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Last Updated on December 1, 2020

How to Turn a Good Life into a Great Life

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How to Turn a Good Life into a Great Life

“Life is short, enjoy it while it lasts.”

This kind of statement is common to those who believe that the essence of life is for personal pleasure, self-fulfillment, and enjoyment. Therefore, many seek to attain the “good life” with this mindset.

But what is good life and how can one attain it? Is it just enough to live a good life? What about moving from a seemingly good life to a great life?

This article considers what it means to live a good life and how you can transition from a rather good life to a great life.

Continue reading to learn more.

What Is a Good Life?

A good life can be described as a life that is self-satisfying and self-fulfilling. It is characterized by personal joy, fulfillment, and enjoyment of the small pleasures of life. When someone says their life is good, it means that they can access the basic things that give them comfort and pleasure.

Qualities of a Good Life

A good life is a combination of the experience of goodness in different areas. So when you have a good life, it can be said that you are healthy, happy, pleased, blessed, and have a good reputation.

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1. Health

Health is a state of feeling, looking, and being healthy. It refers to a state of complete emotional and physical well-being and is also referred to by the WHO as a resource of everyday life.[1]

Health is not just the absence of disease(s) but also the ability to perform your daily activities without the limitations of health. Without good health, it would be practically impossible to do or achieve the things that give us a good life.

2. Happiness

Happiness is a state of being satisfied with what you are seeing and the experience you are having. Although happiness is usually short-lived, it plays a significant role in triggering the enthusiasm required to achieve and live a good life.

3. Pleasure

Pleasure is an experience that makes us feel good. Different things give people pleasure. To some, it may be money, to others, it may be a loving and caring spouse, children, or the ability to access whatever they want at any point in time.

Although something is pleasant doesn’t mean it is good, but people often pursue different pleasures to make them feel good. As it is noted in Plato’s Gorgias[2],

“Pleasant is not the same as good but pleasure is to be pursued for the sake of good, and the good is that of which the presence makes us good.”

4. Peace

Peace is a state of physical, mental, and emotional calmness and the feeling of being secured. Peace does not necessarily mean the absence of challenges but the ability to stay afloat despite the storms. When one is at peace, the mind is free from worries and anxieties.

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5. Money

Money is an essential commodity in life. The lack of it can create stress but having enough money to take care of your needs can create an experience of a good life. The idea of pleasure being a component of the good life already signifies that there is a measure of satisfaction that can be gotten by the availability of money.

6. Good Reputation

A good life is not only characterized by what you do or enjoy for yourself, but it is also about the perception of others about you. A good name, the good book says, is better than riches. Integrity and character are required to earn a good reputation with people and this is also a very important component of the good life.

How to Transition From a Good Life to a Great Life

Living a good life is not good enough; you might just be living an average life. This is because unless you continue to grow, the things you cherish now might begin to slip out of your hand without growth.

Moreover, the real essence of life is not only in personal happiness, but it is also in growing continually, being the best version of yourself, and making meaningful impacts on others.

Therefore, to turn a good life into a great life, you have to begin to look beyond your personal pleasure and convenience. Below are seven things you can do to transit from a good life into a great life.

1. Be Committed to Growth

Never be complacent with any level of success you may achieve. This is because success can come in the way of progress.

As Myles Munroe puts it:

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“The greatest enemy of progress is your last success, you could become so proud of what you’ve already accomplished that you stop moving ahead to what you can still accomplish.”

Therefore, to transition to greatness, you have to keep the pace of progress. Move from one level of success to another and from average accomplishments to greater accomplishments.

2. Discover Your Passion

To achieve greater accomplishments in life, you need to discover and turn on your passion. Your passion represents your true desire and what you are wired to do. Your greatest source of motivation will likely come from your passion.

Passion creates “hunger for more” in you and produces the energy and drive required for living a great life. When you focus on what unleashes the energy in you, there is no limit to what you can accomplish.

3. Find your Life Purpose

Life is measured by its impact and not just by its accomplishment. Your purpose is the reason behind your existence. It is the impact you are meant to make in life. Purpose is unique in that purpose is not self-serving but people-serving.

Therefore, the focus of life should not only be about pleasing yourself but also going out of your way to help others, championing a cause, and transforming society. Most great people in history are not remembered for what they accomplished for themselves but by the impacts they made in the world.

4. Cultivate Personal Discipline

Average people revel in pleasure when they achieve little success, but great people celebrate their wins and go on to spur themselves up unto greater accomplishment. If you want to turn your goodness to greatness, you have to cultivate personal discipline. Be moderate with pleasure and concentrate your energy and resources on building greater dreams.

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5. Set Bigger Goals to Stretch Yourself

To achieve a greater level of success, you should set bigger goals that can stretch your abilities. You can’t recognize your capacities until you have placed a greater demand on yourself. Therefore, turn goodness into greatness by continually pushing your limits. Set lofty goals for yourself – goals that are big and ambitious and will take you out of your comfort zone to accomplish.

