Learn This Important Mindset To Help You Improve Choices You Make In Life

Learn This Important Mindset To Help You Improve Choices You Make In Life

Whether we like it or not, we are faced with decision-making almost all day every day. Some of those choices are really small and insignificant and we make them almost unconsciously. Others are much greater, with bigger consequences and usually take up a lot of our time. Most people dread making important choices because they have the potential of changing their lives entirely. There is a lot at stake, and most of us would much rather leave it to someone else to decide, or not make any decision at all. Yet, if we want to make any type of progress in our lives, we will have to get better at making important choices, since the older we get, the more serious choices we have to make. In order to learn how to make the decision-making process much more effective, we should adopt a different mindset that will be explained in the sections that follow.

“Act now, optimize later” approach

As suggested earlier, most of us get extremely uncomfortable and insecure when it comes to making important decisions, and more often than not, we miss out on an opportunity out of fear of making a wrong choice. We can get away with this when it comes to some choices that can be put on hold, but what should we do once we find ourselves faced with a situation where we have to act quickly? In order to improve choices we make in life and the process of making them itself, we must accept an altogether different approach. This means debating for some time and picking the choice we think is best, and improve later if we are not happy with the results. This can be forced at first, especially if you have spent most of your adult life postponing decision-making, but as the time goes by, you will be much better and the approach would come more natural to you. You will get enough security in the knowing that you can always repair the potential damage later.


What I like the most about this mindset is that once you start practicing it, you realize one really impressive truth about life, and that is – you cannot ever make a mistake actually. If you had made a choice, and it turned out to be a “mistake”, if not right away, sometime in the future you will be able to see what you were supposed to learn in that particular case, and how the lesson you learned has helped to you achieve your original plan in a much better way.


Start making choices in a different way

In order to successfully implement the approach, we need to gradually create a different mindset. First, we need to realize that we won’t live forever, and the sooner we get better at making choices, the more time we get to enjoy the rewards. Once we become aware of the transience of life, our next step is to focus on ourselves in order to discover if the choice we are about to make makes us happy


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10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.


2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.


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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.


Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.


9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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