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This is How You Can Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You

This is How You Can Tell If A Woman Is Interested In You

Dating is hard, mostly because it’s confusing. Have you ever been on a date where you thought things were going well, only to find out she’s just…not that into you?

Let’s say you’re on a first date, having a great conversation, and you find yourself immediately drawn to her. You might wonder if you should lean in closer, make a move to kiss her, or flirt a bit more to see if she’s into you. Or maybe you have a female friend you’re really attracted to, and are wondering if you should take that risky step of seeing if she’s interested in you, too.

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There’s nothing easy about putting your heart on the line. Rejection stings, especially when it seems like you are connecting romantically. I get that you want a guarantee that she’s interested before you make any advances, especially if she’s a friend. But that’s not how attraction works.

First, don’t make assumptions about how she feels. Just because you’re attracted and having a nice conversation doesn’t mean she’s open to your advances! If she asks you questions and shows general interest, this isn’t the same as attraction. It’s really important to pay attention to the other signs. If she doesn’t show an active interest with body language and flirting, trying to make a connection, she’s not interested in you. Women seek an emotional connection first. If she’s just acting nice, she’s not sending mixed signals, she’s telling you she’s not that into you!

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Women can be hard to read sometimes, but we do give signs when we’re interested in you.

She will look for ways to connect with you

There’s a difference between asking general questions to be polite and being genuinely curious. If a woman is interested, she will try to connect with you emotionally. She’ll want to know how you feel about things, not just your favorite movies and music. If she shares a personal story with you, that’s her way of letting you know she’s interested.

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Attraction starts with paying attention to the details – voice, gestures, eye contact, and body language in general. If she’s attracted to you, this is how she will communicate it – so take notice and reciprocate!

Laughs, listens and talks are fully present

A good way to tell if she’s attracted and not just laughing at your jokes out of kindness is whether or not she is distracted or fully present and engaged. If she’s looking around the room, at her wine glass, or commenting on her food, she’s not that interested. On the other hand, if she’s asking a lot of questions, is fully engaged in conversation with you, and even mimics your voice or gestures, she’s into you. Studies have shown that when two people feel attraction, they tend to imitate each other to show affection.

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Texts or calls you back right away

A sure sign she’s interested is if she is quick to respond to you, or if she reaches out and initiates conversation. Most women who aren’t interested let calls go to voicemail or take hours (or days) to respond to texts. Also, if she flirts and tries to engage with you over text (like pointing out something that reminded her of your date), rather than just answering your questions with a single sentence or phrase, this is another sign she’s interested in you.

Her body language says something too

When a woman is attracted to you, she leans in to engage in conversation, touches your arm, and has an open posture (arms to her sides and not crossed in front of her). She will remove barriers, like a purse, phone or a glass of wine from between you. This is a great way to tell if she feels attraction – she wants to be physically closer.

You will be her only focus 

Women aren’t afraid to make eye contact when they feel attracted to a man. A sure sign is if she lets her gaze linger on you, in which case she’s showing you her cards. Instead of looking around for outside distractions, she’s focused on you.

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Last Updated on March 17, 2020

4 Simple Ways to Make Boring Work Become Interesting

4 Simple Ways to Make Boring Work Become Interesting

Are you bored at work right now?

Sitting at your desk, wishing you could be anywhere other than here, doing anything else…?

You’re not alone.

Even when you have a job you love, it’s easy to get bored. And if your job isn’t something you’re passionate about, it’s even easier for boredom to creep in.

Did you know it’s actually possible to make any job more interesting?

That’s right.

Whether it’s data entry or shelf stacking, even the most mind-numbing of jobs can be made more fun.

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Understanding the science behind boredom is the first step to beating it.

Read on to learn the truth about boredom, and what you can do to stop feeling bored at work for good.

VIDEO SUMMARY

I’m bored – as you’re watching the same film over and over again, even though it’s your favorite one

When you experience something new, your brain releases opioids – chemicals which make you feel good. [1]

It’s the feeling you might get when you taste a new food for the first time, watch a cool new film, or meet a new person.

However, the next time you have the same experience, the brain processes it in a different way, without releasing so many feel-good chemicals.

That’s why you won’t get the same thrill when you eat that delicious meal for the tenth time, rewatch that film again, or spend time with the same friend.

So, in a nutshell, we get bored when we aren’t having any new experiences.

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Now, new experiences don’t have to be huge life changes – they could be as simple as taking a different route to work, or picking a different sandwich shop for lunch.

We’re going to apply this theory to your boring job.

Keep reading find out how to make subtle changes to the way you work to defeat boredom and have more fun.

Your work can be much more interesting if you learn these little tricks.

Ready to learn how to stop feeling so bored at work?

We’ve listed some simple suggestions below – you can start implementing these right now.

Let’s do this.

Make routine tasks more interesting by adding something new

Sometimes one new element is all it takes to turn routine tasks from dull to interesting.

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Maybe there’s a long drive you have to make every single week. You get so bored, going the same old route to make the same old deliveries.

Why not make it a routine to create a playlist of new music each Sunday, to listen to on your boring drive during the week?

Just like that, something you dread can be turned into the highlight of your day.

For other routine tasks, you could try setting a timer and trying to beat your record, moving to a new location to complete the task, or trying out a new technique for getting the work done – you might even improve your productivity, too.

Combine repetitive tasks to get them out of the way

Certain tasks are difficult to make interesting, no matter how hard you try.

Get these yawn-inducing chores out of the way ASAP by combining them into one quick, focused batch.

For example, if you hate listening to meeting recordings, and dislike tidying your desk, do them both at the same time. You’ll halve the time you spend bored out of your mind, and can move onto more interesting tasks as soon as you’re done.

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Break large tasks into small pieces and plan breaks between them

Feeling overwhelmed can lead you to procrastinate and get bored. Try breaking up large tasks into lots of small pieces to keep things manageable and fun.

Try breaking up a 10,000 word report into 1000-word sections. Reward yourself at the end of each section, and you’ll get 10 mini mood boosts, instead of just one at the end.

You can also plan short breaks between each section, which will help to prevent boredom and keep you focused.

Give yourself regular rewards, it can be anything that makes you feel good

Make sure you reward yourself for achievements, even if they feel small.

Rewards could include:

  • Eating your favourite snack.
  • Taking a walk in a natural area.
  • Spending a few minutes on a fun online game.
  • Buying yourself a small treat.
  • Visiting a new place.
  • Spending time on a favourite hobby.

Your brain will come to associate work with fun rewards, and you’ll soon feel less bored and more motivated.

Boredom doesn’t have to be a fact of life.

Make your working life feel a thousand times more fun by following the simple tips above.

Reference

[1] Psychology Today: Why People Get Bored

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