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The Strategies That Highly Effective Communicators Use For Great Conversations

The Strategies That Highly Effective Communicators Use For Great Conversations

Have you ever been caught up in a group of people and while everyone else is blabbing away you don’t quite manage to line up a sentence or spark off a topic?

Some people are gifted in conversing and can just talk to anyone at any place, at any time. Some people struggle to even make come up with one line even though their minds are overflowing with millions of possible topics waiting in a queue. What separates these two types of people is communication skills. You need to master the art of communication skill in order to get conversations flowing. Conversation is like a ball game. When a question bounces your way, respond with a reply to continue the dialogue flow and never let the ball drop.

Communication is more than a mere exchange of information. It is about understanding intentions and emotions behind it. It is a two-way street. Not just about how a message is conveyed but, also how it is received by others in a way you intended.

To blend in with master conversationalists, practice the following steps each time you happen to come across some kind of communication challlenge:

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Listen

You need to listen to gain full meaning and make others heard and understood.

Talking is not as important as listening. That is the irony. A good conversationalist listens well. In a TED Talk[1] in 2015, Celeste Headlee, the host of ” On second Thought” on Georgia public broadcasting stated that people rather talk than listen.

“When I’m talking, I’m in control. I don’t have to hear anything I’m not interested in. I’m the center of attention. I can bolster my own identity.”

We choose to talk more than listen because it is easy to get distracted when listening. On an average 225 words are spoken per minute, yet we can listen to approximately 500 words a minute. It takes effort to listen, but if you do not, you are not in a conversation.

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Avoid Interjecting

A good conversationalist does not interject. If someone is reflecting on how they are having trouble at work, do not talk about your personal job experiences. If they are reflecting on losing a family member do not start talking about the time you lost someone close. Why? Because all experiences are individual experiences, and not about you, you do not need to attempt to boost with reflections of your painful memories.

Be transparent

If you do not know be open about it. A good speaker is not afraid to reveal that they do not understand you, according to Mark levy[2]

“Not only will the other person feel heard; they’ll likely love having to explain their point in a way that’s different than normal.”

Stay Informed

Keep up to date with the latest news; get in touch with topics like culture and business[3]

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Good conversationalists can seed conversations and keep interest. Leave little details out like names and dates. The listener is interested in story, not facts.

Read the Cues

Emotionally intelligent people can read cues in communication challenges and they define their approach accordingly. Look for body language or mood changes that indicate the interest of the person in a conversation. This can help to improve or redirect the conversation accordingly. Awareness about the goals os parties and underlying motives of the conversation is revealed with body language.

Good conversationalists have:

Self-awareness: They understand their emotions.They take time out when they are overstressed

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Self-Management : They manage emotions

Social Awareness: They empathize with other people’s emotions

Social Skills: They make face to face contact, they handle emotions around them, they listen even if they do not agree before they speak.

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50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

Quotes for self-assurance

1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

    2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

      3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

        4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

          5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

            6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

              Quotes about positivity

              7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                  9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                    10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                      11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                        12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                          13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                            Quotes for work and success

                            14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                              15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                  17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                    18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                      19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                        20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                          21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                            22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                              23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                  25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                    26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                      27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                        28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                          29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                            30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                              31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                  33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                    34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                      35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                        36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                          37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                            38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                              39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                  41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                    42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                      43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                        44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                          45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                            Quotes about money

                                                                                            46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                              47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                  49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                    50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                      51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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