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How to Quit Your Job Without Making Anyone Mad

How to Quit Your Job Without Making Anyone Mad

There comes a time in almost every employee’s life when you sit back and take a long look at what you’re doing and decide whether or not it’s what you want to keep doing, or if it’s time to explore other options, quit your job, and move on.

Maybe you’re trapped in a job where you have no room for advancement and you’ve come to realize that the skills you have would be utilized better at another company. Maybe what you’re doing isn’t the best fit for you anymore and you want to explore other career paths. Or maybe you’re just plain stuck in a job that pains you to get out of bed every day.

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A study by Harris Interactive shows that 74% of people would consider finding a new job. What ever your reasons may be for quitting your job, there is a right and a wrong way to do it. Below we’ve mapped out some tips to leave your current job on a good note.

It Can Be Hard to Stay Calm to Give Notice But It’s a Must

If you’re leaving due to being mistreated or not being acknowledged for all you’ve done for the company over the years, it may be really difficult for you to take a calm approach when quitting. Keep in mind though, leaving on bad terms may come back to haunt you if a potential employer asks your old boss about your work ethic and character.

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Do Your Best to Keep the Communication Positive and Neutral

If you think about it, nothing good ever really comes from being negative. Your job may suck and your manager may have awful people skills, but don’t allow that to set the tone. Future employers typically tend to side with former supervisors when checking references.

The Best Way to Give Notice Is In Person

Chances are by now you know when your manager will be alone in his or her office. As I said before, you want to keep it positive, even if the circumstances that have you wanting to leave put a bad taste in your mouth. It may ease your mind a bit to remind yourself that you’re not the first person who’s ever quit, and you surely won’t be the last.

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Know what you’re going to say before talking to your boss. Even if you’re leaving with good reason, the conversation is likely to be awkward and difficult. Be firm in your decision and be prepared to answer any potentially uncomfortable questions they bring up. Keep it professional.

What Should Be Included in Your Resignation Letter and All In-Person Conversations

  • Thanking your boss for the work opportunity: Bad experience or not, always express gratitude and having the opportunity to grow and learn new skills during your time there. Throwing something in there about having a positive experience working with certain colleagues is good too.
  • The reason you’re leaving: Mentioning the specifics of your new job isn’t really necessary. Maybe you’re leaving to go back to school or have an elderly parent you need to care for. You never want to include anything that would reflect badly on your boss or fellow employees.
  • Help your can offer for the transition: It never hurts to let your boss know that you’re willing to train the new guy and/or be available to them if they have any questions once you leave.
  • Giving notice two weeks in advance: Traditionally, two weeks notice is what you normally give to your employer. If for some reason you aren’t able to provide that much notice, talk with your employer to see if there is any way you could leave sooner.
  • The date you’re leaving: Give your boss a specific date for your last day of employment.

Some Issues You May Face and What to Be Prepared for

Your manager may not want you to go and try to get you to stay. Then what? If you’re certain you’re leaving, say so.

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There’s always a chance that when resigning and giving notice, your boss may ask you to pack up your belongings and leave immediately. So make sure you back up anything that belongs to you before talking to your employer.

You may also be required to immediately turn in any company property at that time, such as a laptop, vehicle, or cellphone.

Remember, how you leave your current job is just as important as how you applied for it. Make the effort to go the extra mile when leaving the company. It will do wonders for you and your career path moving forward.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Huge Differences Between A Boss And A Leader

10 Huge Differences Between A Boss And A Leader

When you try to think of a leader at your place of work, you might think of your boss – you know, the supervisor in the tasteful office down the hall.

However, bosses are not the only leaders in the office, and not every boss has mastered the art of excellent leadership. Maybe the best leader you know is the co-worker sitting at the desk next to yours who is always willing to loan out her stapler and help you problem solve.

You see, a boss’ main priority is to efficiently cross items off of the corporate to-do list, while a true leader both completes tasks and works to empower and motivate the people he or she interacts with on a daily basis.

A leader is someone who works to improve things instead of focusing on the negatives. People acknowledge the authority of a boss, but people cherish a true leader.

Puzzled about what it takes to be a great leader? Let’s take a look at the difference between a boss and a leader, and why cultivating quality leadership skills is essential for people who really want to make a positive impact.

1. Leaders are compassionate human beings; bosses are cold.

It can be easy to equate professionalism with robot-like impersonal behavior. Many bosses stay holed up in their offices and barely ever interact with staff.

Even if your schedule is packed, you should always make time to reach out to the people around you. Remember that when you ask someone to share how they are feeling, you should be prepared to be vulnerable and open in your communication as well.

Does acting human at the office sound silly? It’s not.

A lack of compassion in the office leads to psychological turmoil, whereas positive connection leads to healthier staff.[1]

If people feel that you are being open, honest and compassionate with them, they will feel able to approach your office with what is on their minds, leading to a more productive and stress-free work environment.

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2. Leaders say “we”; bosses say “I”.

Practice developing a team-first mentality when thinking and speaking. In meetings, talk about trying to meet deadlines as a team instead of using accusatory “you” phrases. This makes it clear that you are a part of the team, too, and that you are willing to work hard and support your team members.

