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Mom Sheds Light On What People Have Said About Her Adopted Children Through Photos

Mom Sheds Light On What People Have Said About Her Adopted Children Through Photos

A daughter by definition is “a female child or person, in relation to her mother, father or both”. Relation is “the way in which two or more people are connected”. Some people however, do not know or understand that you do not need to be related to be connected as family. Kim Kelley-Wagner is a mother of two who has recently posted a series of photos in an album titled “Things said to or about my adopted daughters” on her Facebook. Though it may not seem like it, children are always listening. What we say out of ignorance can really hurt them and linger in their thoughts.

 “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” – Oprah Winfrey

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         “I am not broken because I am adopted, I am blessed.” – adoption.com

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               “There are no unwanted children, just unfound families.” – The National Adoption Center

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                    “I have four children, two are adopted, I forget which two.” – Bob Constantine

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                          “It’s important to realize that we adopt not because we are rescuers. No. We adopt because we are rescued.” – David Platt

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                                “Adoption is not a birth-mother’s rejection but an unconditional love that inspires her to put herself last and do all she can for her baby.” – Unknown

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                                    “Somehow destiny comes into play. These children end up with you and you end up with them. It’s something quite magical.” – Nicole Kidman

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                                          On her Facebook, Kim says “I have tried to explain to my daughters that people do not say these things to be mean, they say them out of ignorance, which is why I am sharing some of them. Words are powerful, they can become tools or weapons, choose to use them wisely.” All children are unique in their own way but they all need love and encouragement. They see your actions, hear your words and sometimes, if the words are said enough, think your thoughts so be mindful of what you say. Adopted children are not an exception to that rule either, they are no different from any other family with a biological child. It does not mean they love their parents any less, or that they are loved any less. It just means there were a few more pieces of paper involved in order to complete a family.

                                          “Be careful what you say, you can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there” – Joel Osteen

                                          Featured photo credit: Family – Jill Wellington via pixabay.com

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                                          What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                                          What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                                          Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

                                          They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

                                          It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

                                          1. They Manage Their Expectations

                                          They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

                                          2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

                                          Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

                                          3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

                                          Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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                                          4. They’re Not Materialistic

                                          There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

                                          5. They Don’t Dwell

                                          They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

                                          6. They Care About Themselves First

                                          They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

                                          They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

                                          7. They Enjoy the Little Things

                                          They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

                                          8. They Can Adapt

                                          They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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                                          9. They Experiment

                                          They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

                                          10. They Take Their Time

                                          They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

                                          11. They Employ Different Perspectives

                                          They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

                                          12. They Seek to Learn

                                          Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

                                          13. They Always Have a Plan

                                          They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

                                          14. They Give Respect to Get It

                                          They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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                                          15. They Consider Every Opportunity

                                          They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

                                          16. They Always Seek to Improve

                                          Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

                                          17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

                                          They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

                                          18. They Live in the Moment

                                          They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

                                          You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

                                          19. They Say Yes

                                          Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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                                          20. They’re Self-Aware

                                          Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

                                          We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

                                          Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

                                          Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

                                          Final Thoughts

                                          The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

                                          For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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