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20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have Siblings Would Understand

20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have Siblings Would Understand

Sure, having a bunch of brothers and sisters running around can be annoying sometimes. But, at the end of the day, you know in your heart of hearts that you wouldn’t trade them for the world. Why is that? Because they add so much to our lives. Indeed, there are many things that only those with multiple siblings experience, such as…

1. Car trips are never boring.

When you have a couple brothers or sisters in the car with you, it’s impossible to run out of things to do, even when it’s a trip that lasts five hours or more.

2. Never running out of clothes.

Sure, the clothes might not fit, or they might be a bit threadbare, but you always have a supply of them ready-to-use (especially if you are the youngest child).

3. 24/7 competition.

This is especially true if you are a guy with multiple brothers. Who can play this instrument best? Who can win the most games of basketball? Trust me when I say that you’ll run yourselves ragged trying to find out.

4. Jealousy (that goes both ways).

Whether you’re mad that your younger brother is taller than you, or that your sister can run faster than you, there’s always something that makes you jealous towards one of your siblings. Luckily, there’s usually something they envy about you too!

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5. Sharing everything.

Whether it’s your room, your toys, your video games, your favorite plate, or even your toothbrush, you’re bound to share pretty much everything you own with your siblings.

6. Having support, no matter what.

If you are a bit of a loner in school, or are targeted by a certain bully, your siblings will always be there to have your back and help you navigate the treacherous waters of life.

7. Family pictures are impossible.

Getting everyone looking their best at the right time is pretty much never going to happen when you have multiple siblings. Even when you think you have it, your youngest brother or sister will make some strange face that forces you to start over again!

8. You get to be a pseudo-parent.

If you happen to be significantly older than one of your siblings, you get the joy of being able to teach them about the world in a way that your parents could never do.

9. You will have a lot of acquaintances.

When you have tons of siblings, all of your social networks get muddled together, especially if you are close in age. Even if you aren’t friends with your sister’s or brother’s friends, they’ll know you (and will probably refer to you as “so and so’s brother/sister”).

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10. Getting ready in the morning is an experience.

Most families will have one bathroom for the kids to use, which becomes a major issue when everyone is in school. Good luck figuring out who gets to take the first shower!

11. Food is a precious commodity.

If you weren’t on that box of Cheez-Its the moment your mom brought it back from the grocery store, then you could forget about ever getting your hands on that cheesy goodness.

12. Hiding your favorite snacks was a thing.

You and all of your brothers and sisters had a spot where they hid the good stuff. Luckily, this actually helped to prepare you for college and dealing with food-stealing roommates!

13. Dish duty inevitably fell to you most nights.

You don’t know how or why, but for some reason you were always cleaning the fifty dirty dishes left by your family at the end of the day.

14. Your Converses fit better.

If you were the younger sibling and got your older brother or sister’s Converses, they were usually stretched out and perfect for wearing by the time you got them.

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15. Teachers judged you based on what your siblings did.

Even if you are a saint, Mr. Teacher will always distrust you all because your older brother was the class clown.

16. You had to be a walking encyclopedia.

Whenever someone asked you about your siblings, you were expected to know every detail about their lives.

17. People freaked out when you told them how many brothers and sisters you have.

People are generally amazed if you have more than two brothers or sisters, because it’s pretty rare in this day and age. Luckily, you get to tell them all about what it’s like for the umpteenth time!

18. Christmas shopping makes your wallet cry.

It’s hard enough buying gifts for your parents and friends, but add your several siblings on top of that and you’re looking at a hefty chunk of change! The good part is that you’ll get a lot of gifts in return (that is, if they remember)!

19. Board game nights are filled with drama.

And no, it’s not because of the game itself. It’s because one of you is always cheating, and another is always really really angry that they lost!

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20. You have your own language.

Or, at the very least, you added several strange words to your language’s lexicon that only you and your siblings understand. If any outsiders hear your strange speech, prepare for some awkward stares!

How many of you grew up with multiple siblings? Would you agree that it could be tough, but that you also wouldn’t trade the experience for anything? Comment below!

Featured photo credit: Portrait of three siblings via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on August 19, 2019

How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

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Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

That’s where we all should be.

So, answer me this:

How are you, really?

And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

It’s taking control.

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2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

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It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

Change will happen.

Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

“Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

“If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

What would you do if you felt you were enough?

By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

Final Thoughts

By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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