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Mom Sheds Light On What People Have Said About Her Adopted Children Through Photos

Mom Sheds Light On What People Have Said About Her Adopted Children Through Photos

A daughter by definition is “a female child or person, in relation to her mother, father or both”. Relation is “the way in which two or more people are connected”. Some people however, do not know or understand that you do not need to be related to be connected as family. Kim Kelley-Wagner is a mother of two who has recently posted a series of photos in an album titled “Things said to or about my adopted daughters” on her Facebook. Though it may not seem like it, children are always listening. What we say out of ignorance can really hurt them and linger in their thoughts.

 “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” – Oprah Winfrey

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         “I am not broken because I am adopted, I am blessed.” – adoption.com

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               “There are no unwanted children, just unfound families.” – The National Adoption Center

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                    “I have four children, two are adopted, I forget which two.” – Bob Constantine

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                          “It’s important to realize that we adopt not because we are rescuers. No. We adopt because we are rescued.” – David Platt

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                                “Adoption is not a birth-mother’s rejection but an unconditional love that inspires her to put herself last and do all she can for her baby.” – Unknown

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                                    “Somehow destiny comes into play. These children end up with you and you end up with them. It’s something quite magical.” – Nicole Kidman

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                                          On her Facebook, Kim says “I have tried to explain to my daughters that people do not say these things to be mean, they say them out of ignorance, which is why I am sharing some of them. Words are powerful, they can become tools or weapons, choose to use them wisely.” All children are unique in their own way but they all need love and encouragement. They see your actions, hear your words and sometimes, if the words are said enough, think your thoughts so be mindful of what you say. Adopted children are not an exception to that rule either, they are no different from any other family with a biological child. It does not mean they love their parents any less, or that they are loved any less. It just means there were a few more pieces of paper involved in order to complete a family.

                                          “Be careful what you say, you can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there” – Joel Osteen

                                          Featured photo credit: Family – Jill Wellington via pixabay.com

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                                          Last Updated on November 15, 2018

                                          Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

                                          Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

                                          What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

                                          As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

                                          The Success Mindset

                                          Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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                                          The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

                                          The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

                                          The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

                                          How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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                                          How To Create a Success Mindset

                                          People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

                                          1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

                                          How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

                                          A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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                                          There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

                                          2. Look For The Successes

                                          It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

                                          3. Eliminate Negativity

                                          You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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                                          When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

                                          4. Create a Vision

                                          Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

                                          If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

                                          An Inspirational Story…

                                          For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

                                          What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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