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How to Meet New People and Make Friends with The Best

How to Meet New People and Make Friends with The Best

If you have trouble meeting new people and making friends with the best of them, then you’re about to find out why it’s not your fault. Read on…

Before we get into some smooth techniques for meeting new friends, let’s understand why it’s been hard to do until now.

Why It’s Not Your Fault If You Can’t Meet Interesting New Friends

Among many reasons:

 1.  Your parents didn’t teach you to make friends as an adult! This skill is quite different from the techniques used by children to make new friends.

 2.  Making friends is a step out of your comfort zone—you may feel emotionally threatened when you meet new people, and that’s not easy to change.

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 3.  Wishy-washy advice on how to make friends is too general and can’t be applied. You need specific steps and clear strategies for meeting, and making friends with great people.

Making the right friends can make your life ten times more enjoyable. With great friends, you can share your life stories and experiences, learn new things, and have the fun of your life during weekends, trips, and adventures. It’s way better than just accepting that you’ll have to spend your time in a lonely and dull state, while you know you deserve better than that.

Now, the most important thing you can do is learn how to meet new people who you actually want to spend time with.

How to Meet New People Quickly

To simplify, let’s break this technique down to 6 important steps:

 1.  Decide on a subject/ interest/ hobby/ sport that you love

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 2.  Find forums or meetup groups about that subject

 3.  Select interest groups that meet regularly to discuss the subject

 4.  Attend their meetings.

 5.  Talk about stuff like: when you started to like the subject/hobby, how often you do it, people you know that do the same thing, and similar.

 6.  Jump to conversation topics that have nothing to do with the main interest.

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If your mind goes blank on “step 1”, look for interest groups in your area and choose one or two that seem the most interesting. This is really all you have to do to meet new people, and you can talk to as many people in these events as you think or feel is enough.

How To Kick-Start the Friendship (A Crucial Piece)

Some people do what I just told you and still can’t create new friendships. And that’s because they don’t know a simple, but crucial tip, that you’re about to find out: having one commonality with someone is not enough—you need two commonalities to create a friendship.

When you go to the social gatherings and start meeting new people, look for things that you have in common other than the main subject of the meeting.

The formula goes like this:

First Commonality + Second Commonality = Potential Friendship

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Most people think they need one commonality with a person to create a friendship, and it can be frustrating and lonely when they actually meet interesting people but can’t make friends with them. Now that you know this crucial tip, you can discover even more pieces to your success in getting the friends you want in your life.

Go Further

If you want to learn to get free tips on how to overcome your emotional blocks that prevent you from meeting people, and more specific techniques on how to meet interesting people and make friends, then get on my Free Social Skills Newsletter. Just scroll down and head over to the Get The Friends You Want site.

 

 

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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