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7 Positives Only Introverts Would Understand

7 Positives Only Introverts Would Understand

There’s an avalanche of information about introverts on the web. The great thing about it is that it helps a lot of people realize their own introverted tendencies. Many introverts are beginning to understand why situations commonly perceived as problems by many are, well, simply non-problems for them. Here are some of those positives only introverts would understand.

1. They love cancelled parties.

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    Introverts love cancelled parties. Okay, maybe love is too strong a word. But an introvert really wouldn’t mind if a big party he was invited to suddenly got cancelled or postponed.

    Partying with a big group of people for a long period of time zaps an introvert’s energy. To expend less energy, introverts enjoy one-on-one conversations instead of group activities. You may know someone who’s dubbed as a “kill joy” because he wants to leave a party early. Stop the name-calling and consider that maybe that person is just tired and needs to recharge by spending some time by himself. He could be an introvert.

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    2. They’re cool with shutting up.

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      Society has a funny perception of silence. It’s as if something is terribly wrong if someone just wants to sit quietly by himself.

      Remember that there is such a thing as companionable silence. It’s when two people are so relaxed and comfortable with each other that no words need to be spoken. And there’s solitude too, which is the creative’s refuge.

      Introverts like silence and solitude because it’s during quiet times that many people, not just introverts, produce billion-dollar ideas, relax their minds, and recharge their bodies to face another day.

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      3. They get high (with energy) on being alone.

      No invites on a Friday night? No problem!

      While most people would be horrified and perhaps acutely depressed at the thought of spending the weekend minus social activities, your typical introvert is already getting started on his reading or movie list. That, or he’s already out hiking, hanging out at a bookshop, gardening, or writing weird poetry at the cafe.

      But remember that being alone doesn’t equate to loneliness. The thing is, introverts need “alone time” for them to conserve their energy. This doesn’t mean that they’re alone all the time. Balance is key as Marti Olsen Laney explains in her book, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World, “Introverts need to balance their alone time with outside time, or they can lose other perspectives and connections.”

      4. They’re comfortable with eating alone.

      Dining alone has such a bad reputation, doesn’t it? Heaven forbid you eat a meal without a living human body next to you!

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      For most introverts, solo dining is a relaxing experience and a good opportunity to truly enjoy a meal in peace. Bear in mind that introverts have a low threshold for stimulation and are easily distracted. It’s a good thing people are starting to realize the value of dining in peace, like this restaurant.

      5. They just like to watch.

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        As funny as that may sound, they do.

        Introverts are observant by nature. They’re the quiet ones who prefer to sit at the sidelines and observe those around them. And no, they’re not judging people when they do this. This also doesn’t mean that introverts are wallflowers. They can talk your ear off if the topic is something they’re passionate or know a lot about. They simply don’t feel the need nor have the energy to be social butterflies.

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        As Susan Cain puts it, “We’re not anti-social; we’re just differently social.”

        6. They have few friends.

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          More than anyone else, introverts are masters at prioritizing quality over quantity, especially when it comes to friends. They form  fewer but deeper relationships with people. Amazingly though, many introverts thrive in the online world. Perhaps because online communication and networking gives them more time to think and reflect about how to express their responses as compared to real-world conversations.

          7. They take it slow.

          Most of the time, taking things slow is seen as a weakness and the ability to “think on your feet” is favored over the ability to reflect. But introverts prefer to do things little by little and think carefully before making big decisions. The innate gifts of slowing down and tuning into their inner world and reflecting on experiences and situations allow them to better understand other people and empathize.

          Introverts are good at unsettling extroverts without even trying. They can appear mysterious and don’t show much reaction or facial expression. So take the time to get to know someone and learn what makes them tick. Do this especially when your personality leans toward extroversion. Pretty soon these positives may hold true for you as well.

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          13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

          13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

          Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.

          Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.

          My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.

          To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.

          You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.

          Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:

          “I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”

          “I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”

          “I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”

          “I don’t deserve happiness”

          EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.

          Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.

          Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.

          This article highlights the top 13 tips and tricks of how happy people think and feel.

          If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently:

          1. Happy People Put Happiness First

          Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.

          Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.

          To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.

          The happy person asks,

          “What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”

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          “Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”

          They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.

          If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.

          Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.

          If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.

          2. Happy People Embrace Pain

          I know what you are thinking –

          “No one is ALWAYS happy”

          or …

          “Even happy people get in bad moods”

          and …

          These statements are absolutely accurate.

          Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.

          Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…

          Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.

          Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.

          When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.

          3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image

          We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.

          The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.

          How are you currently defining yourself?

          For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.

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          When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves.

          When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.

          Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.

          Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.

          If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.

          4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System

          The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.

          Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.

          Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.

          They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.

          5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers

          Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.

          However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.

          We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.

          If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……

          What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.

          Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.

          They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.

          What are you triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?

          These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds.

          6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”

          Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.

          Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.

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          Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.

          A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.

          A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.

          7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators

          Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.

          Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.

          We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.

          In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.

          8. Happy People Bring Other People Up

          What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.

          What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.

          Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.

          When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.

          9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams

          Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.

          It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.

          Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.

          Negativity is NOT normal.

          The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.

          Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)

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          10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff

          The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.

          They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.

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          The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, thenyoue can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.

          Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.

          If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.

          11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right

          Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.

          Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.

          It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.

          Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.

          12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)

          Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.

          It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.[1]

          Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!

          13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment.

          When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.

          Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.

          Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.

          In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.

          If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.

          I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.

          It starts with one decision – happiness.

          The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.

          Featured photo credit: Autumn Goodman via unsplash.com

          Reference

          [1] Harvard Business Review: The Science Behind the Smile

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