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How to make decisions from a place of love rather than fear

How to make decisions from a place of love rather than fear

Every day we are faced with making small and large decisions. In a society of unlimited choice, decision making can sometimes leave us feeling exhausted or overwhelmed. So much so, in fact, that we often prefer to streamline the process or rely on others to make decisions for us.

Ultimately, when it comes to choosing what we want to draw in or remove from our lives we either come from a place of fear or love. Fear makes us settle for something we don’t really want, buy things we don’t really need, stay in jobs we don’t really like, and remain in disempowering relationships. In other words, we continue to live smaller than our true potential. Making decisions from love and inner-knowing on the other hand, allows us to live more deep and fulfilling lives full of abundance and joy.

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We’ve all made decisions we regret, that are not in alignment with our principles, and that were hastily made based on emotions or ego. Identifying where your decision-making is coming from at its core, is the first step towards preventing yourself from making decisions that don’t serve the highest good of all.

Here are four core ways we make decisions.

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1. Through our intuition

This is the easiest, smoothest, and most aligned way to make decisions. From this place, decisions can be made quickly and without too much logical thought or analysis. We don’t need to justify these decisions because they just feel right or we know they are right. We may hear a voice inside our heads giving us confirmation or we may have received a vision beforehand. Intuitive decisions come from the heart and a place of love, rather than from our mind or a place of fear.

To access these insights they key is to go within, rather than continue to search outside ourselves for answers. Call it your gut instinct, inner guidance system, or inner guru, making decisions from this place comes from our authentic self. When our lives our driven from our intuition, not only can’t we go wrong, but we also create flow, ease, and miracles.

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2. From a place of fear

Fear drives a lot of decisions as it’s embedded in us to keep us safe. Fear can also be found everywhere we look, in every person, and every place. Making decisions from fear makes us feel restricted, anxious, scared, and keeps us playing small in life. These decisions often stem from a place of lack and are connected to fear of the future or fears from the past. We often regret these decisions as soon as we make them and are not surprised when our predictions come true or we are left with a disappointed feeling. Although some intuitive decisions can also have some fear around them, pure fear-based decisions are made from the mind, with no heart or trust involved.

3. Through others’ influence

When we are not connected to our intuition we can be left feeling confused, overwhelmed, and easily give away our power to others. Although it can be handy to take advice and guidance from others, especially who have achieved what we want to achieve, making decisions purely based on someone else’s opinion can prove to be detrimental. It can leave us feeling regretful, fearful, or even blaming the person afterwards when things don’t go as we wanted. When it comes down to it, we are the only ones that know deep down what is best for us, no other person can give us that insight. All our answers lie within.

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4. By using logic

It can be easy to get logical and somewhat scientific about making decisions based on predictions, hypothesis, or stats. The fact is, there are so many different variables which can affect any type of outcome no matter how predictable it may seem. The power of the mind and energy is so strong that what someone is energetically doing or thinking can affect outcomes even after the action has been taken. Logical decisions also have no heart involved, so often leave you feeling flat, unenthusiastic, and wanting to hold on to control.

The key to making the right decisions that always serve our highest good and the good of all, come from being connected to our inner guidance system and intuition. Once we are aligned to this all-knowing energy, we can take action, trust and surrender. Our action becomes guided and allows us to deliver and receive what is best for us and others. We create miracles and live a life of flow and purpose.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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