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How To Live Life With No Regrets

How To Live Life With No Regrets

I’d imagine getting to the end of your life and realizing you have regrets is one of the most difficult feelings ever. To know that you’ve had your shot and there’s no way you’re going to get your life to live over again. That’s why it’s so important that you don’t miss out on opportunities along the way or fail to achieve your dreams.

Despite this desire, most people reach the end of their life with a ton of regrets. Today we’re going to look at how your mindset will ensure you live life with no regrets.

Get Clear On What You Want

You probably have a rough idea of what you want to achieve in your life. While this will change over time it’s important to always keep it in the front of your mind. If you have random wishes and never put any focus on achieving them then it’s likely you’re going to regret this later.

However if you know what you want and prioritize it in your life then you’re much more likely to achieve it. If you want to become a millionaire then go and find out what millionaires have done to achieve their goals and follow that path. If you want to be in a loving relationship then work out what character traits your ideal partner is likely to desire and start developing them in yourself.

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And remember that you’re in control of your entire life. No one is going to hand you your goals, dreams and wishes on a silver platter. If you want something then you have a responsibility to yourself to go out and make it happen.

Enjoy The Journey

Our society has become very results orientated and this can result in a lack of fulfillment in life. Happiness is not a goal that you reach. It’s a state that you can choose to live in every day no matter what’s going on around you.

When you have things that you want to achieve in your life it’s important to remember that the end goal can be very disappointing if you approach it the wrong way. The key is to realize that the joy of life comes from the journey, not reaching the destination.

If you really want to become an excellent piano player then it’s not about amazing an audience. It’s about the joy you feel when you’re playing the piano. Sure many days will feel frustrating but all people who have achieved great things fall in love with the journey to get what they want.

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Failure Is An Option (And It’s Necessary)

The people with the most regrets in life are those that are afraid to fail.

Nothing is achieved without failure at some point along the road. Therefore if you’re only going to take the easy road and try to avoid failure then you’re setting yourself up for a life of regrets.

No one likes failing, making a mistake, saying the wrong thing or rejection. However they’re a natural and necessary part of the process called life.

The people who are successful in living their lives with no regrets are the ones that fall down 9 times and get up 10. There is simply no other way to get what you want.

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Be Open To New Opportunities

You have to be open to all the new opportunities around you, investigate them and see if they are something you want to add to your life. Famous hockey player Wayne Gretzky was famous for saying:

“You miss one hundred percent of the shots you don’t take.”

The same is true for opportunities. Every time you turn down your friends who want to try some new activity you are missing out on an opportunity. Every business idea you don’t examine, every attractive person you don’t approach is another opportunity that’s disappearing.

Once you’ve investigated the opportunity that doesn’t mean you have to take it further. But you never want to be the person who reaches the end of their life saying “I wish I’d started a business” or “I wish I’d told that person how I really felt.”

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What This Looks Like In Real Life

While learning the piano you’re going to spend years making mistakes; it’s called learning. This process applies to anything and everything you want to become skillful at.

While becoming a millionaire you’re going to go through business failures, rejection and a ton of mistakes. Millionaires aren’t the people who hit it lucky. They’re the ones that kept going until they got what they wanted.

Great relationships don’t come from movies where the stars align and you meet the perfect person. Great relationships come from two people who constantly evolve to become that perfect person for their partner on a daily basis. They work on themselves to be the best partner they can possibly be.

You Get To Choose Your Ideal Life

If you want to live a life free of regrets then simply decide what you really want and go out and get it. Continue striving, pushing, working and driving until you get what you want in your life. Don’t let anything or anyone hold you back.

And enjoy the process… isn’t that why we’re put here on this earth after all?

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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