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12 Things Only Slow People Would Understand

12 Things Only Slow People Would Understand

Slow people sometimes get a bad rap, criticized for taking too long or not being decisive enough. Being slow is a silly quality for people to complain about, though, because of all the good that comes from being a little slower than most, like patience and being able to really listen to the person doing most of the talking. Read on about the things which slow people understand, but most others don’t seem to.

1. You don’t like to rush.

Slow people don’t particularly enjoy the feeling of being in a hurry. They appreciate the opportunity to do things at a relaxed, comfortable pace. Some might complain that they need to get their butts in gear, but those individuals should realize different people are wired different ways.

2. You want to think more deeply than most people.

Frankly, a lot of people have pretty shallow beliefs and ideas. Slow people don’t want to be among that number, spending the time it takes to have complex, insightful thoughts.

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3. You only speak when you have something to say.

Those who respond to questions before they’ve finished being asked it usually don’t answer them very well. By taking a little longer, slow people know how to make the things they say matter more. Others will forget that it took you awhile to get your reply out, but they’ll remember the answer if it was a wise one.

4. You want to savor every mouthful.

Someone who eats a meal or reads a book slowly is really maximizing the joy they derive from it. Some people are in too big of a hurry to actually enjoy what they’re consuming. Slow people know better than to do that.

5. You’re patient with others.

Because you understand what it’s like to want to take your time, you don’t get mad at others for wanting to do the same. Eliminating that restless anger from your life is good for you in both mind and spirit, and people will like you better for being a more positive person.

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6. You don’t say the first thing that comes to mind.

A lot of people shout out the first thing that pops into their head, and suffer for it. Slow people don’t make that mistake, searching for the best answers rather than the quickest ones.

7. You like to listen.

Slow people don’t always like to talk, but they tend to cherish the chance to listen to somebody else share their story. Everyone likes someone who actually listens to them instead of someone just waiting for a chance to interject and get back to talking about themselves.

8. You love being alone sometimes.

Slow people tend to be introverts, meaning they derive energy from being on their own rather than socializing with others. It’s amazing what an hour alone doing their own thing can do for a slow person’s mood and energy.

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That ability to quickly reinvigorate is valuable.

9. You don’t like having to be improvisational.

If you were a comedian, you would prefer stand-up over improv. Slow people prefer to prepare something in advance rather than rely on being interesting and entertaining at a moment’s notice.

10. You’re more of a writer than a talker.

By the same token, the chance to prepare what they’re going to say by putting words to paper is invaluable to many slow people. Some types of people deliver their best speeches without a script, but slow people like having that safety net.

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11. You want to avoid making mistakes.

Slow people are often perfectionists, dissatisfied with the idea of not getting everything right. But this just means they make less errors.

12. You want to always do the right thing.

Too many say the wrong things and then make stupid decisions because they don’t really think through their choices. Slow people prefer to avoid this problem by being absolutely sure that they’re not making avoidable mistakes.

That dedication to getting things right is yet another benefit to being a little slower than most.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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