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10 Signs You Need A Major Life Change

10 Signs You Need A Major Life Change

One fine day, something about your life may feel off. Perhaps you notice someone doing something you always wanted to do. Or something chaotic or difficult is thrown your way. You realize you want to stop and get off the fast moving life you are in and breathe, and think. Or rethink. The kind of thinking where you say,

“Is this what I want to do with my life? Is this all there is? Am I making a difference?”

It’s easy to keep doing what you’re doing and justify how hard it would be to set upon a different path. The excuses are all out there, as well as the conditioning you have about getting what you want. About living the life you came here to live. We each have our own unique path and only you will know if something feels off, and what it is you really want to be doing.

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Other peoples opinions can mask your own too, and that can be a killer of living the life you really want.

Here are 10 signs you need a major life change. See if any of these resonate and make the decision to claim this one life of yours and live it to its fullest.

  1. You find your mind drifting off into better ways of being.
  2. You romanticize the past to escape the present.
  3. Your actions don’t align with your words.
  4. You sense you’re settling. 
  5. You feel disenchanted with life.
  6. Your relationships feel superficial.
  7. You start to lie to yourself and others to avoid the truth.
  8. You feel numb.
  9. You resist unexpected opportunities out of fear of the unknown or what others will say.
  10. You see someone with a great life and you want what they have.

If any of these resonate with you, start where you are. Perhaps you are stuck and have no idea where to begin. The best place may be to stop and think about what it is that you want to be doing, where you want to be living and who you want to spend your time with.

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Take a pad and paper and head to a quiet spot, preferably in nature and answer these questions:

  1. How do I want to spend my day, morning to night?
  2. Where do I want to be?
  3. Who do I want to hang out with?
  4. What is the biggest problem facing me in my life right now and who can I turn to for advice or as a sounding board?
  5. What are the reasons I feel as if I cannot or should not or will not have the life I desire?
  6. Write yourself a letter about the reasons you CAN have the life you want and what you could do to get there. There are so many answers inside you!

There are many great masters in a variety of professions, careers and life choices that made a complete 180 degree turnaround. At a point in their lives they either felt one or more of the ten rumblings above or something ruptured in their lives and made them rethink everything.

Take some time to research successful individuals that have achieved whatever it is that you want, that are living the kind of life that you want. See how they did it and perhaps read about their humble or difficult beginnings. Get inspired!

So go and seize the day, live the life you were meant to live and don’t let another moment go by without changing your direction. You may take time reaching your destination but you will be on a new path.

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Go for it!

Here are links to some amazing talks about how to get started.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B-pUKcvDR6U

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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