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Following Your Passion Is Not A Desire, But A Need

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Following Your Passion Is Not A Desire, But A Need

 

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    Guilty as charged! How many of us growing up have made decisions like this? Never mind growing up — how many of us have made decisions like this as adults going through working life? Sacrificing our creative passions on the altar of making a buck! Do these excuses seem familiar to you?

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      Now that is a question! What would I want to do every day if money was no object? It’s worthwhile spending the time to not only daydream and really imagine our ideal day, but to actually write those dreams down on paper. What would my ideal day look like if time and money were no object? Try this, and you’ll be surprised by the passion it unleashes. Indeed, it is so useful as an exercise that it is one of the first questions the great Alan Watts asked when he addressed an audience of young people.

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        Is it possible to follow our passion and make a living? Ask writers from J.K. Rowling to Zadie Smith, filmmakers from Steven Spielberg to James Cameron, artists from Jeff Wall to Tracy Emin, musicians from Adele to Will.i.am, sportspeople from David Beckham to Usain Bolt. Whatever the creative industry, there are many, many people out there — not just the brightest stars — making their passion pay. It can even potentially pay much more than the traditionally esteemed jobs our education system places on a pedestal.

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          With the explosion of internet technology, social media and freelancing, it is easier than ever to make creative work pay. Indeed, the ability for anyone to self-publish online has been called the new Gutenburg revolution! Musicians no longer need record companies to get started, artists no longer need a sponsor, visual communicators no longer need a film production company. So, if you decide to quit your job to follow your passion, there are more avenues than ever for turning your avocation into a vocation!

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            For other industries and passions, business start-up help is actually quite easy to come by. You can even do it extremely low cost. So it is worthwhile channeling your passion: sitting down, getting creative and making a plan. Definitely look up a mentor who has already walked the path before you; someone who can cut years off your journey and give you priceless insight into opportunities and pitfalls. And if you don’t get started on this now …when will you?

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              A veteran care nurse recently revealed the top regrets of the dying.

              “I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.”

              “I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.”

              “I wish I had taken more risks.”

              “I wish I had taken better care of myself.”

              “I wish I’d allowed myself to love.”

              “I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.”

              “I wish I had been a better partner or parent.”

              Now if that list doesn’t prove why following your passion is a need, not a desire, then nothing will!

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                Doing something you hate. Ever tried it? Guilty once again! I’m sure many of us know the feeling. It’s the real life evidence that following our passion is a concrete need. We’re not going to get that time back, and it’s better to realize this sooner rather than later.

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                  “Contentment is the greatest wealth”

                  Once said a wise man.

                  Buddha. He was pretty wise.

                  “He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have”

                  Said another wise man.

                  Socrates. He was also pretty wise.

                  “Be content with what you have;
                  rejoice in the way things are.
                  When you realize there is nothing lacking,
                  the whole world belongs to you.”

                  Lao Tzu. Another ‘wise guy’.

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                    “I lived my own life, rather than how society taught me to live!”

                    “I discovered my purpose, and gave myself to it.”

                    “I was brave enough to take risks and learn lessons.”

                    “I took good care of myself, and reaped the rewards.”

                    “I loved.”

                    “I was a great partner and parent.”

                    “I touched many lives and inspired many people.”

                    What do you want to be saying at the end?

                    Thanks to Moga for this inspiring comic strip. You can visit her Tumblr here!

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                    10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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                    10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

                    We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

                    A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

                    So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

                    • honest
                    • reliable
                    • competent
                    • kind and compassionate
                    • capable of taking the blame
                    • able to persevere
                    • modest and humble
                    • pacific and can control anger.

                    The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

                    1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

                    All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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                    But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

                    2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

                    How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

                    I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

                    “The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

                    Abigail Van Buren

                    3. How does this person take the blame?

                    Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

                    4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

                    You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

                    5. Read their emails.

                    Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

                    • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
                    • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
                    • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
                    • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
                    • Too many question marks can show anger
                    • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

                    6. Watch out for the show offs.

                    Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

                    7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

                    A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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                    Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

                    8. Their empathy score is high.

                    Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

                    People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

                    9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

                    We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

                    “One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

                    Stendhal

                     10. Avoid toxic people.

                    These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

                    • Envy or jealousy
                    • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
                    • Complaining about their own lack of success
                    • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
                    • Obsession with themselves and their problems

                    Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

                    Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

                    Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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