Charm according to the dictionary is the quality of attracting or fascinating others. Charm is the ability to make other people like you and the mistaken belief that this comes natural can be cancerous. Whether you are being liked or not is under your control. Here are 20 signs that prove you are charming person even if you are not aware of it.
1. You are sincere
“The easiest way to gain someone’s trust is to deserve it. This should be pretty easy, assuming you’re just being you and being real. Minimal effort too.”
― Ashly Lorenzana
People like it when you are honest. No one likes a fake. When you are sincere people will be drawn to you because they know they can trust you.
2. You are confident when you speak
You are meticulous and disciplined when you speak to someone.
3. You are attentive
“Charm is getting people to say “yes” without ever having to ask them a question.”
― Connie Brockway, The Bridal Season
During conversations you are not a bully but you are also attentive to what the other person is saying.
4. You are patient
“He’s an indulgent sort of man……
With a quick lip and a fierce tongue, the sort of tongue that draws you in with charm and words of praise, awkward silences and desperate worships.”
― Coco J. Ginger
You speak only when appropriate rather than try to prove you are the most intelligent person in the room.
5. You have a positive attitude
People can discern if you love to retreat and give in to criticism. However you are charming when you show you have a positive mental attitude.
6. You are inquisitive
“I think charm is the ability to be truly interested in other people”
― Richard Avedon
You show you are concerned about the other person by asking questions and displaying a sense of curiosity.
7. You are a people person
You love to engage in real life conversations rather than hide behind gadgets.
8. You don’t pass judgement
You are not quick to judge people’s character or condemn them for their mistakes. No one likes to be around people who are rigid in their opinions.
9. You don’t try to seek unnecessary attention
Desperately seeking attention can piss people off. By being friendly and considerate you put people at ease when they are around you.
10. You have an open mind
In trying to increase your network you don’t shut off new ideas and stop looking for a new people to associate with. People like people who are willing to seek new grounds.
11. You don’t take life too seriously
You smile and can laugh over issues, mistakes or humorous comments. By doing this you allow people to lower their guards when they are around you.
12. You don’t procrastinate
You are not afraid to take action. People are turned off when you hesitate to make decisions or take actions.
13. You praise others
“It is a great mistake for men to give up paying compliments, for when they give up saying what is charming, they give up thinking what is charming.”
― Oscar Wilde
They genuinely praise others and are not sycophants. If they see a good deed or trait in someone, they are willing to acknowledge it and commend such person.
14. You make a solid first impression
“Charm was a scheme for making strangers like and trust a person immediately, no matter what the charmer had in mind.”
― Kurt Vonnegut, Breakfast of Champions
Within the first few seconds of meeting you people are able to judge or make a decision about you. By having a distinctive body language you show you are likable. Whether it is in your posture, handshake or smile you create a remarkable first impression.
15. You are always willing to perform an act of kindness
People let down their guard when you show kindness. The most charming people out there are people who are willing to offer a good deed without expecting anything in return.
16. You are composed even in difficult situations
You don’t over react to positive or negative situations but you keep your cool. Silence can be more effective than angry words.
17. You remember people’s name
People love it when you remember their names. A name is an essential part of everyone’s identity. When you can remember their names during a conversation, you charm people.
18. You don’t brood over failures
“A man can become so accustomed to the thought of his own faults that he will begin to cherish them as charming little “personal characteristics.” – Helen Rowland
Instead of brooding over failure you learn from it and use it in your personal growth. People love and admire people who grow from failure rather than reel in it.
19. You are highly considerate of the other person you are speaking to
When you speak to someone, you regard the person as the most important person in the world. You value their time and offer undivided attention.
20. They know when and who to open up to
You know you are not perfect. You are careful to avoid sharing your personal problems with everybody. Rather you have confidants you can open to and who honestly offers you his/her opinion to help you grow.
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