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10 Simple Things Remarkably Likeable People Do

10 Simple Things Remarkably Likeable People Do

Do people like being with you? When you enter a room, do people smile at you? Do you often get elected as leader and can easily close a sale? Are you often given better service than most?

Only a handful of people will answer yes to all those questions. They are not necessarily the most popular person in the room. But they are absolutely the most likeable person you’ll ever meet.

Here are 10 things we gathered that exceptionally likeable people do:

1. They give you their full attention

Likeable people put their cell phones down and focus on you. Never mind if there is a text message or a notification, they are committed to the conversation, no matter how trivial it may be. Giving your full attention to the person you are talking to is the highest respect you can afford them.

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2. They are open-minded

“Much of the vitality in a friendship lies in the honouring of differences, not simply in the enjoyment of similarities.” – Anonymous

Likeable people do not judge you, your actions, or your way of thinking. They have learned to be respectful of other people’s opinions even if they don’t agree with them. They accept you as you are.

3. They know who they are

Likeable people are genuine and people trust them because of it. If they are wrong, they admit it. If they agree with you, they’ll say it. If they don’t know the answer, they’ll say so too. They don’t pretend to be anybody else other than who they are but they aren’t in your face about it either.

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” – Kurt Cobain

4. They have a positive outlook on life

Wade Boggs, a former professional baseball player said, “A positive attitude can cause a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes.”

Remarkably likeable individuals have a positive attitude and choose to keep being positive. Rather than grumble or react negatively to a bad situation, likeable people find the opportunity or the silver lining. Their bright outlook brings people up and makes them a pleasure to be with.

5. They listen

“There is a difference between truly listening and waiting for your turn to talk” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Likeable people listen. Sounds simple but in reality, not a lot of people know how to do this. It takes practice to truly listen. Likeable people show this by asking questions, focusing on the conversation, and try to add something meaningful to it.

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6. They have a great sense of humor

“Life is so much easier with a sense of humor.” – Anonymous

It’s a fact that we like hanging out with people who make us laugh. Likeable people have a great sense of humor without being offensive or obnoxious to others.

7. They don’t seek attention

Likeable people are confident and friendly. They don’t need to talk loudly or draw attention to themselves to feel good. If they are recognized for an accomplishment, they bring in the people who helped them. Attention seekers are never attractive to anyone.

8. They are very secure

“Most bad behavior comes from insecurity” – Debra Winger

People who are comfortable in their own skins do not need to draw attention to themselves, talk over people, or inject an accomplishment in every conversation.  Likeable people make friends and meet new people with a genuine interest to get to know the person. They are confident, secure and genuine.

9. They are touchy

And we don’t mean it that way. Likeable people touch their friends, co-workers, family. During conversations, touching people inspires trustand positive feelings. A pat on the back, clap on the shoulder, a hug or a handshake releases oxytoxin that makes the recipient of the touch feel good.

Remember what John Keats said: “Touch has a memory.”

10. They make you feel good about yourself

Likeable people are great at listening, have a positive attitude, open mind and overall, make you feel good about yourself. Their acceptance of you, respects for your differences, and added value to your life, makes you feel a little bit better about being you, makes it easier to embrace your uniqueness.

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Featured photo credit: Patrick Haney/Likeable? via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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