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How to Meet New People and Make Friends with The Best

How to Meet New People and Make Friends with The Best

If you have trouble meeting new people and making friends with the best of them, then you’re about to find out why it’s not your fault. Read on…

Before we get into some smooth techniques for meeting new friends, let’s understand why it’s been hard to do until now.

Why It’s Not Your Fault If You Can’t Meet Interesting New Friends

Among many reasons:

 1.  Your parents didn’t teach you to make friends as an adult! This skill is quite different from the techniques used by children to make new friends.

 2.  Making friends is a step out of your comfort zone—you may feel emotionally threatened when you meet new people, and that’s not easy to change.

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 3.  Wishy-washy advice on how to make friends is too general and can’t be applied. You need specific steps and clear strategies for meeting, and making friends with great people.

Making the right friends can make your life ten times more enjoyable. With great friends, you can share your life stories and experiences, learn new things, and have the fun of your life during weekends, trips, and adventures. It’s way better than just accepting that you’ll have to spend your time in a lonely and dull state, while you know you deserve better than that.

Now, the most important thing you can do is learn how to meet new people who you actually want to spend time with.

How to Meet New People Quickly

To simplify, let’s break this technique down to 6 important steps:

 1.  Decide on a subject/ interest/ hobby/ sport that you love

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 2.  Find forums or meetup groups about that subject

 3.  Select interest groups that meet regularly to discuss the subject

 4.  Attend their meetings.

 5.  Talk about stuff like: when you started to like the subject/hobby, how often you do it, people you know that do the same thing, and similar.

 6.  Jump to conversation topics that have nothing to do with the main interest.

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If your mind goes blank on “step 1”, look for interest groups in your area and choose one or two that seem the most interesting. This is really all you have to do to meet new people, and you can talk to as many people in these events as you think or feel is enough.

How To Kick-Start the Friendship (A Crucial Piece)

Some people do what I just told you and still can’t create new friendships. And that’s because they don’t know a simple, but crucial tip, that you’re about to find out: having one commonality with someone is not enough—you need two commonalities to create a friendship.

When you go to the social gatherings and start meeting new people, look for things that you have in common other than the main subject of the meeting.

The formula goes like this:

First Commonality + Second Commonality = Potential Friendship

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Most people think they need one commonality with a person to create a friendship, and it can be frustrating and lonely when they actually meet interesting people but can’t make friends with them. Now that you know this crucial tip, you can discover even more pieces to your success in getting the friends you want in your life.

Go Further

If you want to learn to get free tips on how to overcome your emotional blocks that prevent you from meeting people, and more specific techniques on how to meet interesting people and make friends, then get on my Free Social Skills Newsletter. Just scroll down and head over to the Get The Friends You Want site.

 

 

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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