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5 Fresh Styles for an Exciting New Year

5 Fresh Styles for an Exciting New Year

Fortune favors the bold, and the bold keep up with existing styles and trends. And guys, it isn’t metro to think about style. You’re competing with some sharp looking dudes on Tinder, Match and Plenty of Fish. It’s time to step up the game.

This is especially true for busy professionals and entrepreneurs. Your style is part of your brand. If you’re still wearing the same clothes you bought at Target three years ago, it’s time for an upgrade. Otherwise, you’re going to stick out like a sore thumb, in a bad way.

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1. Facial Hair is Still In

You can blame it on the Old Spice Deodorant ads, off-camera celebrities, or the glorification of Special Operators getting things done overseas. Beards are everywhere, and it’s been that way for much of the past decade. If you haven’t caught up to the trend, it’s time to start letting your facial hair express who you are with style.

Yes, you’ll have that awkward stubble for a week or two, but there are strategies that can help with growing facial hair more quickly. I was shocked at how the contour of my face was highlighted by a clean-cut beard. And, I started getting a lot more matches on Tinder!

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2. Bathrobes with a Hood?

Okay, I have to admit, when I first saw the hooded bathrobe hit the fashion circuit, I thought it was designed for a boxer about to jump in the ring. It turns out, this is something that is starting to sell for the holidays. And, sitting here at home during a cold winter’s night, I could see the potential value of a hood for my bathrobe. This could be one of those rare moments where fashion and practicality intersect!

3. Pink is the New Black

Vogue is reporting that fans of pink should look forward to the spring/summer catalog. Pink is back and it’s taking no prisoners. Bold, beautiful and perfect for accenting every curve, I look forward to more exciting colors making their way back onto the mean streets.

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4. Emoji’s Have Jumped off the Keyboard and Into the New York Fashion Week

If you’re a lover of fashion, you probably already know that the second week in September is dominated by talk of New York Fashion Week. This year, designers went out of their way to start recreating the emoji’s we’ve come to love. Yes, Emoji-chic is real, and this past year was full of real-life Flamenco Lady Emoji’s.

Ladies, want to make a splash at your New Year’s party? The time has come to embrace your favorite emoji and let your freak flag fly.

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5. Bioluminescence – The Inspiration for the Coolest Tech in Fashion

Okay, at this point Bluetooth and Wi-Fi are old news. The newest technology that’s exploding, both on and off the catwalk, is wearable tech. I use an Apple Watch every day to work out, and Shark Tank recently had a cool pitch from the creators of DrumPants. It turns out that wearable tech is making its way into eye-catching, glowing fashion trends.

2017 might finally be the year where you can make a stunning first impression with glowing smart-garments. Can you imagine the possibilities at your favorite night club? And, if you’re tired of wearing a smartwatch or Fitbit, your sports-bra could be your next heartbeat sensor!

This holiday season is a time for reflection and looking forward to the coming year with optimism and hope. Put your best foot forward by taking some time to assess your wardrobe and boldly hone your personal brand. From glowing garments to hooded bathrobes, next year is shaping up to be an exciting leap in fashion technology!

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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