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How to make decisions from a place of love rather than fear

How to make decisions from a place of love rather than fear

Every day we are faced with making small and large decisions. In a society of unlimited choice, decision making can sometimes leave us feeling exhausted or overwhelmed. So much so, in fact, that we often prefer to streamline the process or rely on others to make decisions for us.

Ultimately, when it comes to choosing what we want to draw in or remove from our lives we either come from a place of fear or love. Fear makes us settle for something we don’t really want, buy things we don’t really need, stay in jobs we don’t really like, and remain in disempowering relationships. In other words, we continue to live smaller than our true potential. Making decisions from love and inner-knowing on the other hand, allows us to live more deep and fulfilling lives full of abundance and joy.

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We’ve all made decisions we regret, that are not in alignment with our principles, and that were hastily made based on emotions or ego. Identifying where your decision-making is coming from at its core, is the first step towards preventing yourself from making decisions that don’t serve the highest good of all.

Here are four core ways we make decisions.

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1. Through our intuition

This is the easiest, smoothest, and most aligned way to make decisions. From this place, decisions can be made quickly and without too much logical thought or analysis. We don’t need to justify these decisions because they just feel right or we know they are right. We may hear a voice inside our heads giving us confirmation or we may have received a vision beforehand. Intuitive decisions come from the heart and a place of love, rather than from our mind or a place of fear.

To access these insights they key is to go within, rather than continue to search outside ourselves for answers. Call it your gut instinct, inner guidance system, or inner guru, making decisions from this place comes from our authentic self. When our lives our driven from our intuition, not only can’t we go wrong, but we also create flow, ease, and miracles.

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2. From a place of fear

Fear drives a lot of decisions as it’s embedded in us to keep us safe. Fear can also be found everywhere we look, in every person, and every place. Making decisions from fear makes us feel restricted, anxious, scared, and keeps us playing small in life. These decisions often stem from a place of lack and are connected to fear of the future or fears from the past. We often regret these decisions as soon as we make them and are not surprised when our predictions come true or we are left with a disappointed feeling. Although some intuitive decisions can also have some fear around them, pure fear-based decisions are made from the mind, with no heart or trust involved.

3. Through others’ influence

When we are not connected to our intuition we can be left feeling confused, overwhelmed, and easily give away our power to others. Although it can be handy to take advice and guidance from others, especially who have achieved what we want to achieve, making decisions purely based on someone else’s opinion can prove to be detrimental. It can leave us feeling regretful, fearful, or even blaming the person afterwards when things don’t go as we wanted. When it comes down to it, we are the only ones that know deep down what is best for us, no other person can give us that insight. All our answers lie within.

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4. By using logic

It can be easy to get logical and somewhat scientific about making decisions based on predictions, hypothesis, or stats. The fact is, there are so many different variables which can affect any type of outcome no matter how predictable it may seem. The power of the mind and energy is so strong that what someone is energetically doing or thinking can affect outcomes even after the action has been taken. Logical decisions also have no heart involved, so often leave you feeling flat, unenthusiastic, and wanting to hold on to control.

The key to making the right decisions that always serve our highest good and the good of all, come from being connected to our inner guidance system and intuition. Once we are aligned to this all-knowing energy, we can take action, trust and surrender. Our action becomes guided and allows us to deliver and receive what is best for us and others. We create miracles and live a life of flow and purpose.

Featured photo credit: Kristina Litvjak via unsplash.com

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What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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