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10 Struggles Only the Mother of A Teenage Boy Would Understand

10 Struggles Only the Mother of A Teenage Boy Would Understand

Growth is a part of life. When your son reaches that point when his not playing with toys anymore but swings to X-box and Play Station, you start having some cause for concern for how much his mentality has changed so fast. Here are some struggles only mothers of teenage boy would understand.

1. He doesn’t seem to be listening anymore

Whether he is playing video games or listening to songs on his I-pod, he rarely is paying attention to everything you say. He seems engrossed to a world of his own sounds, the one he has defined for himself, and that may not include the sound of you, his mother.

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2. He doesn’t make it easier for you to raise him

You think as he grows older he will make it easier for you to nurture him; maybe he will mature and take more responsibilities. But it isn’t easier for you now. Rather you have to respond to any negative conduct he develops with forgiveness, humor, attentiveness and encouragement.

3. He breaks all the rules

A simple rule as getting home at a particular time doesn’t apply to him anymore. Actually getting home by 8 pm is not so simple a rule anymore. No screen nights and doing more household chores like taking out the trash are really difficult tasks or routines for him to adhere to.

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4. He is growing faster than you know it

His voice is getting deeper. He is grabbing his meals and throwing them into his body like a whale. He is making double orders at restaurants and his muscles are popping out. You have to enlarge your refrigerator and buy more supplies to adjust to his new demands.

5. He has external confidantes

You expect or want him to get closer to you, perhaps treat you the same way he treats the ladies he is becoming attracted to. You want him to give you deeper respect and share his stories with you, but the opposite is the case.

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6. He will make more mistakes

As much as you do not like this point, you have to understand you also passed through that period of teenage years when many important things didn’t really matter as much as the opposite sex or hanging out with friends. He will make mistakes because somewhere in between the struggle for independence and nonchalance, life will teach him a lesson or two.

7. He gives you tougher battles

It was easier to instruct and guide him before now. You can see that he is maturing and standing tall and you cannot make him appear to be the smaller person in the room. Fights or arguments with him have become more ferocious and difficult. You really have to pick your battles with him carefully now.

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8. He doesn’t want you teach him how to drive

Many mothers will agree on this. He is independent and the mother cannot be the one to pass him through the delicate phase of driving a car. What will his friends say? How they will mock him. It will be better for his father to take on this role.

9. He offers you mixed emotions

You want to cry when he succeeds with his high school football team or does great with his grades. You will also want to cry when he makes a mistake or stumbles. It is a roller coaster of different emotions taking over you all through this period.

10. He will have to clean up the mess himself

You could have done the cleaning up when he was younger. You could have managed his wrongs and dealt with them just fine when he was younger. But now you have to watch him take charge of those situations and stand up to fix any mess he causes.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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