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Last Updated on January 25, 2021

10 Things You Need To Start Doing If You Want To Be Successful

10 Things You Need To Start Doing If You Want To Be Successful

A fresh new year is a good way to revisit your dreams and goals and see what is missing for you to lead a more successful life. Take a moment to sit down and write what you want to achieve this year and what will make you feel good about yourself and your life. Here are 10 great tips that will help you become more successful this year in different areas of your life.

1. Take action

The first and most important step in making your dreams a reality is to take action. Stop overthinking things when it comes to how you are going to achieve your goals. Create a plan and start doing. Start where you are at the moment. Start with what you have now, and build up your skills and knowledge on the way. Opportunities and doors will open up when you start taking action towards the manifestation of your goals. If you fail, stand up and try again. Learn from your mistakes and move on. It might not happen immediately- it could take weeks, months or even years to get to your desired destination- but believe that you will eventually get there. The key here is to take action. Nothing will happen if you just sit, wait and complain about your circumstances. But, wonderful things, people, and opportunities can come into your life when you start doing. That is how you grow, develop and succeed as a human being.

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2. Exercise

In order for you to feel good and energetic every single day, you need to rethink your ways of taking care of your body. Are you exercising enough? When did you go for a long walk recently? Have you considered taking any yoga or Pilates classes? What kind of sport excites you in order to get your body moving? Asking yourself these questions will help you figure out what kind of exercises you can do in order to keep a healthy lifestyle. Take care of your health, body, and mind first if you want to achieve great things. You cannot be successful if you do not look after yourself first. When you look and feel good about yourself, that is when you will start seeing successful changes in your daily life.

3. Surround yourself with successful people

You are the average of your 5 closest friends. Think about the people you hang around the most. Do they make you more successful? Do they bring out the best in you and support you on your journey to success? Just being around positive, successful and open-minded people will make you feel that you can achieve anything in this life. So, go and find some great people to network with. Connect with more people who will be beneficial to you and bring excitement and enthusiasm in your life. If you want to be more successful at what you are doing, discover people in your industry or field of interest from whom you can learn important lessons. At the beginning, you can even start watching online videos and interviews of successful entrepreneurs and business owners.

4. Read more

Do you want to know the shortcut to success? Read a book! Reading books has a lot of benefits, such as improving your memory and concentration, developing your mind and imagination and reducing your stress levels. But what is important here is that reading books will teach you ways of finding your dream career, ways of succeeding in different areas in your life, ways of becoming more productive, the marketing strategies you need to implement in order to grow your business, and so on. You need to ask yourself what you need to learn in order to succeed further. The list of books that can help you succeed is endless, and you can find books on pretty much every topic you are interested in.

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5. Attend seminars and workshops

Attending seminars is another way to develop yourself further and improve your skills. It is also a great way to network and connect with people. Whether it is a business seminar or one focusing on personal life, it could benefit you greatly and help you learn new things that will help you to fulfill your goals and dreams. Specific seminars can improve your communication skills, boost your confidence when speaking in front of other people, or just help you become a better listener and start paying more attention to what others have to say.

6. Take online courses

Online courses are another great way to learn new things and gain new skills in order to succeed in life. Whether you want to be more successful at cooking, time management, or accounting, just go on the internet and start doing your research today on available online courses. I recently took a Buddhism and Modern Psychology course on Coursera. While taking the course, I improved my writing skills by completing essay assignments, learned new theories and ideas, and networked with other people who were taking the same course. The good thing about Coursera is that most of the courses are free and very flexible- you just need to spend a few hours per week on the course. So, start doing your research today, and find some suitable courses that will take you one step closer to fulfilling your goals and ideas in life.

7. Invest time in yourself daily

Invest time in yourself every single day. It will pay off later. Do something every day that makes you jump out of bed. Try to have fun with yourself. Investing time in yourself could mean doing things such as taking out yourself on a date, having your favorite cup of coffee, exploring a new and exciting place near you, booking a performance to see, enjoying some outdoor music or cooking a new recipe. Finding some time for yourself daily will let you shape yourself into a more productive, successful and positive person.

