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Learn This Important Mindset To Help You Improve Choices You Make In Life

Learn This Important Mindset To Help You Improve Choices You Make In Life

Whether we like it or not, we are faced with decision-making almost all day every day. Some of those choices are really small and insignificant and we make them almost unconsciously. Others are much greater, with bigger consequences and usually take up a lot of our time. Most people dread making important choices because they have the potential of changing their lives entirely. There is a lot at stake, and most of us would much rather leave it to someone else to decide, or not make any decision at all. Yet, if we want to make any type of progress in our lives, we will have to get better at making important choices, since the older we get, the more serious choices we have to make. In order to learn how to make the decision-making process much more effective, we should adopt a different mindset that will be explained in the sections that follow.

“Act now, optimize later” approach

As suggested earlier, most of us get extremely uncomfortable and insecure when it comes to making important decisions, and more often than not, we miss out on an opportunity out of fear of making a wrong choice. We can get away with this when it comes to some choices that can be put on hold, but what should we do once we find ourselves faced with a situation where we have to act quickly? In order to improve choices we make in life and the process of making them itself, we must accept an altogether different approach. This means debating for some time and picking the choice we think is best, and improve later if we are not happy with the results. This can be forced at first, especially if you have spent most of your adult life postponing decision-making, but as the time goes by, you will be much better and the approach would come more natural to you. You will get enough security in the knowing that you can always repair the potential damage later.

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What I like the most about this mindset is that once you start practicing it, you realize one really impressive truth about life, and that is – you cannot ever make a mistake actually. If you had made a choice, and it turned out to be a “mistake”, if not right away, sometime in the future you will be able to see what you were supposed to learn in that particular case, and how the lesson you learned has helped to you achieve your original plan in a much better way.

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Start making choices in a different way

In order to successfully implement the approach, we need to gradually create a different mindset. First, we need to realize that we won’t live forever, and the sooner we get better at making choices, the more time we get to enjoy the rewards. Once we become aware of the transience of life, our next step is to focus on ourselves in order to discover if the choice we are about to make makes us happy

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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