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15 Things Only Low Maintenance People Would Understand

15 Things Only Low Maintenance People Would Understand

Are you a low maintenance person, like me? You can relate to the definition which says that you do not need a lot of attention to function normally. This covers a wide spectrum, in my opinion. Anything from the workplace, clothes, shopping, getting ready, to finding out where your significant other is stuck in traffic. Here are 15 things which will reassure you that you rock. You can pass it on to your fans as well.

1. You wear the essentials.

If you are like me, your wardrobe is pretty simple and not full of clothes that you probably never wear. In regards to laundry, this is done when clothes are dirty and helps save the environment. You use less detergent and less energy, in every sense of the word.

2. You are always ready first.

This is a star quality of being low maintenance in my opinion. You are the one who spends the least time on showering, dressing and getting ready. While waiting for everyone else, you can use the time to catch up on Facebook or read a book.

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3. You treat your hair as another quick fix.

If you are a low maintenance girl, you are going to put your hair in a ponytail if you are having a bad hair day. If you are a guy, you are going to grow a beard to cut down on shaving time.

4. You are pretty relaxed about where your significant other is.

You know the constant phoning and messages. ‘Where are you now?’ seems to be the new mantra. Being low maintenance, you do not insist on constant tracking. You leave that to the satellites!

5. You decline shopping invitations.

Being a low maintenance person means you shun shopping outings. There is likely to be a lot of tension about minor choices for your friends in which you are going to be involved. So it is always best to make an excuse that you have something else (better?) to do!

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6. Your packing for holidays is dead simple.

You can easily get all your stuff in a carry-on. This saves on baggage charges and time as well. No worrying about whether your case has arrived. No pulled muscles from lugging a heavy suitcase around.

7. You rarely complain.

You are content with very little as regards clothes, accommodation and personal space. This makes life easier for you as there is no time wasted in complaining about every little thing. Now, if only high maintenance folk could take a leaf out of your book.

8. You avoid high maintenance people at work like the plague.

You know the people I mean. They are the ones who always waste time, never take the blame and they are always the first to criticize! They are on the borderline of getting sacked but they are never or rarely fired. You are on an entirely different wavelength and spend time trying to be more productive, more collaborative and more innovative.

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9. Your beauty regime is simple and quick.

You know how to keep things simple. If you are wearing a bold colored lipstick, you know that your eyes will not need any attention. Your skin does not need much care either. You know that drinking plenty of water is going to give you a great glow and you eat lots of healthy fruit and veggies to keep it that way. If you are a guy, your grooming regime consists of using whatever body wash is on sale and you can be ready in ten minutes after stepping out of the shower.

10. You hate ironing.

A great tip to get that perfectly ironed dress or shirt in no time is to put some tin foil under the cover on the ironing board. This conducts more heat on to the fabric you are ironing. So, ironing is faster and crease free.

11. You spend money wisely.

Imagine spending £140,000 in your lifetime on cosmetics and hairdos. That is the figure revealed by The Independent in the UK. This is the average figure a woman in the UK spends. High maintenance grooming for men is not far behind. When you reflect on that, you think of all the great times, holidays and outings you have had while still managing to look decent on a very small budget.

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12. You are easy company.

You are not demanding. What a great quality to have! You do not need cosseting or pampering and you are pretty relaxed. You are only too well aware of what gets in the way of enjoying someone’s company so you focus on the pleasure rather than the buts and ifs.

13. You are a great listener.

This is priceless. You do not need attention so you talk much less and listen more. You are the one to ask for ideas when brainstorming. You know how to set boundaries to avoid high maintenance people getting too much of your attention.

14. You find solutions.

Whether it is what you are going to have for dinner or the next deadline at work, you are the one to come up with solutions. While the others around you are intent on firing their egos or being inflexible, you are the one who can adapt to change. “I’m open to ideas, what would you like to eat/propose?” comes naturally to you.

15. You are not too picky.

In the film ’When Harry Met Sally’ Billy Crystal (Harry) makes it perfectly plain that Meg Ryan (Sally) is far too choosy, demanding and bossy. That is his definition of a high maintenance person and Sally fitted the bill perfectly. In spite of his preference for a low maintenance partner who would ‘go with the flow’, he ended up marrying her. As that film made almost $93 million, it seems that low maintenance people are pure gold!

Featured photo credit: I am a good listener, apparently/Quinn Dombrowski via flickr.com

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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