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6 Things People Who Radiate Warmth And Confidence Do In Common

6 Things People Who Radiate Warmth And Confidence Do In Common

It seems like magic that some people are intoxicating to be with, but actually they have done something (either intentionally or not) to leave this good impression. Some of them are naturally charismatic; some of them had to learn how to be charismatic by integrating tips from others into their daily behavior, but it can be done with no magic involved.

They stand out from the crowd and feel good to be around. They are confident and comfortable. Follow these ten tips to see if you are a natural charmer, or what you can utilize to build up your own confidence and charisma.

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1. They Tell Their Story

Charismatic people have a way of conversing with others that is much more engaging than just small talk. Now I’m not talking about the guy or gal who talk about themselves all day long. These folks are not only cold and vain, but they lack the confidence it takes to be a charmer. Charismatic people share stories about themselves and their lives, but in a way that connect with others; stories that others can relate to. This opens the floor for genuine conversation.

2. They Are Good Listeners

It’s one thing to tell good stories, but it’s another to be a good listener when others are telling their stories as well. They allow others to take the floor and lend a listening ear. They truly engage by making eye contact. They smile. They nod in agreement. They don’t interrupt or over-talk. Their focus is on others too; not just themselves.

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3. They Leave Their Ego at The Door

Charmers aren’t vain. They are open-minded to other people’s thoughts and opinions. They listen without passing judgment. They share without arguing to be right. They stand firm on their beliefs, but value other’s beliefs as well. You don’t have to always agree, but you do have to show a mutual respect.

4. They Ask Questions

They are good storytellers. They are good listeners. But they also take the time to learn about others by asking questions. We all like to talk about ourselves to some extent, but knowing when to pass the microphone so to speak, makes for a more inviting conversation. There won’t be any awkward or uncomfortable silence because there is always a lot we can learn from and about each other by simply asking.

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5. Be Personal

Now I’m not suggesting that charisma is about spewing off your whole life story or your deepest darkest secrets to the first person you meet, but I am suggesting that some intimate depth to conversation is always welcomed. Nobody wants to feel that you are a phony person and being fake in expressing yourself. We all have crazy family stories, embarrassing moments, and first date horrors to share. People will appreciate seeing the “real” you.

6. They Walk The Walk

Charming a room all starts with the way you walk into the room. You won’t get noticed by looking at the floor and tucking yourself away in the nearest corner. Look confident, whether you really feel it or not. Confidence can be found by walking tall, head up. Keep your body light and loose, not rigid and unapproachable.

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We all have the warmth and confidence somewhere within ourselves, and we can all learn how to be charismatic. Utilizing these common tips will help to bring out the best in ourselves, which will then bring out the best in others around us!

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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