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14 Tips for Communicating Ideas

14 Tips for Communicating Ideas

I’m doing a lot of speaking all of a sudden, related to my pre-launch plans around a new media company. I’m finding that there are certain skills in communicating the information and building understanding that are important and useful. I thought I’d pass on some thoughts along those lines.

Use Analogies

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Okay, sometimes my analogies are bad, but the premise is still good. It’s important to be able to talk about something that interests you both in the “native tongue” of what you’re doing, as well as in the language of the person you’re speaking with. For instance, if I’m talking to someone who’s not into podcasting, and I’m explaining what my new business will be about. I say, “I’m just trying to be a whole bunch of different magazines in the magazine stand at the local bookstore.” It’s easy. They understand the building blocks: it’s not my store, it’s my magazine. It’s not my rack. It’s my magazine. Simple, easy to understand. I don’t have to waste a lot of breath.

Consider the following tips:

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  • Learn more than one way to present your idea.
  • Practice pitching your idea on friends, strangers, supportive and hostile listeners.
  • Tailor the way you talk about your idea to the person you’re talking with.
  • Check in. Are they following? Let them ask questions.
  • Use your audience’s words to explain your idea. You can correct misunderstandings later.
  • Allow “white space” around the ideas. Don’t overwhelm them with content.
  • Try to close with actions, even if that’s to get the person to critique the idea better than, “Oh, that sounds neat.”

Which leads me into the other half of this. I find that people pitch their ideas as if they’re never going to have a chance to talk about them ever again. Now, while that might be true when faced with the person in front of you at any given moment, you’ll have all the time in the world to practice. Don’t blow the person out of the water by overwhelming them with the guts of every aspect of the idea.

Distill Ideas

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You have to convey the most understanding in the shortest time frame. This is very similar to the concept of an elevator pitch: how would you explain your idea to a captive audience in an elevator if you had only sixty seconds to make the pitch? Think along the lines of how you can best craft your idea such that it hits the major points while not overwhelming the listener. Here are some ideas:

  • What are the BARE BONES of the idea?
  • How few words can you use, and still get meaning across? (example: we fill up your ipod).
  • Can you use “crossover” ideas. “Like TV and Radio, only two-way.”
  • What is most confusing? Can you change it?
  • Would a picture help?
  • How much can be explained later without hurting the conversation now?
  • What’s your next sentence, after this new, distilled one?

Ideas can be brilliant in your head and not translate well out of your mouth. Without understanding and buy-in from those you need to complete your idea, the information presented ends up being translated as “noise.” How can you apply these tips to ideas you have in your day to day life? Have you had this experience before? What other tips do you want to add to my 14?

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–Chris Brogan writes about self-improvement and creativity at [chrisbrogan.com]. He’s working on launching Grasshopper New Media, an audio and video podcast media company.

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7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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