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6 Reasons Why the World Needs to Value Introverts More Highly

6 Reasons Why the World Needs to Value Introverts More Highly

In her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking author Susan Cain discusses what she calls the “Extrovert Ideal” or the notion many of us intrinsically hold that extroverts make better friends and are better at many jobs. She goes on to explain that by overlooking the introverts among us we ignore an immensely valuable resource. Just because someone has a lot to say, doesn’t mean their ideas are any good. In fact, in many situations you may do better with an introvert in your corner for these six reasons:

1. They are more direct

When time is of the essence and you need to make a decision an introvert may make the best leader. Introverts won’t waste time brainstorming and confusing the situation by presenting to many options. Instead an introverted leader will hone in on a practical solution and get the ball rolling to achieve results quickly. Sometimes an introvert is the key to efficiency.

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2. They encourage everyone to contribute

By being willing to take a backseat in the conversation department and by keeping their explanations brief and to-the-point introverts pave the way to get every member of a group contributing. They will often even explicitly find the other people in a meeting who are being less chatty and encourage them to share their thoughts. Since introverts spend so much time thinking about ways to support their ideas, the quietest members of the team are often the ones most worth listening to.

3. They can recharge their own batteries

While an introvert may feel physically exhausted following a dinner party where they were forced to interact with a large group of people, that introvert can also boost their own energy levels back up to where they need to be energetic. Quiet time away from other people leaves introverts rejuvenated and ready to get back to work. This skill can make introverts more effective in the workplace. Instead of needing to take breaks to have conversations with co-workers to get their energy levels up, introverts can sit quietly at their desk and achieve the same result. The upshot is fewer people need to stop working to get the ball rolling again.

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    4. They are great at networking

    Imagine a big conference with lots of different people from lots of different places coming together to network and share ideas. Sounds like an introverts worst nightmare, right? Wrong. Introverts are actually often the best networkers because they are more attuned to listening and more selective about who they talk to. By not wasting time talking to people in irrelevant fields or people with unoriginal ideas, introverts focus on having conversations that carry the most value. Once they are engaged in those conversations they are more inclined to let the other person speak. They ask questions to keep the conversation going and the result is that people love talking to them.

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    5. They make great friends

    Because they are more selective about who they talk to, introverts often have small circles of close friends. That means that they can be more attentive to the people in their inner circle. Having more conversations with fewer people means that the things that get discussed are important. If you are friends with an introvert they are likely one of your best friends.

    6. They think before they act or speak

    In order to express an opinion and act on it, introverts need to give it a lot of thought. They carefully weigh the pros and cons and spend time imagining every different scenario that could play out by following a given path. The result is that their decisions are often better ones and the courses of action they choose to follow are the most effective.

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    Last Updated on July 16, 2019

    7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

    7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

    Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

    When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

    Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

    Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

    1. Become Grateful for Everything

    When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

    People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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    When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

    We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

    2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

    Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

    Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

    Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

    If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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    3. Help Others

    Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

    Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

    Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

    4. Change Your Thinking

    We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

    The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

    Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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    5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

    We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

    As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

    Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

    6. Get into Action

    Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

    Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

    Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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    7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

    You are responsible for your thoughts.

    People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

    Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

    Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

    “Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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