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8. Work on your goals daily

Dreams will not work for you unless you do. If you want to start seeing positive outcomes and results in your life, you have to work on your goals every single day. Make a daily plan or to-do list, and break down the goals into daily activities. This will help you get things done much easier and faster, and you will feel that you have achieved something at the end of each day.

9. Be of service to others

Your purpose in life should align with helping and being of service to others. Your life can significantly change, from fear and sadness to joy and success, when you start doing things for others. The most successful people have figured it out- they have found ways, ideas, and products that are beneficial to people out there. And, they have turned these ideas and products into a business plan that allows other people to benefit from their creations. These successful people succeed because of the need for these products. Are you really good at something that could be very useful to other people? Ask yourself that daily, and you will soon start figuring out how your knowledge, skills and business ideas can benefit people out there.

10. Invest in your well-being and happiness

You will only start being successful in life when you find happiness in everything you do. You need to do everything with love and enthusiasm. That is the best way to invest in your well-being and happiness. Enjoy what you do, and choose goals that make you happy at the end of each day. If it does not bring you happiness, then why do you do it? You get to live only one life- enjoy it to the fullest!

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Last Updated on April 27, 2021

How To Accept Responsibility For Your Life (7 No-Nonsense Tips)

How To Accept Responsibility For Your Life (7 No-Nonsense Tips)

Chances are that if you’re reading this, you are human. This means that there is likely a time or two when you have not taken responsibility for something in your life. We’ve all been there. Maybe you broke an item at a place of employment but didn’t fess up to it, or you missed a deadline and blamed the reason why on someone else, or perhaps you decided a responsibility was too great to face.

Accepting responsibility can be challenging because it doesn’t always feel good. It can require time we think we don’t have. Feelings of shame or inadequacy can surface. Rather than face those feelings, it’s much easier to not accept responsibility.

This is all understandable. But it may not be serving us and who we want to be in the long run.

Accepting responsibility has benefits at work, home, and all aspects of life. When we demonstrate to ourselves that we can be responsible, we show our strength of character, our leadership qualities, and even our adulting skills.

Knowing that doesn’t make accepting responsibility any easier, does it?

Using the example of pretending that you live in an apartment with multiple roommates where you all have to share the kitchen, we will look at seven tips on how to accept responsibility for your life.

1. Stop Playing the Victim

You’ve just cooked a big meal involving several pots, pans, and cooking utensils. You reflect on feeling overwhelmed and stressed by life right now and decide that you just don’t have the time or energy to do your dishes right now. The next time you or your roommates want to use the kitchen, there’s a big mess and a lack of options for pans and cutlery to use.

Maybe one of your roommates will do it for you? Superman to the rescue? I hate to break it to you, but Superman doesn’t actually exist.

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Why insist on crushing every childhood fantasy? Because when we wait for someone else to fix our problems, we are playing the victim, and if Superman doesn’t exist (or Spiderman or Wonder Woman, or Black Panther, etc.), then we will be perpetually tied to the proverbial train tracks, waiting for someone else to save us.[1]

What we can do in this situation is acknowledge and validate our feelings. In the above scenario, you’re focusing on feeling overwhelmed. This feeling isn’t “bad.” But it does affect your motivation to accept responsibility, keeping you in a victim mindset. It isn’t just the dishes that you need to face. You also need to take responsibility for your emotions.

Acknowledging and validating emotions help you to understand what you’re feeling and why. You can then redirect the energy you’re wasting on being a victim and redirect it toward more productive things in life. Like doing your own dishes.

There are many different ways we can develop the skill of self-acknowledgment and validation. One of the best is to write about what you’re experiencing. You may be surprised by how you describe the “what” and “why” of your feelings. You may even uncover other times in your life when you felt this way and find that your current thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are based on that past. You might even heal an old experience as you deal with the present circumstance!

2. End the Blame Game

“If my roommates were more consistent about doing their dishes, then I would feel like I could do mine.”

It’s so easy to come up with excuses and reasons why we shouldn’t be held to a higher standard than anyone else. We find interesting ways to blame others for why we can’t do something. This becomes another way to avoid taking responsibility, and we can do so out of a perspective of anger.[2]

Anger can be energetically compelling, but it’s not always rooted in reality. It can keep us stuck and prevent us from having the life and relationships we really want. Much like being the victim, it’s important to ask yourself how being and staying angry is serving you. Again, it’s important to acknowledge and validate these thoughts and feelings too.

