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10 Things You Need To Start Doing If You Want To Be Successful

10 Things You Need To Start Doing If You Want To Be Successful

A fresh new year is a good way to revisit your dreams and goals and see what is missing for you to lead a more successful life. Take a moment to sit down and write what you want to achieve this year and what will make you feel good about yourself and your life. Here are 10 great tips that will help you become more successful this year in different areas of your life.

1. Take action

The first and most important step in making your dreams a reality is to take action. Stop overthinking things when it comes to how you are going to achieve your goals. Create a plan and start doing. Start where you are at the moment. Start with what you have now, and build up your skills and knowledge on the way. Opportunities and doors will open up when you start taking action towards the manifestation of your goals. If you fail, stand up and try again. Learn from your mistakes and move on. It might not happen immediately- it could take weeks, months or even years to get to your desired destination- but believe that you will eventually get there. The key here is to take action. Nothing will happen if you just sit, wait and complain about your circumstances. But, wonderful things, people, and opportunities can come into your life when you start doing. That is how you grow, develop and succeed as a human being.

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2. Exercise

In order for you to feel good and energetic every single day, you need to rethink your ways of taking care of your body. Are you exercising enough? When did you go for a long walk recently? Have you considered taking any yoga or Pilates classes? What kind of sport excites you in order to get your body moving? Asking yourself these questions will help you figure out what kind of exercises you can do in order to keep a healthy lifestyle. Take care of your health, body, and mind first if you want to achieve great things. You cannot be successful if you do not look after yourself first. When you look and feel good about yourself, that is when you will start seeing successful changes in your daily life.

3. Surround yourself with successful people

You are the average of your 5 closest friends. Think about the people you hang around the most. Do they make you more successful? Do they bring out the best in you and support you on your journey to success? Just being around positive, successful and open-minded people will make you feel that you can achieve anything in this life. So, go and find some great people to network with. Connect with more people who will be beneficial to you and bring excitement and enthusiasm in your life. If you want to be more successful at what you are doing, discover people in your industry or field of interest from whom you can learn important lessons. At the beginning, you can even start watching online videos and interviews of successful entrepreneurs and business owners.

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4. Read more

Do you want to know the shortcut to success? Read a book! Reading books has a lot of benefits, such as improving your memory and concentration, developing your mind and imagination and reducing your stress levels. But what is important here is that reading books will teach you ways of finding your dream career, ways of succeeding in different areas in your life, ways of becoming more productive, the marketing strategies you need to implement in order to grow your business, and so on. You need to ask yourself what you need to learn in order to succeed further. The list of books that can help you succeed is endless, and you can find books on pretty much every topic you are interested in.

5. Attend seminars and workshops

Attending seminars is another way to develop yourself further and improve your skills. It is also a great way to network and connect with people. Whether it is a business seminar or one focusing on personal life, it could benefit you greatly and help you learn new things that will help you to fulfill your goals and dreams. Specific seminars can improve your communication skills, boost your confidence when speaking in front of other people, or just help you become a better listener and start paying more attention to what others have to say.

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6. Take online courses

Online courses are another great way to learn new things and gain new skills in order to succeed in life. Whether you want to be more successful at cooking, time management, or accounting, just go on the internet and start doing your research today on available online courses. I recently took a Buddhism and Modern Psychology course on Coursera. While taking the course, I improved my writing skills by completing essay assignments, learned new theories and ideas, and networked with other people who were taking the same course. The good thing about Coursera is that most of the courses are free and very flexible- you just need to spend a few hours per week on the course. So, start doing your research today, and find some suitable courses that will take you one step closer to fulfilling your goals and ideas in life.

7. Invest time in yourself daily

Invest time in yourself every single day. It will pay off later. Do something every day that makes you jump out of bed. Try to have fun with yourself. Investing time in yourself could mean doing things such as taking out yourself on a date, having your favorite cup of coffee, exploring a new and exciting place near you, booking a performance to see, enjoying some outdoor music or cooking a new recipe. Finding some time for yourself daily will let you shape yourself into a more productive, successful and positive person.

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8. Work on your goals daily

Dreams will not work for you unless you do. If you want to start seeing positive outcomes and results in your life, you have to work on your goals every single day. Make a daily plan or to-do list, and break down the goals into daily activities. This will help you get things done much easier and faster, and you will feel that you have achieved something at the end of each day.

9. Be of service to others

Your purpose in life should align with helping and being of service to others. Your life can significantly change, from fear and sadness to joy and success, when you start doing things for others. The most successful people have figured it out- they have found ways, ideas, and products that are beneficial to people out there. And, they have turned these ideas and products into a business plan that allows other people to benefit from their creations. These successful people succeed because of the need for these products. Are you really good at something that could be very useful to other people? Ask yourself that daily, and you will soon start figuring out how your knowledge, skills and business ideas can benefit people out there.

10. Invest in your well-being and happiness

You will only start being successful in life when you find happiness in everything you do. You need to do everything with love and enthusiasm. That is the best way to invest in your well-being and happiness. Enjoy what you do, and choose goals that make you happy at the end of each day. If it does not bring you happiness, then why do you do it? You get to live only one life- enjoy it to the fullest!

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Last Updated on November 15, 2019

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

How Do You Change a Habit (According to Psychology)

Habits are hard to kill, and rightly so. They are a part and parcel of your personality traits and mold your character.

