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Learn This Important Mindset To Help You Improve Choices You Make In Life

Learn This Important Mindset To Help You Improve Choices You Make In Life

Whether we like it or not, we are faced with decision-making almost all day every day. Some of those choices are really small and insignificant and we make them almost unconsciously. Others are much greater, with bigger consequences and usually take up a lot of our time. Most people dread making important choices because they have the potential of changing their lives entirely. There is a lot at stake, and most of us would much rather leave it to someone else to decide, or not make any decision at all. Yet, if we want to make any type of progress in our lives, we will have to get better at making important choices, since the older we get, the more serious choices we have to make. In order to learn how to make the decision-making process much more effective, we should adopt a different mindset that will be explained in the sections that follow.

“Act now, optimize later” approach

As suggested earlier, most of us get extremely uncomfortable and insecure when it comes to making important decisions, and more often than not, we miss out on an opportunity out of fear of making a wrong choice. We can get away with this when it comes to some choices that can be put on hold, but what should we do once we find ourselves faced with a situation where we have to act quickly? In order to improve choices we make in life and the process of making them itself, we must accept an altogether different approach. This means debating for some time and picking the choice we think is best, and improve later if we are not happy with the results. This can be forced at first, especially if you have spent most of your adult life postponing decision-making, but as the time goes by, you will be much better and the approach would come more natural to you. You will get enough security in the knowing that you can always repair the potential damage later.

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What I like the most about this mindset is that once you start practicing it, you realize one really impressive truth about life, and that is – you cannot ever make a mistake actually. If you had made a choice, and it turned out to be a “mistake”, if not right away, sometime in the future you will be able to see what you were supposed to learn in that particular case, and how the lesson you learned has helped to you achieve your original plan in a much better way.

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Start making choices in a different way

In order to successfully implement the approach, we need to gradually create a different mindset. First, we need to realize that we won’t live forever, and the sooner we get better at making choices, the more time we get to enjoy the rewards. Once we become aware of the transience of life, our next step is to focus on ourselves in order to discover if the choice we are about to make makes us happy

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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