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10 Simple Things Remarkably Likeable People Do

10 Simple Things Remarkably Likeable People Do

Do people like being with you? When you enter a room, do people smile at you? Do you often get elected as leader and can easily close a sale? Are you often given better service than most?

Only a handful of people will answer yes to all those questions. They are not necessarily the most popular person in the room. But they are absolutely the most likeable person you’ll ever meet.

Here are 10 things we gathered that exceptionally likeable people do:

1. They give you their full attention

Likeable people put their cell phones down and focus on you. Never mind if there is a text message or a notification, they are committed to the conversation, no matter how trivial it may be. Giving your full attention to the person you are talking to is the highest respect you can afford them.

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2. They are open-minded

“Much of the vitality in a friendship lies in the honouring of differences, not simply in the enjoyment of similarities.” – Anonymous

Likeable people do not judge you, your actions, or your way of thinking. They have learned to be respectful of other people’s opinions even if they don’t agree with them. They accept you as you are.

3. They know who they are

Likeable people are genuine and people trust them because of it. If they are wrong, they admit it. If they agree with you, they’ll say it. If they don’t know the answer, they’ll say so too. They don’t pretend to be anybody else other than who they are but they aren’t in your face about it either.

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” – Kurt Cobain

4. They have a positive outlook on life

Wade Boggs, a former professional baseball player said, “A positive attitude can cause a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes.”

Remarkably likeable individuals have a positive attitude and choose to keep being positive. Rather than grumble or react negatively to a bad situation, likeable people find the opportunity or the silver lining. Their bright outlook brings people up and makes them a pleasure to be with.

5. They listen

“There is a difference between truly listening and waiting for your turn to talk” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Likeable people listen. Sounds simple but in reality, not a lot of people know how to do this. It takes practice to truly listen. Likeable people show this by asking questions, focusing on the conversation, and try to add something meaningful to it.

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6. They have a great sense of humor

“Life is so much easier with a sense of humor.” – Anonymous

It’s a fact that we like hanging out with people who make us laugh. Likeable people have a great sense of humor without being offensive or obnoxious to others.

7. They don’t seek attention

Likeable people are confident and friendly. They don’t need to talk loudly or draw attention to themselves to feel good. If they are recognized for an accomplishment, they bring in the people who helped them. Attention seekers are never attractive to anyone.

8. They are very secure

“Most bad behavior comes from insecurity” – Debra Winger

People who are comfortable in their own skins do not need to draw attention to themselves, talk over people, or inject an accomplishment in every conversation.  Likeable people make friends and meet new people with a genuine interest to get to know the person. They are confident, secure and genuine.

9. They are touchy

And we don’t mean it that way. Likeable people touch their friends, co-workers, family. During conversations, touching people inspires trustand positive feelings. A pat on the back, clap on the shoulder, a hug or a handshake releases oxytoxin that makes the recipient of the touch feel good.

Remember what John Keats said: “Touch has a memory.”

10. They make you feel good about yourself

Likeable people are great at listening, have a positive attitude, open mind and overall, make you feel good about yourself. Their acceptance of you, respects for your differences, and added value to your life, makes you feel a little bit better about being you, makes it easier to embrace your uniqueness.

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Featured photo credit: Patrick Haney/Likeable? via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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