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If You Have These 7 Habits, You Will Be Smart Enough To Create Something That Matters

If You Have These 7 Habits, You Will Be Smart Enough To Create Something That Matters

You’ve probably found yourself here because you’re curious to see whether you have any of the habits mentioned. We’re all capable of creating something that matters. Sometimes, we just get stuck in a rut and it’s hard to come out of it. Our minds work in incredible ways, but even the smartest and most creative people run out of ideas sometimes. Check out the 7 habits below, and start incorporating them into your life today.

1. Direct Experience is better than Filtered Experience

If you’re unsure of what the difference is, direct experience is when we interact with something, such as another person or nature, without the influence of culture or media. Filtered experience is just the opposite. When you drown yourself in what’s going on with others and submerge yourself with the dramatizations the media sometimes has, you can have a very distorted view and opinion of what’s going on around you. Direct experience allows you to look at everything through your own lens.

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2. Throw away self-censorship

Rejecting the ideas of others is somewhat common. But when you’re rejecting, denying, silencing, and shutting your own ideas down completely, that is a total crime against your creativity. Actually, it’s an act of mindlessness. By self-censoring, you shut down your imagination, and the long-term effects will eventually kill off your curiosity and creativity completely. The society in which we live teaches us to self-censor both directly and indirectly. If you feel that you’ve inherited self-censorship, identify it as a problem and be consciously aware of it so you’re able to get yourself back to a place where your ideas and creativity come to you with ease.

3. Stop telling stories about your past

Sometimes it’s difficult to not talk about our pasts. Over and over, we tell people stories from long ago, and doing that can keep us in the same place. We’ve made mistakes and learned from them so that we can become better people and smarter people. When you stop telling others, and more importantly, yourself, stories from the past that are ultimately holding you back, you can start using those energies to work towards a better future.

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4. You don’t need to explain yourself

There are times when we find that we are trying to explain ourselves and our actions to others. When you feel this starting to happen, flip the script, in a sense. Your intuition is powerful, so use it. When you find yourself holding on to choices that are no longer serving you, let them go. Once you do, creativity will find its way back to you.

5. More restrictions allow for more creativity

By putting limitations on yourself, you’ll force yourself to think outside the box, and this could ignite some new ideas. People usually believe that when you have more freedom, you will be more creative. As surprising as it may be, that isn’t so. When you place some constraints on yourself, you will begin to look for unconventional ways to get around those limitations. This is when creativity will truly flourish.

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6. Quantity over quality

You will typically hear that just the opposite is true, and most times, it is. It’s an age-old lesson. However, sometimes, quantity should take priority over quality, because in the end, it leads to higher quality. If you seek quantity over quality, you will get both. Let me give you a quick example. John Lennon didn’t like the sound of his own voice. Could you just imagine if he had never released any music to the world until he loved his voice? When you’re able to produce more than one thing at once, you’ll be less likely to be disappointed if something flops and doesn’t work out. Diversity is the insurance of the mind!

7. Don’t be afraid to get stuck

That overwhelming feeling that you’re stuck can really make things difficult. The brain is one of the parts of our bodies that we know the least about. It works in very mysterious ways. When you’re stuck, step away from the thing that is draining you mentally and find other projects to distract you. When you are actively ignoring something, your subconscious will create room for your ideas to grow.

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We all wonder, on occasion, what we can do differently to spark some creativity in our lives. Just remember that you’re human and that these things happen to the best of us. Try doing the above things when your creativity cup feels almost empty.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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