6. Build Your Network

Greatness in life will continue to be a mirage if you don’t cultivate the habit of building and nourishing your network. To network effectively, you will have to be clear about your networking goals. You will also have to be specific in identifying your networking prospects.

Networking is meant to be a mutual relationship. Therefore, you must bring value to the table when networking. People are often attracted to people of value.

When networking, consider connecting both vertically and horizontally; network with people above and below you as well as people of your own cadre. You will also win more people to yourself if you learn to lend a helping hand rather than being the one demanding help all the time.

7. Leverage on Technology

Technology can help you make a greater impact whether as an individual or with your organization. You can use technology to connect with new people of interest around the globe, and you can also use it to amplify whatever you are doing. Don’t be comfortable with only being influential in your immediate sphere. Use technology to reach new friends, clients, and prospects wherever you can find them on the globe.

Final Thoughts

Sometimes, we learn the greatest life lessons as kids, but we often discard them when we grow and become more sophisticated. An example is the St. Jerome’s rhyme below which summarizes the main point of this article:

“Good, better, best. Never let it rest. Until your good is better and your better is best.”

So, don’t be comfortable with living a good life but turn goodness into greatness by continually developing yourself, exercising your passion, setting bigger goals, making meaningful impacts on society.

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How to Make a Change With the Four Quadrants of Change

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How to Make a Change With the Four Quadrants of Change

Quitting smoking is the easiest thing in the world. Some people quit smoking a thousand times in their lives! Everyone knows someone with this mindset.

But this type of change is superficial. It doesn’t last. For real, lasting change to take place, we need to consider the quadrants of change.

Real change, the change that is fundamental, consistent, and longitudinal (lasting over time) has to happen in four quadrants of your life.

It doesn’t have to be quitting smoking; it can be any habit you want to break — drinking, biting your nails, overeating, playing video games, shopping, and more.

Most experts focus on only one area of change, some focus on two areas, but almost none focus on all four quadrants of change. That’s why much of change management fails.

Whether it is in the personal life of a single individual through actions and habits, or in a corporate environment, regarding the way they conduct their business, current change management strategies are lacking.

It all stems from ignoring at least one part of the equation.

So, today, we will cover all four quadrants of change and learn the formula for how to change fundamentally and never go back to your “old self.”

A word of warning: this is simple to do, but it’s not easy. Anyone who tells you that change is easy is either trying to sell you something, or they have no idea what they’re talking about.

Those who want an overnight solution have left the article now, so that leaves you, me, and the real process of change.

The Four Quadrants of Change

There are four areas, or quadrants, in which you need to make a change in order for it to stick. If you miss or ignore a single one of these, your change won’t stick, and you will go back to your previous behavior.

The four quadrants are:

  1. Internal individual – mindset
  2. External individual – behavior
  3. Internal collective – culture/support system
  4. External collective – laws, rules, regulations, teams, systems, states

All four of these quadrants of change may sound like they could carry change all by themselves, but they can’t. So, be sure to implement your change in all four quadrants. Otherwise, it will all be in vain.

First Quadrant — Internal Individual

This quadrant focuses on the internal world of an individual, and it concerns itself with the mindset of a person.

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Our actions stem from our thoughts (most of the time), and if we change our mindset toward something, we will begin to process of changing the way we act.

People who use the law of attraction fall into this category, where they’ve recognized the strength of thoughts and how they make us change ourselves.

Even Lao Tzu had a great saying regarding this:

“Watch your thoughts. They become words. Watch your words. They become deeds. Watch your deeds. They become habits. Watch your habits. They become character. Character is everything.” [1]

One of the most impactful ways you can make a change in this quadrant is to implement what James Clear calls identity-based habits. [2]

Instead of prioritizing the outcome of a change (ex.: I want to lose 20 pounds), you prioritize your identity as a person (I want to become/remain a healthy person).

Here are a couple of examples for you to see the strength of this kind of resolution:

I want to watch many movies = I am a cinema lover
I want to clean my apartment = I am a clean person
I want to harvest my crops = I am a harvester (farmer)
I want to swim = I am a swimmer

This quadrant is about changing the identity you attach to a certain action. Once you re-frame your thinking in this way, you will have completed the first of the quadrants of change.

Second Quadrant — External Individual

This quadrant focuses on the external world of an individual and concerns itself with the behavior of a person.

This is where people like Darren Hardy, the author of the Compound Effect reside. Hardy is about doing small, consistent actions that will create change in the long run (the compound effect).

You want to lose 30 pounds? Start by eating just 150 calories (approximately two slices of bread) less a day, and in two and a half years, you will have lost 30 pounds.

The same rules apply to business, investing, sports, and multiple other areas. Small, consistent actions can create big changes.

This works — I’ve read 20 extra pages a day for the past two years, and it accumulated into 90 books read in two years. [3]

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Here, you have two ways of dealing with change behaviorally: negative environmental design and positive environmental design.

