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20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have Siblings Would Understand

20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have Siblings Would Understand
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Sure, having a bunch of brothers and sisters running around can be annoying sometimes. But, at the end of the day, you know in your heart of hearts that you wouldn’t trade them for the world. Why is that? Because they add so much to our lives. Indeed, there are many things that only those with multiple siblings experience, such as…

1. Car trips are never boring.

When you have a couple brothers or sisters in the car with you, it’s impossible to run out of things to do, even when it’s a trip that lasts five hours or more.

2. Never running out of clothes.

Sure, the clothes might not fit, or they might be a bit threadbare, but you always have a supply of them ready-to-use (especially if you are the youngest child).

3. 24/7 competition.

This is especially true if you are a guy with multiple brothers. Who can play this instrument best? Who can win the most games of basketball? Trust me when I say that you’ll run yourselves ragged trying to find out.

4. Jealousy (that goes both ways).

Whether you’re mad that your younger brother is taller than you, or that your sister can run faster than you, there’s always something that makes you jealous towards one of your siblings. Luckily, there’s usually something they envy about you too!

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5. Sharing everything.

Whether it’s your room, your toys, your video games, your favorite plate, or even your toothbrush, you’re bound to share pretty much everything you own with your siblings.

6. Having support, no matter what.

If you are a bit of a loner in school, or are targeted by a certain bully, your siblings will always be there to have your back and help you navigate the treacherous waters of life.

7. Family pictures are impossible.

Getting everyone looking their best at the right time is pretty much never going to happen when you have multiple siblings. Even when you think you have it, your youngest brother or sister will make some strange face that forces you to start over again!

8. You get to be a pseudo-parent.

If you happen to be significantly older than one of your siblings, you get the joy of being able to teach them about the world in a way that your parents could never do.

9. You will have a lot of acquaintances.

When you have tons of siblings, all of your social networks get muddled together, especially if you are close in age. Even if you aren’t friends with your sister’s or brother’s friends, they’ll know you (and will probably refer to you as “so and so’s brother/sister”).

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10. Getting ready in the morning is an experience.

Most families will have one bathroom for the kids to use, which becomes a major issue when everyone is in school. Good luck figuring out who gets to take the first shower!

11. Food is a precious commodity.

If you weren’t on that box of Cheez-Its the moment your mom brought it back from the grocery store, then you could forget about ever getting your hands on that cheesy goodness.

12. Hiding your favorite snacks was a thing.

You and all of your brothers and sisters had a spot where they hid the good stuff. Luckily, this actually helped to prepare you for college and dealing with food-stealing roommates!

13. Dish duty inevitably fell to you most nights.

You don’t know how or why, but for some reason you were always cleaning the fifty dirty dishes left by your family at the end of the day.

14. Your Converses fit better.

If you were the younger sibling and got your older brother or sister’s Converses, they were usually stretched out and perfect for wearing by the time you got them.

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15. Teachers judged you based on what your siblings did.

Even if you are a saint, Mr. Teacher will always distrust you all because your older brother was the class clown.

16. You had to be a walking encyclopedia.

Whenever someone asked you about your siblings, you were expected to know every detail about their lives.

17. People freaked out when you told them how many brothers and sisters you have.

People are generally amazed if you have more than two brothers or sisters, because it’s pretty rare in this day and age. Luckily, you get to tell them all about what it’s like for the umpteenth time!

18. Christmas shopping makes your wallet cry.

It’s hard enough buying gifts for your parents and friends, but add your several siblings on top of that and you’re looking at a hefty chunk of change! The good part is that you’ll get a lot of gifts in return (that is, if they remember)!

19. Board game nights are filled with drama.

And no, it’s not because of the game itself. It’s because one of you is always cheating, and another is always really really angry that they lost!

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20. You have your own language.

Or, at the very least, you added several strange words to your language’s lexicon that only you and your siblings understand. If any outsiders hear your strange speech, prepare for some awkward stares!

How many of you grew up with multiple siblings? Would you agree that it could be tough, but that you also wouldn’t trade the experience for anything? Comment below!

Featured photo credit: Portrait of three siblings via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)
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You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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