situations, and what you can do better. If you journal everyday (a daily form of reflection) it may be a good time to start going over some of the things that you have written and start to put together a year’s end journal entry. I mean, how else will you write your autobiography?

    But, seriously, reflecting on yourself makes you aware of your successes and faults and helps you plan and make goals for the coming year. It makes you a better person.

    So, while you are stuffing your face with bird, stuffing, and mashed taters’, remember that the holidays are much more than the superficial things. Use this holiday to become a better person.

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    Featured photo credit: Libby Penner via unsplash.com

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