However, habits are not always something over-the-top and quirky enough to get noticed. Think of subtle habits like tapping fingers when you are nervous and humming songs while you drive. These are nothing but ingrained habits that you may not realize easily.

Just take a few minutes and think of something specific that you do all the time. You will notice how it has become a habit for you without any explicit realization. Everything you do on a daily basis starting with your morning routine, lunch preferences to exercise routines are all habits.

Habits mostly form from life experiences and certain observed behaviors, not all of them are healthy. Habitual smoking can be dangerous to your health. Similarly, a habit could also make you lose out on enjoying something to its best – like how some people just cannot stop swaying their bodies when delivering a speech.

Thus, there could be a few habits that you would want to change about yourself. But changing habits is not as easy as it seems, why?

What Makes It Hard To Change A Habit?

To want to change a particular habit means to change something very fundamental about your behavior.[1] Hence, it’s necessary to understand how habits actually form and why they are so difficult to actually get out of.

The Biology

Habits form in a place what we call the subconscious mind in our brain.[2]

Our brains have two modes of operation. The first one is an automatic pilot kind of system that is fast and works on reflexes often. It is what we call the subconscious part. This is the part that is associated with everything that comes naturally to you.

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The second mode is the conscious mode where every action and decision is well thought out and follows a controlled way of thinking.

A fine example to distinguish both would be to consider yourself learning to drive or play an instrument. For the first time you try learning, you think before every movement you make. But once you have got the hang of it, you might drive without applying much thought into it.

Both systems work together in our brains at all times. When a habit is formed, it moves from the conscious part to the subconscious making it difficult to control.

So, the key idea in deconstructing a habit is to go from the subconscious to the conscious.

Another thing you have to understand about habits is that they can be conscious or hidden.

Conscious habits are those that require active input from your side. For instance, if you stop setting your alarm in the morning, you will stop waking up at the same time.

Hidden habits, on the other hand, are habits that we do without realizing. These make up the majority of our habits and we wouldn’t even know them until someone pointed them out. So the first difficulty in breaking these habits is to actually identify them. As they are internalized, they need a lot of attention to detail for self-identification. That’s not all.

Habits can be physical, social, and mental, energy-based and even be particular to productivity. Understanding them is necessary to know why they are difficult to break and what can be done about them.

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The Psychology

Habits get engraved into our memories depending on the way we think, feel and act over a particular period of time. The procedural part of memory deals with habit formation and studies have observed that various types of conditioning of behavior could affect your habit formations.

Classical conditioning or pavlovian conditioning is when you start associating a memory with reality.[3] A dog that associates ringing bell to food will start salivating. The same external stimuli such as the sound of church bells can make a person want to pray.

Operant conditioning is when experience and the feelings associated with it form a habit.[4] By encouraging or discouraging an act, individuals could either make it a habit or stop doing it.

Observational learning is another way habits could take form. A child may start walking the same way their parent does.

What Can You Do To Change a Habit?

Sure, habits are hard to control but it is not impossible. With a few tips and hard-driven dedication, you can surely get over your nasty habits.

Here are some ways that make use of psychological findings to help you:

1. Identify Your Habits

As mentioned earlier, habits can be quite subtle and hidden from your view. You have to bring your subconscious habits to an aware state of mind. You could do it by self-observation or by asking your friends or family to point out the habit for your sake.

2. Find out the Impact of Your Habit

Every habit produces an effect – either physical or mental. Find out what exactly it is doing to you. Does it help you relieve stress or does it give you some pain relief?

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It could be anything simple. Sometimes biting your nails could be calming your nerves. Understanding the effect of a habit is necessary to control it.

3. Apply Logic

You don’t need to be force-fed with wisdom and advice to know what an unhealthy habit could do to you.

Late-night binge-watching just before an important presentation is not going to help you. Take a moment and apply your own wisdom and logic to control your seemingly nastily habits.

4. Choose an Alternative

As I said, every habit induces some feeling. So, it could be quite difficult to get over it unless you find something else that can replace it. It can be a simple non-harming new habit that you can cultivate to get over a bad habit.

Say you have the habit of banging your head hard when you are angry. That’s going to be bad for you. Instead, the next time you are angry, just take a deep breath and count to 10. Or maybe start imagining yourself on a luxury yacht. Just think of something that will work for you.

5. Remove Triggers

Get rid of items and situations that can trigger your bad habit.

Stay away from smoke breaks if you are trying to quit it. Remove all those candy bars from the fridge if you want to control your sweet cravings.

6. Visualize Change

Our brains can be trained to forget a habit if we start visualizing the change. Serious visualization is retained and helps as a motivator in breaking the habit loop.

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For instance, to replace your habit of waking up late, visualize yourself waking up early and enjoying the early morning jog every day. By continuing this, you would naturally feel better to wake up early and do your new hobby.

7. Avoid Negative Talks and Thinking

Just as how our brain is trained to accept a change in habit, continuous negative talk and thinking could hamper your efforts put into breaking a habit.

Believe you can get out of it and assert yourself the same.

Final Thoughts

Changing habits isn’t easy, so do not expect an overnight change!

Habits took a long time to form. It could take a while to completely break out of it. You will have to accept that sometimes you may falter in your efforts. Don’t let negativity seep in when it seems hard. Keep going at it slowly and steadily.

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