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Mind Hack: The Philosophy of One

Mind Hack: The Philosophy of One
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    Recently, a friend posted 1 + 1 = 1 on Facebook, which caused a flurry of replies to her “silly” post. I replied with a number of different answers to 1+1, as I have always considered the Philosophy of One to be a litmus test of how someone looks at the world. It was fun to watch her other friends (predominately of high school age) come up with answers and proofs on why each answer could be true. The curiosity shown was inspiring, and curiosity is important.

    The Philosophy of One test is one we can all do, looking at different answers to the age-old question: “What is 1 + 1?”

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    1 + 1 = 2

    The most logical and correct answer…right?

    For many people, especially engineers and analytical-type individuals this can be the only true correct answer. We have all learned it in school, and the fact 1+1 does indeed equal 2 is essential to our symbolic number system.

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    Unfortunately, when it comes to philosophy, this is a rather tedious and boring answer. Even more to the point: it doesn’t describe everyone.

    1 + 1 = 1

    Those people who wish to focus on the unity of life can easily see 1 + 1 = 1. They will relate it to love and relationships. They will relate it to the oneness someone can achieve with the universe, God and everything else. In a marriage, two individuals become one. One creative youth even came up with a mathematical proof on how this could be true (naturally, that is the same form of proof that shows that 1 = 0, which is caused by a small fallacy — but it still sounds good). However, if one can truly see 1 + 1 = 1, one can see the interconnection with other living beings.

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    1 + 1 = 3

    You visual or hearing learners should get this one. “One plus one” has three words to it, so thus one plus one equals three. I had a friend who would test this on her elementary students. Usually one or two people would get it, and they would usually see it by counting it out on their fingers. Her background was in music and art, so the realization of 1 + 1 = 3 came naturally to her.

    Granted, she also said she enjoys silly word games and riddles.

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    1 + 1 = 4

    This was originally a sarcastic answer that stuck with the possible solutions of the Philosophy of One. Why was this sarcastic? I was annoyed at a person jumping to conclusions that did not even fit the problem. Then I realized, that it is a natural tendency and philosophy of most people. These people want so much to be logical and reasonable, so they are usually the first to argue that 1 + 1 can only equal 2, and we are nuts for playing this simple philosophical mind game. However, they then become addicted to their own logic and thoughts, and like any addiction it compounds upon itself. Addiction to thoughts are probably some of the most dangerous addictions around, as they can cause someone to rationalize any action to prove their thought and thinking is correct. It is an easy addiction to fall prey to, as it is one that builds us up, and creates a universal acceptance. Thus, we have 1 + 1 = 2 + 1 (self) + 1 (world) = 4.

    So, 1 + 1 = 4 illustrates that mental jump people make from a simple solution to a solution that includes complexity.

    One question – Four possible solutions

    It is important to remember, exercises like these help us change perspectives. These perspective changes can then give us a solution we wouldn’t normally see and, as such, help hack your mind into overdrive to try to find different solutions to simple problems. Try to seek out your Philosophy of One, and from that seeking you may find an elegantly simple solution that solves your problem.

    What do you first think when you hear 1 + 1? What other answers are there for 1 + 1?

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    Last Updated on October 17, 2019

    How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

    How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

    You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

    But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

    Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

    What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

    Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

    So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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    1. Recognize the Signs

    If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

    Some telltale signs include:

    • You’re always on your phones.
    • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
    • You aren’t together during important events.
    • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
    • You don’t make plans or date nights.
    • You’re not happy.

    If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

    2. Try New Things Together

    Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

    Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

    Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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    Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

    3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

    Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

    Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

    Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

    4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

    One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

    Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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    5. Cook Meals Together

    Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

    One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

    Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

    If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

    6. Have a Regular Date Night

    Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

    The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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    Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

    • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
    • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
    • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
    • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
    • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
    • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
    • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

    Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

    Final Thoughts

    The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

    • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
    • Lowers divorce rates
    • Improves communication
    • Reduces marital boredom
    • Bonds couples closer
    • Improves friendship
    • Boosts health
    • Reduces stress

    These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

    It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

    These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

    Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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