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15 Signs You Have The Cutest Teacher Ever

15 Signs You Have The Cutest Teacher Ever

Is your teacher the cutest of them all? Does your heart beat faster when the bell rings for class (and you’re already sitting at the desk, of course, because you’re just that keen)? Your teacher sounds pretty cute to me. Here are some signs that you have found the Surprised Kitty of cute teachers.

1.Your teacher loves to give out free food.

We all know food is the best way to a person’s heart. Any teacher that brings snacks to a classroom or says those golden words: “if you’re going to eat in this lesson, you must share with the whole room,” must be incredibly loved. And that’s how we end up falling head over heels for biscuits and the art teacher all at once.

 2. Your teacher wears the coolest clothes.

Dressing right is key. We all know the teacher look – if it involves dressing-gown style cardigans, leather elbow patches, thick Trelawney lenses, frumpy jumpers, or baggy cuff-linked shirts, we’re just not interested. But is that – is that a pencil skirt? Is he wearing Hollister? Ooh lala, French is suddenly our kind of language.

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3. Your teacher is totally down with the kids.

They don’t even mean to be cool, but they just so happen to have a Twitter account and an uber cool Instagram full of foodie pics (our favourite), sunsets, and ironic selfies. And even though your ‘follow’ was never reciprocated, you still stalk the account at least once a day.

4. Your teacher drops the mask once in a while.

We all treasure those moments when the teacher admits that they are not just a teacher and shows us pictures of the kids, or lets slip about a drunken escapade over the weekend. We’re not just the students anymore – we’re equals. Oh my gosh, we’re friends.

5. Sometimes, your teacher is just as bored as you are.

We’ve all had those lessons where the teacher ditches the lesson plan. “Let’s have a debate.” “Let’s watch this film that’s distantly related to World War I.” “Why don’t you all write a play about the American Civil War and act it out?”  We love the chance to get creative and throw away the textbook for those vital minutes of the day. And we love Mr. Thompson for it too.

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6. Your teacher even gets tipsy at Prom.

That English teacher who stumbles in her heels, the math professor who throws up on his shoes – it’s all so human. The easiest way to fall into a teacher crush is discovering that… they’re human too?! Who knew?

7. Your teacher is on your level.

The teachers that host a debate about the pros and cons of Zayn leaving One Direction, who discuss the ethics of a ‘cut for Zayn’ hashtag and help you work out what the hell is going on in the run up to an election – the teachers that engage you as a person in society and not a child in a school, those are the teachers that are in your fondest thoughts.

8. Your teacher can be smooth as silk and cool as a cucumber.

They never get flustered in the cinema when you’re in the next row of a Fifty Shades of Grey screening. You’ll still get a wave and a smile and you won’t be ignored in a shop queue, on a bus ride, or in a restaurant. You both have lives, it’s no big deal to wander into them outside of the classroom.

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9. Comedy is your teacher’s first language.

You have banter, and they give as good as they get. You drew a rude part of the human body on the board, did you? They might happen to remark on its rather unimpressive size and speculate on the perpetrator. They might call you nicknames or give you a stupid hat to wear when you give the wrong answer. They make you laugh, and you think they’re a hunk and a half.

10. No way – your teacher makes mistakes?!

Sometimes, they even spell things wrong on the board and congratulate you when you correct them. They can forget their textbook or arrive late to class. They’re your favourite, they’re adorable, because a bit of human frailty is always instantly lovable.

12. Your teacher loves to sit on the desk.

I know, it doesn’t sound like a big deal, but when they teeter on the edge like that and slouch just like you do? You’re thinking — what a thrill seeker, they’re totally casual and cool.

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13. They can be totally badass.

This is a rare occurrence, but when the moment comes, we can’t help but get a bit hot under the collar. They’re angrily snapping a pencil in two or ripping pages out of your folder, because they care.

14.  Your teacher loves a good criticism sandwich.

None of us likes to admit that our favourite teacher criticises our work, but let’s remember, folks — they do it because they care. So it’s lovely when those cutting negatives are squished between your excellent spelling and perfect grammar, not to mention a smiley face. Thanks, Mrs. Cogsworth, you’ve softened the blow.

15. Your teacher runs that extra mile.

There’s always one teacher who has a special warm place in our hearts. This gem stayed after school, did extra marking, tutored us into lunch – and although, admittedly, we didn’t enjoy it much at the time, we owe our A and our place at University to this marathon runner. All we can say is: thank you so much for your patience. We would have given up on ourselves way before you ever did.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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