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Train Your Brain To Feel More Compassion In A Way Most People Don’t Know

Train Your Brain To Feel More Compassion In A Way Most People Don’t Know

Compassion is arguably one of the most important tools that any human being should possess and utilize. It can be hard though. There are some people that you just don’t feel compassionate for. They’ve annoyed you, they’ve done something to upset you, whatever it is — sometimes there’s a reason, and it feels justified to feel no compassion towards those people.

Wouldn’t it be of great benefit to you to be able to feel more compassion towards these people, and everyone else, in general?

Well luckily for you, and everyone you come across, there is. Thanks to a study conducted by a variety of psychologists, we now have a real, tangible theory to strengthening our compassion. This study included compassion not only for people that the test subjects liked, but also the people they weren’t so fond of.

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The theory behind it basically tells us that compassion is like a physical muscle. The more you use it, the more aware of your compassionate nature you are. Much like exercising a physical muscle, exposing it to more and more challenges will strengthen it.

So the simple solution to strengthening our compassion is basically using it. This requires a heartfelt mindfulness about you though, as the opportunity to not only show compassion but be aware of your compassion can easily be missed. That’s why the previously mentioned study utilized a form of meditation, named “compassionate meditation.”

To expand upon the simple solution, here are some actionable steps that you can take right now to begin cultivating ‘more’ compassion:

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Practice Guided Meditation

The study cited above referred to a specific guided meditation they used. Luckily for everyone, they shared the files for this guided meditation. All you’ve got to do is give your name and email here, and you’ll get an email with the files.

Try Standard Meditation

Guided meditation isn’t for everyone. A voice in your ear doesn’t always bring people to that place of peace, so if the guided meditation wasn’t for you, give standard meditation a shot. If you don’t know how, give this a read.

Cultivate Mindfulness

Allow that meditation to seep into your day. Catch yourself every time you think of another, or judge another, and relate to their situation. Be mindful at every opportunity. Stay present.

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Spend Time Relating to Others

Dedicate a time every day, similar to dedicating time to meditation each day, to simply ponder upon the situation of others. Understand why you feel compassionate towards one situation, and apathetic towards another. When you realise that everyone is going through their own unique situation, as complex as your own, every day — compassion often becomes second nature.

Act Compassionately

Go beyond just feeling compassion, but begin living in compassion. Do something nice for the sake of it. Observe how others react to your compassionate nature. Cultivate the compassion. It’s infectious, pass that compassionate nature on to all that you can. (Pay it forward!)

And that should be plenty to begin your compassion work-out. Now all you’ve got to do is stick at it. Much like going to the gym every day, week, or whatever, you need to incorporate your compassion exercises into your day too!

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You’ll find that as you practice it more, the more it becomes a reflex. You’ll begin to relate to people’s situations out of habit.  Not only will you become more compassionate, but a beautiful by-product of your mindfulness practices is that your appreciation will grow. Life will inevitably take on more beauty, as you notice and relate to more of it.

So pay it forward, smile at people, tell them you love them, and remember that everyone out there is living their life — just like you.

If you have anything to add, please drop it in the comment section below.

Featured photo credit: Unknown via quotesfrenzy.com

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Last Updated on February 18, 2019

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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