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10 Struggles Only the Mother of A Teenage Boy Would Understand

10 Struggles Only the Mother of A Teenage Boy Would Understand

Growth is a part of life. When your son reaches that point when his not playing with toys anymore but swings to X-box and Play Station, you start having some cause for concern for how much his mentality has changed so fast. Here are some struggles only mothers of teenage boy would understand.

1. He doesn’t seem to be listening anymore

Whether he is playing video games or listening to songs on his I-pod, he rarely is paying attention to everything you say. He seems engrossed to a world of his own sounds, the one he has defined for himself, and that may not include the sound of you, his mother.

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2. He doesn’t make it easier for you to raise him

You think as he grows older he will make it easier for you to nurture him; maybe he will mature and take more responsibilities. But it isn’t easier for you now. Rather you have to respond to any negative conduct he develops with forgiveness, humor, attentiveness and encouragement.

3. He breaks all the rules

A simple rule as getting home at a particular time doesn’t apply to him anymore. Actually getting home by 8 pm is not so simple a rule anymore. No screen nights and doing more household chores like taking out the trash are really difficult tasks or routines for him to adhere to.

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4. He is growing faster than you know it

His voice is getting deeper. He is grabbing his meals and throwing them into his body like a whale. He is making double orders at restaurants and his muscles are popping out. You have to enlarge your refrigerator and buy more supplies to adjust to his new demands.

5. He has external confidantes

You expect or want him to get closer to you, perhaps treat you the same way he treats the ladies he is becoming attracted to. You want him to give you deeper respect and share his stories with you, but the opposite is the case.

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6. He will make more mistakes

As much as you do not like this point, you have to understand you also passed through that period of teenage years when many important things didn’t really matter as much as the opposite sex or hanging out with friends. He will make mistakes because somewhere in between the struggle for independence and nonchalance, life will teach him a lesson or two.

7. He gives you tougher battles

It was easier to instruct and guide him before now. You can see that he is maturing and standing tall and you cannot make him appear to be the smaller person in the room. Fights or arguments with him have become more ferocious and difficult. You really have to pick your battles with him carefully now.

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8. He doesn’t want you teach him how to drive

Many mothers will agree on this. He is independent and the mother cannot be the one to pass him through the delicate phase of driving a car. What will his friends say? How they will mock him. It will be better for his father to take on this role.

9. He offers you mixed emotions

You want to cry when he succeeds with his high school football team or does great with his grades. You will also want to cry when he makes a mistake or stumbles. It is a roller coaster of different emotions taking over you all through this period.

10. He will have to clean up the mess himself

You could have done the cleaning up when he was younger. You could have managed his wrongs and dealt with them just fine when he was younger. But now you have to watch him take charge of those situations and stand up to fix any mess he causes.

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Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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