Perhaps you’re really feeling mad at someone at your workplace who isn’t taking responsibility for their own projects. You end up taking on their work, allowing anger to build up. By the time you get home, you need a place to let that anger out. And so, your anger is directed toward your kitchen and your roommates.

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This may help you feel better for a little while, but it’s not sustainable. There are so many ways of dealing with anger. It would serve you and others around you well to learn how to manage and work with any anger you have in your life so that you can resume your acceptance of responsibility.

3. Forgive Yourself and others

After reading tips number 1 and 2, perhaps you are now adept at practicing acknowledging and validating your feelings. Because of that work, it’s easier to forgive yourself and others.

For instance, without the feelings of victimhood and blame, you have the energy to see things from a perspective of forgiveness and tolerance.

From a place of forgiveness, you see that even though your roommates don’t take care of their dishes right away every time, they do so more often than not. Plus, you can see that all of you have challenging things happening in your lives right now, so why should your challenges make it so that you can slack off? You may even remember times when your roommates have helped you out with cleaning the kitchen even though the mess wasn’t theirs.

As you forgive others, you forgive yourself too and take ownership of your own tasks.

4. Use Responsibility as a Way to Help Others

Shirking our responsibilities can actually affect others’ well-being. We can step into a space of considering how our actions, or lack thereof, might be burdening or harming others.

For example, not doing your dishes and leaving the kitchen dirty means that when another roommate wants to use the kitchen to make a meal, they may have to clean the kitchen first to have access to the pots, pans, and utensils required. They may feel annoyed that you didn’t take responsibility for your mess, which affects your relationship with your roommate. A confrontation may be on the horizon.

However, if you can put yourself in the frame of mind to consider things from your roommate’s position, you might think twice about leaving the dishes. By taking responsibility and doing your part to keep the kitchen clean, you are taking care of the space and your roommates.

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A lot of people find it easier and highly beneficial to do things out of a sense of responsibility for others.[3] Thinking about things from another’s perspective can be a motivating factor and can provide us with feelings of purpose.

5. Look for the Win-Win

When we choose not to take responsibility, we are choosing a zero-sum game, meaning nobody wins. What if you looked for the win-win opportunity of taking responsibility instead?

Maybe there have been times when your roommates have saddled you with a messy kitchen. If you now decide to leave your mess, nobody wins. Whereas, cleaning up after yourself now means that you are modeling how you want the space to be treated by everyone. You are also ensuring that your roommates can trust you to take responsibility for your cleaning tasks, and the next person who wants to use the kitchen will be able to do so.

In this scenario, you will be taking responsibility, cultivating a relationship of trust with your roommates, and making it so that nobody else has to clean up after you. Everyone wins.

6. Make Taking Responsibility Fun

Another vantage point from which we could look is the place of joy. Yes, joy.

It’s easy to paint “cleaning the kitchen” in a negative light when shows are streaming on Netflix and downtime activities calling. But what could happen for you if you made the task of doing the dishes fun?

How can it be fun? This is where you get to be creative.

Some ideas could be playing some of your favorite music as you clean, invite a roommate to chat while you clean, or you could play that show you’re binging on Netflix as you scrub. Have Airpods? Call a friend as you clean!

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Finding a way to make it fun helps you lose track of time and get the job done faster. It could also provide some necessary “play” time. We don’t play enough as adults. Get back to your childhood roots and find ways to incorporate play into your daily routine, and get the dishes done at the same time!

7. Choose Your Own Adventure

When we approach responsibility from our highest self, we can be at choice for how we want to accept it. This requires an awareness of what we intend to accomplish or learn in any life experience.

For instance, when faced with a responsibility, you could consider all the ways of looking at it (from a place of victimhood, blame, forgiveness, service to others, win-win, or fun) and decide which perspective would serve the highest good of all, yourself included.

When we can approach any life situation from the standpoint of having choices, doesn’t that feel better than feeling forced into a decision or action?

Conclusion

Knowing that you can make conscious choices at any time in your life hopefully helps you to feel freer and more energized for any life responsibility you choose to accept. These seven tips on how to accept responsibility will set you up for a good start.

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