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10 Reasons Why People Who Are Sentimental Have Beautiful Lives

10 Reasons Why People Who Are Sentimental Have Beautiful Lives

It’s time to champion and celebrate being sentimental. For thousands of years, the ability to reason and think was held above the ability to feel or have emotions. Having feelings can still be considered primitive or even crazy! Well, let’s spend some time looking at how being sentimental makes life bigger and fuller. Sure, being rational and logical has its advantages, but so does being sentimental. Here are 10 ways that sentimental people have a more beautiful life!

1. We give the best gifts

How many times have you received a birthday gift that was a card with only a signature in it? I have. And let me tell you, it’s not very exciting. What about those birthday gifts that make you say, “Wow!” Those are the good ones. Sentimental people want to bring out that “wow” in you, so we tend to give gifts that are beyond ordinary.

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2. We feel all of life

Sentimental people are highly-conscious people. We sense everything and pay attention to everyone. We are constantly noticing the subtle differences in life, whether it’s the tinge of the blue sky or the hue of the grass in the morning. We also know when you are sad or when you’re happy. And we mention it to you. Our lives are full of experiences because nothing gets past us.

3. We see no shades of gray

No, I’m not talking about the movie. Sorry. I’m referring to living life to the fullest. Sentimental people want to experience it all. Whether we are traveling to a nearby coffee shop or to the next continent, our attitude is to embrace the experience fully. There can never be a dull or gray moment. Life is always full of possibilities!

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4. We are “happy” infectious

Sentimental people tend to absorb other people’s feelings and states of mind. So, if you’re having a bad day, a sentimental person will pick up on it and try to change that in you. In essence, we make great cheerleaders, motivational speakers, teachers, counselors, and even world leaders!

5. We love to celebrate

Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and anything else that calls for a party gets a sentimental person ignited. Moments that call for celebration and sharing accomplishments provide opportunities for sentimental folks to take an occasion and blow it up to great proportions! There’s never a dull party with a sentimental person.

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6. We make great listeners

Sentimental people care about feelings. We know that you have them too, so we want to make sure your feelings are validated and acknowledged. This may sound sappy, but one of the many problems in relationships is the lack of acknowledgement of people’s feelings. Sentimental people want to make you feel secure, heard, and validated. If you have a sentimental friend, then consider yourself blessed. Just don’t forget that they have feelings too and may need a shoulder to lean on once in a while.

7. We make great lovers

This one goes without saying. If sentimental people love to celebrate, well, the bedroom is no exception. Sentimentality can make intimacy more exciting, passionate, and meaningful. For a sentimental person, there’s enough passion to go around – twice!

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8. We can forgive and let go

Sentimental people are feeling-oriented, but we do not want to feel negative all the time. So, healthy sentimental people will look to repair relationships and let go of grudges. Ultimately, they look to forgive. Unless there is some sort of imbalance that is unhealthy and unchanging, then the sentimental person understands that relationships are more important than petty instances.

9. We have the deepest relationships

If sentimental people can forgive and move on, then they definitely make great friends. We will be there when you most need us and we’ll respect you when you don’t need us. Either way, we understand that a bond goes deep and needs to be nurtured and fed. This is the crux of a healthy and positive relationship.

10. We make the best memories

Good times need to be remembered. They need to be celebrated and felt! A sentimental person understands that time moves on and can’t be turned back. The only way to keep feelings alive after the moments have passed is to create the best memories so that they’re burned into memory. This is the only way to ever prove and re-experience a fantastic, beautiful, and extraordinary life!

Featured photo credit: Funky young woman resting and relaxing towards the sea. Cheerful brunette enjoying silence and tranquility. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 24, 2021

How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

Do you say yes so often that you no longer feel that your own needs are being met? Are you wondering how to say no to people?

For years, I was a serial people pleaser[1]. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time, especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It took a long while, but I learned the art of saying no. Saying no meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. When that happened, I became a lot happier.

And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

The Importance of Saying No

When you learn the art of saying no, you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey, considered one of the most successful women in the world, confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything.

Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

Warren Buffett views “no” as essential to his success. He said:

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

When I made “no” a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success, focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say no.

From an early age, we are conditioned to say yes. We said yes probably hundreds of times in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work, to get a promotion, to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

We say yes because we feel good when we help someone, because it can seem like the right thing to do, because we think that is key to success, and because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist.

And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

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At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we are feeling bad that we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

The message, no matter where we turn, is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

How Do You Say No Without Feeling Guilty?

Deciding to add the word “no” to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say no, but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of no that you could finally create more time for things you care about.

But let’s be honest, using the word “no” doesn’t come easily for many people.

3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time, especially you haven’t done it much in the past, will feel awkward. Your comfort zone is “yes,” so it’s time to challenge that and step outside that.

If you need help getting out of your comfort zone, check out this article.

2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

When you want to learn how to say no, remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it: who else knows about all of the demands in your life? No one.

Only you are at the center of all of these requests. You are the only one that understands what time you really have.

3. Saying No Means Saying Yes to Something That Matters

When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else that we may care more about. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

6 Ways to Start Saying No

Incorporating that little word “no” into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

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1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

One of the biggest challenges to saying no is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no will reflect poorly on you?

Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because of FOMO, even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better[2].

3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say No

Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say yes because we worry about how others will respond or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose their respect. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

Keep in mind that saying no can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way.

You might disappoint someone initially, but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to. And it will often help others have more respect for you and your boundaries, not less.

4. When the Request Comes in, Sit on It

Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say no. There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

5. Communicate Your “No” with Transparency and Kindness

When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest[3] to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

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    Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

    Clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

    6. Consider How to Use a Modified No

    If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” as this will give you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

    Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task, but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

    Final Thoughts

    Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

    Use the request as a way to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself.

    Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project, but not by working all weekend. You’ll find yourself much happier.

    More Tips on How to Say No

    Featured photo credit: Chris Ainsworth via unsplash.com

    Reference

    [1] Science of People: 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You
    [2] Anxiety and Depression Association of America: Tips to Get Over Your FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out
    [3] Cooks Hill Counseling: 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

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