Let me explain:

A “we” mentality shifts the office dynamic from “trying to make the boss happy” to a spirit of teamwork, goal-setting, and accomplishment.

A “we” mentality allows for the accountability and community that is essential in the modern day workplace.

3. Leaders develop and invest in people; bosses use people.

Unfortunately, many office climates involve people using others to get what they want or to climb the corporate ladder. This is another example of the “me first” mentality that is so toxic in both office environments and personal relationships.

Instead of using others or focusing on your needs, think about how you can help other people grow.

Use your building blocks of compassion and team-mentality to stay attuned to the needs of others note the areas in which you can help them develop. A great leader wants to see his or her people flourish.

Make a list of ways you can invest in your team members to help them develop personally and professionally, and then take action!

4. Leaders respect people; bosses are fear-mongering.

Earning respect from everyone on your team will take time and commitment, but the rewards are worth every ounce of effort.

A boss who is a poor leader may try to control the office through fear and bully-like behavior. Employees who are petrified about their performance or who feel overwhelmed and stressed by unfair deadlines are probably working for a boss who uses a fear system instead of a respect system.

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What’s the bottom line?

Work to build respect among your team by treating everyone with fairness and kindness. Maintain a positive tone and stay reliable for those who approach you for help.

5. Leaders give credit where it’s due; bosses only take credits.

Looking for specific ways to gain respect from your colleagues and employees? There is no better place to start than with the simple act of giving credit where it is due.

Don’t be tempted to take credit for things you didn’t do, and always go above and beyond to generously acknowledge those who worked on a project and performed well.

You might be wondering how you can get started:

  • Begin by simply noticing which team member contributes what during your next project at work.
  • If possible, make mental notes. Remember that these notes should not be about ways in which team members are failing, but about ways in which they are excelling.
  • Depending on your leadership style, let people know how well they are doing either in private one-on-one meetings or in a group setting. Be honest and generous in your communication about a person’s performance.

6. Leaders see delegation as their best friend; bosses see it as an enemy.

If delegation is a leader’s best friend, then micromanagement is the enemy.

Delegation equates to trust and micromanagement equates to distrust. Nothing is more frustrating for an employee than feeling that his or her every movement is being critically observed.

Encourage trust in your office by delegating important tasks and acknowledging that your people are capable, smart individuals who can succeed!

Delegation is a great way to cash in on the positive benefits of a psychological phenomenon called a self-fulfilling prophecy. In a self-fulfilling prophecy, a person’s expectations of another person can cause the expectations to be fulfilled.[2]

In other words, if you truly believe that your team member can handle a project or task, he or she is more likely to deliver.

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Learn how to delegate in my other article:

How to Delegate Work (the Definitive Guide for Successful Leaders)

7. Leaders work hard; bosses let others do the work.

Delegation is not an excuse to get out of hard work. Instead of telling people to go accomplish the hardest work alone, make it clear that you are willing to pitch in and help with the hardest work of all when the need arises.

Here’s the deal:

Showing others that you work hard sets the tone for your whole team and will spur them on to greatness.

The next time you catch yourself telling someone to “go”, a.k.a accomplish a difficult task alone, change your phrasing to “let’s go”, showing that you are totally willing to help and support.

8. Leaders think long-term; bosses think short-term.

A leader who only utilizes short-term thinking is someone who cannot be prepared or organized for the future. Your colleagues or staff members need to know that they can trust you to have a handle on things not just this week, but next month or even next year.

Display your long-term thinking skills in group talks and meetings by sharing long-term hopes or concerns. Create plans for possible scenarios and be prepared for emergencies.

For example, if you know that you are losing someone on your team in a few months, be prepared to share a clear plan of how you and the remaining team members can best handle the change and workload until someone new is hired.

9. Leaders are like your colleagues; bosses are just bosses.

Another word for colleague is collaborator. Make sure your team knows that you are “one of them” and that you want to collaborate or work side by side.

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Not getting involved in the going ons of the office is a mistake because you will miss out on development and connection opportunities.

As our regular readers know, I love to remind people of the importance of building routines into each day. Create a routine that encourages you to leave your isolated office and collaborate with others. Spark healthy habits that benefit both you and your co-workers.

10. Leaders put people first; bosses put results first.

Bosses without crucial leadership training may focus on process and results instead of people. They may stick to a pre-set systems playbook even when employees voice new ideas or concerns.

Ignoring people’s opinions for the sake of company tradition like this is never truly beneficial to an organization.

Here’s what I mean by process over people:

Some organizations focus on proper structures or systems as their greatest assets instead of people. I believe that people lend real value to an organization, and that focusing on the development of people is a key ingredient for success in leadership.

Learning to be a leader is an ongoing adventure.

This list of differences makes it clear that, unlike an ordinary boss, a leader is able to be compassionate, inclusive, generous, and hard-working for the good of the team.

Instead of being a stereotypical scary or micromanaging-obsessed boss, a quality leader is able to establish an atmosphere of respect and collaboration.

Whether you are new to your work environment or a seasoned administrator, these leadership traits will help you get a jump start so that you can excel as a leader and positively impact the people around you.

For more inspiration and guidance, you can even start keeping tabs on some of the world’s top leadership experts. With an adventurous and positive attitude, anyone can learn good leadership.

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