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Family Style Is Making You Fat Without You Even Knowing

Family Style Is Making You Fat Without You Even Knowing

Have you ever noticed how much you over-indulge when you’re having dinner with a friend? Maybe you’re so enthralled in catching up that you don’t realize you’ve gone through two baskets of bread or chips before you’ve even ordered. It may make you feel a little guilty, and bloated, but it shouldn’t make you feel strange; when we eat with other people, we consume about 44% more food than we do when eating alone.

A study by de Castro discovered who we eat with directly impacts how we eat, and our level of indulgence. And it’s not just friends or acquaintances. Meals with spouses and family lead us to eat around 22% and 23% more, respectively.[1] To put that into perspective, the average amount we’re referring to is about 91.7% of the food we put on our plates, according to a study out of the Columbia University’s Food and Brand Lab in New York City.[2]

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A study in the journal Obesity found when food is served from the dinner table, people consume 35% more over the course of a meal. It speaks to our desire to do as little as possible – when an additional helping requires leaving the table, people hesitate to go back for more. So when food is served family style, it’s all too easy to over-eat.

Family style starts out with good intentions

When you prepare a meal for a group of people, you fix more food to make sure there is enough for everyone. You put the food in bowls and on platters so people can reach it easily. While it’s nice to have things close-by, and the action of passing bowls from person to person can feel intimate and familial, the large serving plates moving around the table create peer pressure. No one wants to see left-overs on the plates because it seem to be a waste not to finish them all.

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Family style dishes also try to fit the taste of family members in general, so in order to cover the basic items people like, you wind up with an excess of meat and carbs. Even if you refuse seconds, you’re automatically going to be eating more food than you need. So how to turn things around?

Plan more, serve less

Think about the last time you were bored. What did you do, instinctively? Chances are, you found something to snack on. When you don’t plan meals ahead of time and only make as much as you need, you tend to reach for more to avoid a lull in conversation. According to International Journal of Obesity, a little planning prior to eating can help control portions by determining the amount of food you eat before you get hungry.

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If you know you have a habit of reaching for seconds, or even thirds, begin by putting less on your plate than you think you need. This allows you to opt for seconds without eating more than you would’ve otherwise, but still feeling comfortable because you don’t have to say no to the food you’re feeling pressured to eat.

Whether you’re eating with friends in a restaurant that keeps bringing you bread or chips, or eating with your in-laws at a big table full of food, think ahead and take less than you think you need. Take your time eating, too. If you’re more aware of the amount you’re ingesting, and not just caught up in conversation, you’ll be less likely to over-indulge and still be able to enjoy your company.

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Samantha Aloysius

Samantha is an everyday health expert with a background in International Public Health and Psychology and has experience in diabetes care counselling.

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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