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What Love Really Means…

What Love Really Means…

I am sure that many of us have grown up reading and hearing about the term ‘once in a lifetime love’. It may be an ancient adage, however, I believe it’s true and definitely possible.

Love may acquire various forms, be it parental, siblings, family, friends or the romantic types. However, foundation for love remains the same.

In Indian history, the love between Radha and Krishna is immortal. Krishna was an incarnation of Lord Vishnu who came on earth to free the world from evil and to establish ‘dharma’ or righteousness on earth. Radha was an incarnation of Goddess Lakshmi on earth, in the form of a cowherd girl.

Radha and Krishna were childhood playmates. Of all the cowherd girls, Radha was dearest to Krishna as she was devoted to him. When Krishna played the flute, Radha sang and danced with him.

Their love was truly divine and unconditional. It was at a platonic level.

After spending 11 years of childhood together, Radha was cursed to bear separation from Krishna for 100 years!

Meanwhile, Krishna fulfilled the purpose of his incarnation on the earth. Radha’s devotion to Krishna was unprecedented. She was a part of his soul.

After 100 years, they did reunite and spent 14 years on earth, before returning to their heavenly abode.

We aren’t even capable of imagining the amount of pain and emotional turmoil she must have gone through during their period of separation.

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    In today’s age when lust is perceived as love and ‘out of sight’ means ‘out of mind’, one would find it hard to imagine back then how pious and pure Radha’s love was!

    That is the reason that even after thousands of years, we still worship Radha and Krishna together. The name Radha-Krishna is inseparable.

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    Another story goes as:

    Once Lord Krishna had a terrible stomach ache. He said that only solution to this problem is ‘charan amrit’ i.e. drinking the water with which the feet of his true love have been washed.

    All cowherd girls refused to give the Lord water with which their feet had been washed, since it would lead them to hell.

    Radha was the only girl who readily gave him the water since she felt that it is better to go to hell instead of seeing her Krishna in pain.

    This is truly what love really means! :-)

    Love means.. A soulful connection with your beloved

    It is said that the hearts of people in love are very close to each other, hence lovers speak very softly.

    At times, no words are needed when eyes do the needful.

    Love means… Selflessness

    True love is all about giving without expecting much in return. It is beyond materialism or any conditions.

    Seeing our beloved happy is blissful indeed!

    Love means…. Madness

    Love is about giving in to that awesome power that brings two people together in the craziest ways!

    Have you ever blushed thinking about your loved one?

    Or found yourself smiling do no reason at all?

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    Traveled miles (or even oceans) just to catch a glimpse of your sweetheart? :-)

    Love means… Loving with all your heart!

    It is said that part of staying in love is believing in it.

    We genuinely care for someone; feel elated seeing them happy;

    feel restless or even have our mood off knowing that they’re sad.

    What love really means is pouring our heart out and loving them!

    Love means… Acceptance

    We are all human beings with various flaws. It’s perfectly alright.

    True love would overlook these flaws and love the other human for the gem of a person they are!

    That too, in the strongest way possible and complement them.

    A quote I remember goes like, “I chose to stay with him for all the things he did right and not leave him for one thing he did wrong.”

    Love means… Being yourself too!

    Agreed you have given your heart wholly to your beloved.

    How great would it be if you are able to retain your individuality even while being together!

    Because in the first instance, it was the original independent YOU that was so adorable for someone to fall for.

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    Love yourself!

    Love means… Courage

    In some unpleasant situations, love could lead to disappointment. It may make you realize the hard way that though you wholeheartedly desire, you can’t make someone love you.

    Standing the test of time is essential; true love wasn’t achieved overnight.

    Take a chance, be enduring and courageous.

    Love means… Hope

    A quote that has captivated my mind is that,

    “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at it’s destination, full of hope!”

    Hope, even in the darkest hours, makes the happy ending worthwhile.

    Love means… Humility

    True love would be about zero ego; placing your beloved and his priorities above ours, thus being really humble.

    Love means… Tremendous Patience

    Some confrontations or misunderstandings with our loved ones tend to anger us.

    However, it is at ‘this’ point that one needs to have tremendous patience. It is like waiting for sunrise after the onset of night.

    Have faith in yourself that the end of this process would surely be worth!

    Give time some time for things to fall in place.

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    Love means… Trust

    Trust yourself and your loved one.

    One should not rely on constant contact with your sweetheart, either in person or via text, just to feel secure.

    Instead, set it free.

    See how beautifully it comes back to you! :-)

    A verse from the Bible says,

    “Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous.

    Love is never boastful nor conceited. It is never rude or selfish.

    It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasures in other people’s sins but delights in the truth.

    It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, to endure whatever comes.”

    Need I say more? :-)

    Featured photo credit: Pixabay: meineresterampe via pixabay.com

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    Last Updated on November 15, 2018

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

    As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

    The Success Mindset

    Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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    The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

    The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

    The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

    How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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    How To Create a Success Mindset

    People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

    1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

    How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

    A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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    There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

    2. Look For The Successes

    It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

    3. Eliminate Negativity

    You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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    When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

    4. Create a Vision

    Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

    If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

    An Inspirational Story…

    For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

    What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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