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10 Signs You Need A Major Life Change

10 Signs You Need A Major Life Change

One fine day, something about your life may feel off. Perhaps you notice someone doing something you always wanted to do. Or something chaotic or difficult is thrown your way. You realize you want to stop and get off the fast moving life you are in and breathe, and think. Or rethink. The kind of thinking where you say,

“Is this what I want to do with my life? Is this all there is? Am I making a difference?”

It’s easy to keep doing what you’re doing and justify how hard it would be to set upon a different path. The excuses are all out there, as well as the conditioning you have about getting what you want. About living the life you came here to live. We each have our own unique path and only you will know if something feels off, and what it is you really want to be doing.

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Other peoples opinions can mask your own too, and that can be a killer of living the life you really want.

Here are 10 signs you need a major life change. See if any of these resonate and make the decision to claim this one life of yours and live it to its fullest.

  1. You find your mind drifting off into better ways of being.
  2. You romanticize the past to escape the present.
  3. Your actions don’t align with your words.
  4. You sense you’re settling. 
  5. You feel disenchanted with life.
  6. Your relationships feel superficial.
  7. You start to lie to yourself and others to avoid the truth.
  8. You feel numb.
  9. You resist unexpected opportunities out of fear of the unknown or what others will say.
  10. You see someone with a great life and you want what they have.

If any of these resonate with you, start where you are. Perhaps you are stuck and have no idea where to begin. The best place may be to stop and think about what it is that you want to be doing, where you want to be living and who you want to spend your time with.

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Take a pad and paper and head to a quiet spot, preferably in nature and answer these questions:

  1. How do I want to spend my day, morning to night?
  2. Where do I want to be?
  3. Who do I want to hang out with?
  4. What is the biggest problem facing me in my life right now and who can I turn to for advice or as a sounding board?
  5. What are the reasons I feel as if I cannot or should not or will not have the life I desire?
  6. Write yourself a letter about the reasons you CAN have the life you want and what you could do to get there. There are so many answers inside you!

There are many great masters in a variety of professions, careers and life choices that made a complete 180 degree turnaround. At a point in their lives they either felt one or more of the ten rumblings above or something ruptured in their lives and made them rethink everything.

Take some time to research successful individuals that have achieved whatever it is that you want, that are living the kind of life that you want. See how they did it and perhaps read about their humble or difficult beginnings. Get inspired!

So go and seize the day, live the life you were meant to live and don’t let another moment go by without changing your direction. You may take time reaching your destination but you will be on a new path.

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Go for it!

Here are links to some amazing talks about how to get started.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B-pUKcvDR6U

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Last Updated on October 17, 2019

How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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1. Recognize the Signs

If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

Some telltale signs include:

  • You’re always on your phones.
  • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
  • You aren’t together during important events.
  • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
  • You don’t make plans or date nights.
  • You’re not happy.

If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

2. Try New Things Together

Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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5. Cook Meals Together

Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

6. Have a Regular Date Night

Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

  • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
  • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
  • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
  • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
  • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
  • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
  • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

Final Thoughts

The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

  • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
  • Lowers divorce rates
  • Improves communication
  • Reduces marital boredom
  • Bonds couples closer
  • Improves friendship
  • Boosts health
  • Reduces stress

These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

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