Negative Environmental Design

This is when you eliminate the things from your environment that revert you to the old behavior. If you want to stop eating ice cream, you don’t keep it in your freezer.

If you want to stop watching TV, you remove the batteries from the remote and put them on the other side of the house (it works!).

Positive Environmental Design

This is when you put the things that you want to do withing reach — literally!

You want to learn how to play guitar? Put your guitar right next to your sofa. You want to head to the gym? Put the gym clothes in a backpack and put it on top of your shoes.

You want to read more books? Have a book on your nightstand, your kitchen table, and on the sofa.

You can even combine this last trick with my early advice about removing the batteries from your remote control, combining the negative and positive environmental designs for maximum effect.

Two Sides of the Same Coin

If you just change your behavior and leave your intentions (thoughts) intact, your discipline will fail you and the real change won’t happen.

You will simply revert back to the previous behavior because you haven’t changed the fundamental root of why this problem occurs in the first place.

That is why you need to create change both in the first quadrant (internal individual — mindset) and the second quadrant (external individual — behavior). These quadrants of change are two sides of the same coin.

Most change management would stop here, and that’s why most change management fails.

No matter how much you focus on yourself, there are things that affect our lives that are happening outside of us. That is the focus of the two remaining quadrants.

Third Quadrant — Internal Collective

This quadrant focuses on the internal world of the collective where the individual resides, and it concerns itself with the culture of that collective.

There are two different distinctions here: the Inner Ring and the Outer Ring.

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The Inner Ring

These are your friends and your family. The Inner Ring is the place where the social and cultural norms of your friends and family rule.

So, if everyone in your family is overweight and every lunch is 1,000 calories per person, then you can say goodbye to your idea of becoming healthy.

In this case, the culture of your group, the inner norms that guide the decisions, actions, thoughts, ideas, and patterns of behaviors are all focused on eating as much as possible. [4]

You need to have the support of your Inner Ring if you want to achieve change. If you don’t have this support, the the best way to proceed is by either changing your entire Inner Ring or distancing yourself from it.

Beware — most Inner Rings won’t accept the fact that you want to change and will undermine you on many occasions — some out of habit, some due to jealousy, and some because supporting you would mean that they have to change, too.

You don’t have to cut ties with people, but you can consciously decide to spend less time with them.

The Outer Ring

The Outer Ring consists of the culture of your company, community, county, region, and country. For example, it’s quite hard to be an open-minded person in North Nigeria, no matter how you, your friends, and your family think.

The Outer Ring is the reason why young people move to the places that share their value systems instead of staying in their current city, county, or country.

Sometimes, you need to change your Outer Ring as well because its culture is preventing you from changing.

I see this every single day in my country, where the culture can be so toxic that it doesn’t matter how great of a job you have or how great your life currently looks — the culture will change you, inch by inch, until you become like it.

Fourth Quadrant — External Collective

This quadrant focuses on the external world of the collective where the individual resides, and it concerns itself with the systems, teams, laws, and rules of that collective.

This quadrant is about the external manifestations of the collective culture. If the majority of the environment thinks in a certain way, they will create institutions that will implement that way of thinking.

The same rules apply to companies.

One example for companies would be those managers who think that employees are lazy, lack responsibility, and need constant supervision (or what is called Theory X in management).

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Then, those managers implement systems that reflect that kind of culture– no flexible work hours, strict rules about logging work, no remote work, etc.

Your thoughts, however, may be different. You might believe that people want responsibility, that they are capable of self-direction, that they can make good decisions, and that managers don’t need to stand on their necks if they want something done (this is called Theory Y in management).

Then, you would want to have flexible working hours, different ways of measuring your productivity (for example, not time on the job but work produced), and remote work, if possible for your profession.

This is when you enter into a conflict with the external collective quadrant. Here, you have four options: leave, persevere, neglect, and voice.

Leave

You can simply leave the company/organization/community/country and go to a different place. Most people decide to do this.

Persevere

This is when you see that the situation isn’t good, but you decide to stick at it and wait for the perfect time (or position) where you can implement change.

Neglect

This is where you give up on the change you want to see and just go with the flow, doing the minimal work necessary to keep the status quo.

These are the people who are disengaged at work and are doing just the bare minimum necessary (which, in the U.S. is around 65% of the workforce).

I did this only once, and it’s probably the only thing I regret doing in my life.

Voice

This is where you actively work on changing the situation, and the people in charge know that you want to create a change.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your company, community, or your country; you are actively calling for a change and will not stop until it’s implemented.

Putting It All Together

When you take it all into account, change is simple, in theory, but it isn’t easy to execute. It takes work in all four quadrants:

  1. Internal individual — mindset
  2. External individual — behavior
  3. Internal collective — culture/support system
  4. External collective — laws, rules, regulations, teams, systems, states

Some will require more work, some less, but you will need to create a change in all four of them.

But don’t let that discourage you because change is possible, and many people have done this. The best time to start changing was yesterday, but the second best time is today.

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