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10 Reasons Why People Who Are Sentimental Have Beautiful Lives

10 Reasons Why People Who Are Sentimental Have Beautiful Lives

It’s time to champion and celebrate being sentimental. For thousands of years, the ability to reason and think was held above the ability to feel or have emotions. Having feelings can still be considered primitive or even crazy! Well, let’s spend some time looking at how being sentimental makes life bigger and fuller. Sure, being rational and logical has its advantages, but so does being sentimental. Here are 10 ways that sentimental people have a more beautiful life!

1. We give the best gifts

How many times have you received a birthday gift that was a card with only a signature in it? I have. And let me tell you, it’s not very exciting. What about those birthday gifts that make you say, “Wow!” Those are the good ones. Sentimental people want to bring out that “wow” in you, so we tend to give gifts that are beyond ordinary.

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2. We feel all of life

Sentimental people are highly-conscious people. We sense everything and pay attention to everyone. We are constantly noticing the subtle differences in life, whether it’s the tinge of the blue sky or the hue of the grass in the morning. We also know when you are sad or when you’re happy. And we mention it to you. Our lives are full of experiences because nothing gets past us.

3. We see no shades of gray

No, I’m not talking about the movie. Sorry. I’m referring to living life to the fullest. Sentimental people want to experience it all. Whether we are traveling to a nearby coffee shop or to the next continent, our attitude is to embrace the experience fully. There can never be a dull or gray moment. Life is always full of possibilities!

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4. We are “happy” infectious

Sentimental people tend to absorb other people’s feelings and states of mind. So, if you’re having a bad day, a sentimental person will pick up on it and try to change that in you. In essence, we make great cheerleaders, motivational speakers, teachers, counselors, and even world leaders!

5. We love to celebrate

Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and anything else that calls for a party gets a sentimental person ignited. Moments that call for celebration and sharing accomplishments provide opportunities for sentimental folks to take an occasion and blow it up to great proportions! There’s never a dull party with a sentimental person.

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6. We make great listeners

Sentimental people care about feelings. We know that you have them too, so we want to make sure your feelings are validated and acknowledged. This may sound sappy, but one of the many problems in relationships is the lack of acknowledgement of people’s feelings. Sentimental people want to make you feel secure, heard, and validated. If you have a sentimental friend, then consider yourself blessed. Just don’t forget that they have feelings too and may need a shoulder to lean on once in a while.

7. We make great lovers

This one goes without saying. If sentimental people love to celebrate, well, the bedroom is no exception. Sentimentality can make intimacy more exciting, passionate, and meaningful. For a sentimental person, there’s enough passion to go around – twice!

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8. We can forgive and let go

Sentimental people are feeling-oriented, but we do not want to feel negative all the time. So, healthy sentimental people will look to repair relationships and let go of grudges. Ultimately, they look to forgive. Unless there is some sort of imbalance that is unhealthy and unchanging, then the sentimental person understands that relationships are more important than petty instances.

9. We have the deepest relationships

If sentimental people can forgive and move on, then they definitely make great friends. We will be there when you most need us and we’ll respect you when you don’t need us. Either way, we understand that a bond goes deep and needs to be nurtured and fed. This is the crux of a healthy and positive relationship.

10. We make the best memories

Good times need to be remembered. They need to be celebrated and felt! A sentimental person understands that time moves on and can’t be turned back. The only way to keep feelings alive after the moments have passed is to create the best memories so that they’re burned into memory. This is the only way to ever prove and re-experience a fantastic, beautiful, and extraordinary life!

Featured photo credit: Funky young woman resting and relaxing towards the sea. Cheerful brunette enjoying silence and tranquility. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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