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10 Best Activities To Do With Introverts

10 Best Activities To Do With Introverts

Recently, a cultural awareness regarding the nature of introversion has come about. People are becoming more aware that people who were previously thought of as socially awkward, shy, or nerdy are simply introverts, which is a very specific personality characteristic. Being an introvert connotes a lot, but, first and foremost, it means not drawing energy or value from the opinions or thoughts of others. Introverts tend to desire solitude and similar situations, so the activities they tend to engage in are different. For that reason, here is a list of 10 activities introverts would enjoy:

1. Engage in small, controlled and thorough discussion of…nearly anything.

Introverts, while generally avoiding being the center of attention, completely enjoy intimate conversation. Because they desire to engage in solitary activities, they tend to be proficient in many areas. The difference is that introverts do not feel comfortable showing off that knowledge or talent. If you can create a comfortable situation in which introverts will feel safe expressing their views or opinions, they will very likely have a lot to say, and, better yet, be correct in saying it.

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2. Develop small talents and skills.

Introverts all have their muse–mine, obviously, is writing. Introverts tend to enjoy practicing and honing abilities at various activities, such as painting, website coding, woodworking, or a million other tasks. They enjoy relying on hobbies in which it is just them and the medium they are working with, unlike extroverts, for whom the medium is other people. Try to find out what drives them, and learn about it so you can relate to them. You will be surprised at how quickly an introvert’s eyes light up once you talk about his passion.

3. Go to a museum or a library.

Museums tend to be quiet places full of people thinking about history and the history of art. Introverts tend to thrive in this type of environment. It is the same with libraries. Both are places where a respect of knowledge comes into full play, and introverts will open up at the thought of being a part of such a wide body of knowledge.

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4. Stay in and watch a movie.

Some introverts may be legitimately scared of going to a crowded theater and watching a 50-foot screen of people screaming at each other. However, a cozy, intimate atmosphere with a surprising and complicated plot line will do a lot to soothe an introvert.

5.  Lose yourself in music.

Because introverts tend to be more sensitive, they absorb and gather the mood of pretty much everything around them. As such, the right music truly digs deep down into their core. Turn on some tunes at home and just listen, or, better yet, go to a concert and get lost in a wall of sound. Some introverts (like me) only feel entirely free when united by music.

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6. Engage in single-player athletic activities.

Introverts are not necessarily all nerds. They do enjoy physical activity, but tend towards sports in which their own performances are judged individually. Golf, tennis, rowing, boxing, ice skating and many other sports are populated by introverts who could not stand the idea of coordinating a team of five or 10 or 50, as it sometimes is with other sports.

7. Volunteer and generally try to save the world.

Introverts do deeply care about others and about the causes that help others. They might spend time tending to community gardens or teaching computer skills to the elderly or working with animals, because, if they have to work with others, they want to see intrinsic value in the situations in which they are meeting others.

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8. Explore places you’ve never been before.

Introverts like to travel to new places. The destination does not necessarily even have to be a new city; introverts love the freedom that comes with going into a new part of the same town, because it does not remind them of anything. The time spent traveling to new places is one of the few times the mind of an introvert is actually quiet.

9. Go shopping…on the internet.

Introverts love the idea of internet shopping, because it provides a safe and structured environment in which to make data-driven and informed purchase decisions. Stores overwhelm introverts, because everything in the store is made to stimulate their sense and coax them in to buying more. For this reason, the likes of Amazon is a godsend to introverts.

10. Make plans and then fail to follow through on them.

Introverts think of themselves of very strong people simply because they tried to meet new people. For that reason, there is literally no better feeling for an introvert than making plans to do something, and then simply not doing it. This gives the introvert the biggest sense of relief one can imagine. For extroverts, the only equivalent amount of relief would be, if, in planning a college course, the professor scheduled a half dozen exams and cancelled five of them just before they were to occur. Oh, what relief!

Featured photo credit: Back view of a young man with headphones listening to music in the city streets via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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