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Sugar coating isn’t always the best diet

Sugar coating isn’t always the best diet

When we fail to provide all of the details involved in a task in which we are seeking assistance, we often set misguided expectations without even realizing it. We are potentially setting ourselves up for failure. An individual isn’t going to perform how you expect if he or she isn’t receiving all the information required to be successful. We tend to “sugar coat” task instructions because of the higher likelihood of it being accepted by a peer. This is not always the best way, and I’ll explain why.

When we are assigned a task or seeking a favor, we are not always honest about what is involved. “Sugar coating” is when you make the amount of work involved seems very minimal, almost effortless. It is a terrible practice and will almost always result negatively. We need to always be upfront and honest when seeking assistance.

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“It’s all in your approach”

The way you position the project to the receiver is key. The way you approach someone with a task often decides right away the outcome. We may even find ourselves procrastinating when we know the individual isn’t going to be too fond of what’s involved. If we are sugar coating the work and time involved, we aren’t allowing for proper preparation. Sugar coating will likely lead to possible failure, and frustration with the results. Always ask the right person and be sure to explain the importance of the task. It is also a great idea to periodically check to see if the project is going in the right direction. This ensures the project is progressing how you envisioned.

Like anything else, when we approach with a positive attitude we are more likely to achieve what we seek. If you find yourself procrastinating, think about the positive outcome that will come with completion. Ask for assistance from someone that you work well with and can guarantee great results.

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But how?

An example that instantly jumps into mind is when I need assistance with Excel spreadsheets. More often then not, I find myself seeking help from a co-worker. I approach Eric in an upfront manner, usually with a smile. I am sure to tell him exactly what I am looking to have done, and what he should expect. This way Eric will know right away whether or not it is something that he is capable of. Working together to plan and visualize the intended outcome can help clear any cloudiness and misconception. I always make sure that I keep steady contact throughout the days leading up to the project deadline. This helps assure me that the task is progressing and that I can expect positive results from it.

I ignore the fact that I am unable to personally complete the task. I seek assistance from someone I know is capable, but also has the time. I am sure to ask someone who is going to give me great work but will also take instruction well. My approach is always positive, and I am sure to share all details.

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Conclusion

When you are approaching someone with a task, always be clear. Be sure to provide details regarding the work involved and the time needed. We tend to find ourselves lacking in detail in order to make the project seem less tedious. Sugar coating often leads to negative results, which can result in disciplinary action in some cases. Always be upfront and thorough about what you need. Do not lack in detail, and be sure to keep yourself updated throughout the process. Promising results will only come if we make sure they are on their way, and track the progression..

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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