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Why Highly Sensitive People Can Draw People To Them Like A Magnet

Why Highly Sensitive People Can Draw People To Them Like A Magnet

There are many advantages of being highly sensitive but one true advantage is the ability to draw people to you and allow them to feel a level of connection with you that they can’t get with other people.

People are able to disclose their true selves to a highly sensitive person and establish solid relationships with them while appreciating their traits and ability to truly be a good friend. With that in mind, here are 6 reasons why highly sensitive people can draw people to them like a magnet:

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1. They Are Sensitive To Others’ Emotions

Highly sensitive people are extremely empathetic with the ability to sense emotions in others and act accordingly. They will often notice other people’s emotions before anyone else does and will want to comfort them in some way. This makes highly sensitive people good to have near when you’re not feeling so good or even to share in your good news. Their ability to put themselves in other people’s shoes means they are highly engaged in conversations and show it well. This makes others love talking to them and feel safe in telling them their thoughts and secrets.

2. They Are Able To See Things From A Different Perspective

With the ability to be deep thinkers, chances are highly sensitive people have thought about a lot of things from different angles. This makes them great people to be able to see things from a different perspective from their own without judgement. Whether this is supporting your own perspective or being able to present another angle to your thinking, conversations with highly sensitive people can be a good way to solve problems in a special, empathetic and thought-provoking way.

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3. They Persevere

We have people in our lives who help us out greatly but once the problem is over, so is the support. Highly sensitive people are more likely to follow up with you and check in with the past problem to make sure nothing is still worrying or bothering you. This thoughtfulness can provide much needed aftercare that many others forget or don’t think to do. This kind of support draws someone more to a highly sensitive person because they go above and beyond when it might not be obvious to do so.

4. Highly Sensitive People Are Conscientious

Highly sensitive people are unlikely to take any actions that would cause harm or distress to anyone. Since they can be easily distressed, their empathetic tendencies come into play once again and the last thing they would want to do is project those feelings onto anyone else. They are also able to think before they speak and carefully and thoughtfully analyse each situation before acting. Thinking ahead and to the consequences and possible outcome of each problem and situation means they never say or do anything to offend people. This always holds them in high esteem by others and allows people to naturally cherish their friendships.

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5. They Don’t Shy Away From Pain

If you find yourself in a painful and emotional situation, many people aren’t able to know what to say or avoid emotional distress altogether but highly sensitive people identify with their own pain on a regular basis and have the experience of how to deal with it. This makes them great people to have as a support network and you know you can easily approach them with difficult life scenarios knowing you won’t be faced with judgement or have them run a mile. Highly sensitive people are experts in this field and offer that perfect shoulder to cry on in your time of need.

6. They Will Cherish You As a Friend

Highly sensitive people don’t take friendships lightly. People who they feel are taking advantage of them or hurt them one time too many, can be cut off quite swiftly. Highly sensitive people cherish the good people in their lives and will do all they can to be a great and supportive friend. In other words, they experience gratitude and appreciation for those who they feel are an asset to their life and this can show in their actions and words, attracting people to them all the more.

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Many highly sensitive people are quite introverted making them seemingly quiet to begin with but they will always be the ones with quality relationships because they have the ability to attract long-lasting friendships worth cultivating with investment and effort.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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